Men who have been uni, when do you expect them to have first child?

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If you know men around their mid 20’s, how many years realistically would you say they are from having their first child? My DS is that age, single and has never lived away from home apart from when he was at uni.

The thought of him having a child even 5 years from now, seems not likely. I was married and had DS by the age of 28.

I’m not bothered if DS doesn’t have children, it’s his choice and his life. Just wondered how many men have kids by the age of 30 if they have been to uni and have a degree?

My DS is 23, uni educated, I’m not expecting GC for many years. He’s enjoying being single faaaaar too much.

I am uni educated and I was 34 when I had my first.

My DH had his first child at 25, the same year he graduated with his PhD.

I had four children between the ages of 25 and 31. My eldest is almost 36, his wife is 28. She wants to wait until she's 33 to have children.

I think being in the 30's is far more common than the 20s these days. They won't be the first in their friend group to have children, but they'll be far from the last too.

I am 30, just married to DH who is 30. We are the second of all our friends to get married - friends age from 29 to 43 now. Of all of us - maybe 35 people - only 2 have had children (neither of the parents did university and none of the children were planned).

Another 3 couples are engaged. None of the university lot seem to be thinking of children yet.

We plan to start trying at 32 and will likely again be among the first in our group. We are in London though which skews older. And we never returned home after university.

I’d expect the same of a young man as a young woman. When they have met a good partner and are happy and decide to start a family together.

My husband was 37. I was 34. We'd been married 5 years by then. Had another one three years later.

University has nothing to do with it. People have kids when they're good and ready.

Exactly.

My husband did a four year sandwich course at a poly :); it later became a university.

He was 30 when he became a father, I was 29 then. It was just right for us and most people we knew at that time were doing the same, give or take a year or two.

I googled and found this: "In the UK, the average age for first-time mothers is now 31, while the average age for fathers is around 33.8 years. The Office for National Statistics" That seems about right from my observation.

I'm not sure what uni has to do with it most friends and family I know it's mid 30s onwards these days. For me 38,39,40 had our kids now Im nearly 41

Early to mid 30s very standard with the odd one starting from mid 20s and some wait til 40 or never...

We were young in our circles at 27. Most of my friends made through DC1 are a good 5-10 years older than me. My school/uni friend’s first children are 4-5 years younger than my eldest. I definitely felt more part of the crowd when I had DC3 at 34.

We are 40 with 6 degrees between us, 3 each . Met at 22 when we had 2 degrees each. We had first child at 25 & second at 27.

Ex and I were 32, 33 and 35. Wish I had had them earlier tbh. Feel I would have been less knackered.

Unsure how this is reasonable or unreasonable
I think early to mid 30s for a first child is the norm. All of my friend’s kids are finally now having offspring and they are in early to mid 30s. I think I read stats or some article recently speaking about the advancing age.

Weird question. Loads do. Loads don’t. Same as men that didn’t go to university.

We met at Uni and had our first when I was 28 and he was 27. We were 32 and 31 with our second as we couldn’t afford two at nursery together.

DH was 35 and 38.

I was 34 and amongst my kids friends a couple are much older only one might be younger.

In my social circle I only know of one man who was under 40 when he had his first DC and he was 37/38.

It wasn’t even a vague consideration for any of them during late 20’s and early 30’s.

Late 30’s, early 40’s in my experience, depending on job role. Don’t stress OP, there is PLENTY of time before your son should even be thinking of this.

36 and 39 for DH. Nct group v similar.

Friends and friends boyfriends are 37-40 and they have no kids yet!

We had ours as graduates ages 30/31. We felt like young parents amongst our peers! I have advised my kids to spend their 20s studying, working, building careers, travelling, maturing, meeting partners, friends etc and leave the procreating till they are 30. I have zero regrets.

Dbrother was 41. Most of his cohort seem the same.

Average paternal age is now mid 30s.

Had first child at 16 and other half was 17 he went to uni at a normal age and I'll go when youngest child starts school

32, we would’ve ideally been late 20s but had fertility problems. But still the youngest out of our university educated friends. We have quite a big circle and there is a clear trend with those who didn’t go to uni having kids much earlier than those who did. Most of our parent friends who hadn’t gone to uni had completed their families by 30 and most uni friends were only starting theirs by 35.