to think that DP should not be buying a new BMW 1-series on finance while I have a shitty 10 year old Saxo that falls to bits if you look at it?

[giraffeski]

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Sorry to be blunt, but is he totally committed to the whole package, of family life ??

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I don't agree with buying cars on finance but if he can afford it, and you'll be getting one yourself when you qualify then I don't really think it's that bad.

yabu

buy your own car - with your own money - ultimately much more satisfying

Another thing is that new cars are probably cheaper to run than older cars anyway. And if his car is due to be replaced then is there really any point replacing it with an old one that might come with big bills. I don't think YABU though,

i am very ignorant in cars but it does seem mad to buy a new one. don't they depreciate by squillions?

have never understood why pepole would want a new car, surely it is much better second owner??

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Buying a new car is such a waste of money - he could buy a nearly-new with good fuel economy for a lot less (I got a 9-month old car with 3-year 0% finance from Vauxhall a few years back).

It would make a lot more sense to buy 2 cheaper cars - 1 each - for that kind of money. He wants that car though, doesn't he?

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i have learned that sometimes these things need to happen giraffe, dh is so wistful for a new car but we are barely managing to insure this one so not very realistic.

if your dh can properly account for how he will pay for this then you should let it go. but only if. (like no new shoes and home haircuts and he never eats meat again, not you don't get a car or a holiday).

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oh sorry i should have said not a new car, just one which is fresher than ours. it is 15.

How staggeringly selfish.
Unbelievable the stories on reads about men on MN.

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I have never in my life bought a car on finance. SO, at the moment I cant afford a car, and I am borrowing my sisters car.

(we sold our car in london for mere 5k, same car here costs 20k at same specs, year and mileage)

I am dreaming of either a brand spanking new Honda CRV, or a Toyota Landcruiser (totally necessary around here with more smow than most of you have seen together, and slipper hills)But I know, that realistically, it will be a second hand Skoda. I refuse to buy a car on finance.

YANBU.

You should BOTH be able to get decent cars for that amount. Better fuel economy all round. And the BMW is not really one for fuel economy, though?

What Green Car cheapest cars to run - could you go through this with him and see if there's a good compromise in there?

(The 1-series is in the top 50 but there will be equivalent cars which are much cheaper to buy)

Blimey Quatt. Would you say that to your DH?

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I would be a bit annoyed but tbh the bmw 1-series isnt that expensive. You can pick them up for about 10k and they are very reliable. Dh had one for about a year and loved it.

It is a little give and take. Quattro I think.

When I was a student my dh was the one earning the money. We both had what we needed. Then I got a job (very well paid, it put me into the high income tax bracket for years to come) and my dh started a company and I funded our living for a few years. He did want an Audi TT, but I put my foot down on that. I have always had the opinion that you dont buy what you cant afford outright.
BUT when you are a couple, you cant just look at what YOU want, you have to look out for the intersts of you both. I stopped working for my high earning job and joined our own compnay full time, so now we struggle on a tiny salary, but that is fine, we are not in debt and "my money is your money".

Well you know me - diehard for standing on one's own feet - he sounds like he is the one doing most of the financial supporting - so probably doing quite a lot of giving -

I buy my own cars without any interference help from my DH - and that's kind of nice.