Men who have been uni, when do you expect them to have first child?

[MyPlumKoala]

If you know men around their mid 20’s, how many years realistically would you say they are from having their first child? My DS is that age, single and has never lived away from home apart from when he was at uni.

The thought of him having a child even 5 years from now, seems not likely. I was married and had DS by the age of 28.

I’m not bothered if DS doesn’t have children, it’s his choice and his life. Just wondered how many men have kids by the age of 30 if they have been to uni and have a degree?

32 for our first, 34 for the second. We were some of the earliest of our friend groups, most of DH’s friends will be late 30s.

Most of my friends seem to have donethings in the same order - graduate, buy a house, get married, then think about children. All taking 10+ years to get through!

How long is a piece of string? Dh and I met when he was 21 (and in uni). We got married when he was 24 and had our first child when he was 25.

I personally think that’s very young. For us, it worked very well and we are happily married 17 years now with 2 dc. But I sure wouldn’t want any of my children getting married and having babies that young. Our families must have been cringing behind the scenes even though they were very supportive of us (and our relationship has stood the test of time compared to others in the family).

son's fiance's sis and brother-in-law are due to have their first in October. They're 31.

Not before 30, I would say mid 30s but he may also never have children.

My DH graduated at maybe 24 I think (had started working first and then didn’t part time alongside). Married at 27 (nearly 28), DC1 at 30 and DC2 at 33. However we had been together since he was 18.

In our circle it was mid 30s- mid 40s with the women being a bit younger and having kids up until 40.

I think mid to late 30s is normal for graduates. I'm way past babies but my younger colleagues are usually that age.

My husband and I both went TO university. We were married at 22, first child at 26, second at 28 and celebrate our river wedding anniversary next year

Dh and i met at university. He was 24 when we graduated and got married, 26 when ds was born.

My db (and dw bothCambridge grads) had first child at 26 and 4th at 34.

According to govt data sources, it's 33.7 for UK men generally (rising). I would have thought the cost of housing in the area the man and his wife/partner live in, and their religion and ethnicity, might be more relevant than how educated they are.

More educated people typically have children later than less educated. People also have children later on average now than in the past.

DH and I (qualified professionals) were 38 and 32.
My parents (left school at 15) were 30 and 26.
My PIL (educated professionals) were both around 36.

I'm 29.

Plenty of men I went to uni with have had DCs in their 20s. I'd expect several more to have them in their 30s. None had any whilst at uni, to my knowledge. I think the youngest was 23.

I work in an industry where all the men have gone to uni - I know a lot of men in their 30s who haven't got DCs. I know a few in their 40s... I'd say, by their 50s they all do... I think. One was 48 when he had his first - I only know because he mentioned being knackered and wishing he'd done the sleepless nights when his back wasn't aching already.

Obviously, no idea whether some have kids or not though.

Most of my friends seem to have done things in the same order - graduate, buy a house, get married, then think about children. All taking 10+ years to get through!

We had kids before house - but had saved bulk of house deposit waiting on job stablity to buy- married but our familes weren't pleased we were still renting - they felt we'd done it wrong.

However it did take a decade - from meeting knowing we wanted kids - finishing our education and starting careers - very small wedding we paid for - to first pg.

I think it may be taking longer now - especially the house buying though that depends on where in UK you are.

Our son went to uni and had his first child when he was 27.

There is a strong correlation between level of education and the age at which someone becomes a parent for the first time. So it's quite a relevant factor.

Everyone is different so I don’t think you’re going to really get answers about what your son will end up doing.

Im 36 and my boyfriend is 26 (we both went to uni) and I am currently due to give birth any day.
However, my male friends my age… some had ch in their early 30s (well, 33, 34, 35 sort of age). Others are now 38/39 and still aren’t ready.

So it’s a total mix!

Normal for middle class boys/men now is 30-40. I have a few friends being messed around by 37/38 year old men who ‘still aren’t sure what they want from the future’

My dad went to uni after my older brother was born! He was 38 when DB arrived, and 39 when he started first year. Dad's ten years older than Mum (who went to uni straight from school). My brother didn't go to uni then had his first child when he was 33.

Most of my friends went to uni and have had children at anything from ages 25 through to 50. It all depends on when they met someone!

My husband was 41.

The official 2024 stats have just been published this week. The average age of a first time father was 33 and that wasn’t taking into account education level.

45 to fifty

Most men I know in my circle of friends and my husband included were over 40 when they had kids

DH went to Uni, we had our first together when he was 33.

I had my first at 23, his Dad was 21. Neither of us went to Uni.

Early thirties but it varies. What does going to uni have to do with it? That's usually finished at 22.