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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/08/2025 10:23

@Birdy1982

exactly !

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Jemblue101 · 08/08/2025 10:59

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/08/2025 10:22

but remember your issue re your tenant's laundry wasn't just that he wasn't hanging out outside on hot sunny days / drying it in his bedroom and not always opening the window

but that he also left it in the washing machine drum too long

you got pretty snippy with the replies on that thread too...

You again bro! 😂

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/08/2025 11:10

and you again with your false accusations...

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Jemblue101 · 08/08/2025 11:26

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/08/2025 11:10

and you again with your false accusations...

As much as I'm sure you'd love that little dopamine hit of me arguing with you online, not today. Try a different thread to criticise someone, you might get lucky?

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Fountofwisdom · 08/08/2025 11:39

YABU. The lodger doesn’t sound like he has done anything wrong, other than a minor damage, and these things happen. The underlying issue is clearly with your MH and that you don’t want anyone in your space, not an issue with this lodger in particular. You have only 8 weeks to see out, which will actually go very quickly.

I think it’s unfair to expect him to move again for a very short-term rental when he clearly has something else planned once the original 4 months have elapsed. It is horribly unsettling to have to keep moving several times within a few months, through no fault of his own.

I think you should suck it up, honour the agreement you made, and think of something nice to treat yourself to with the rent once he leaves.

Aout25 · 08/08/2025 13:30

Babyboomtastic · 08/08/2025 09:59

There's zero indication he's in any way scary. The OP hasn't even posted that he's annoying. She was grumpy a couple of weeks ago because She didn't like how that he drying his clothes inside in his room rather than on the washing line outside. So quibbling about the minutiae of laundry and one unspecified minor accident in the bathroom is all we know.

It sounds as if the op has come to the realisation that having a lodger is not for her, being anything actually wrong with this guy's behaviour.

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I didn't say her lodger was scary 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️or even annoying. Try reading the post I was replying to & reading it in context.

Regardless of anything, the OP can ask him to leave, they don't have a contract. He has family in the area & there are plenty of rooms to rent.

That's all that matters, she can give him a weeks notice & he won't be homeless.

& by-the-by it would really piss me off if someone was drying clothes inside on an airer when it was nice weather & an outside line was available. No need to put moisture into the walls.

Aout25 · 08/08/2025 13:36

Fountofwisdom · 08/08/2025 11:39

YABU. The lodger doesn’t sound like he has done anything wrong, other than a minor damage, and these things happen. The underlying issue is clearly with your MH and that you don’t want anyone in your space, not an issue with this lodger in particular. You have only 8 weeks to see out, which will actually go very quickly.

I think it’s unfair to expect him to move again for a very short-term rental when he clearly has something else planned once the original 4 months have elapsed. It is horribly unsettling to have to keep moving several times within a few months, through no fault of his own.

I think you should suck it up, honour the agreement you made, and think of something nice to treat yourself to with the rent once he leaves.

He's a short term lodger, he shoulda't have much to move, there are plenty of rooms available to let. Mountains out of molehills.

Loulabelle1234 · 09/08/2025 13:05

Give him notice, he's damaged your property so I would use that as the reason. Don't feel bad x

GilmoreGirly86 · 09/08/2025 13:18

Goodness me, OP, why bother posting when you only want people to agree with you? Your attitude is appalling, I can only imagine from your tone how you treat this guy and how on edge he feels in what is supposed to be his home. What you are doing is morally wrong and you know it, you just don't like the truth of it. You have taken a huff because the guy - who is paying to have a home to live in for four months - is actually LIVING there, going about his day doing his washing, etc, and didn't tell you about a minor breakage, so you're going to go back on your agreement and leave him with nowhere to go. I'd hazard a guess that YOU make HIM feel incredibly uncomfortable with your control freak ways (hence why he didn't tell you about the damage!)

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 09/08/2025 13:42

Tel him to leave

in the future don’t take in a lodger if you think you can’t ask them to leave by yourself

mcmooberry · 09/08/2025 13:49

If the damage would wipe out a whole month's rent to repair then I would understand your annoyance, it's not clear.
Personally I would just put up with him for an extra 3 weeks but ensure notice is given in time. Usually lodgers are the ones to stay in their rooms/not use the living room so maybe that wasn't made clear enough initially?

Houseofpainjumparound · 09/08/2025 15:48

Perhaps have an honest conversation about how you aren't coping living with someone else, and you know he has 8 weeks and wouldn't ask him to leave sooner but if he does find somewhere sooner you would refund him the rent for number of weeks he doesnt have the room

the5thgoldengirl · 09/08/2025 16:46

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ThisZanyPinkSquid · 09/08/2025 18:33

What was the damage? Was it something accidental and he hadn’t noticed or something obvious he was worried to tell you about?

I am sensing from your post replies that you have anxiety possibly ND. so are you struggling with them being in your house because of the damage or just the fact it is someone else in your house?

Also are they friends or family? Or some random?

I think you need to see through your end of the deal but have a chat with them about what is bothering you.

PluckyChancer · 09/08/2025 18:50

If this was a boyfriend who’d moved in and the OP decided it wasn’t working out, NO-ONE would berate her for wanting him to leave asap.

In fact, they’d probably be telling her to get a male friend in to help move him out and change the locks.

I think giving him a week’s notice is perfectly reasonable.

If you’re lodging in someone’s house, it’s up to you to be as accommodating as possible and not the other way around!!

When I moved to a new area for work and was lodging, I made sure that I did not inconvenience my landlady in the slightest and that I was a considerate guest.

Cheeky19863 · 09/08/2025 23:23

Jemblue101 · 07/08/2025 16:11

I'm not booting him out, I'm giving him a month which is also what you get as a tenant when renting somewhere.

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Cant you just stick it out for an extra 4 weeks? Its very unfair to kick him out and expect him to move all his stuff and find somewhere else just for 1 month. The problem sounds more like its you than him. For the sake of 4 weeks i would do the decent thing and stand by the agreement you had with him

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Jemblue101 · 10/08/2025 10:38

GilmoreGirly86 · 09/08/2025 13:18

Goodness me, OP, why bother posting when you only want people to agree with you? Your attitude is appalling, I can only imagine from your tone how you treat this guy and how on edge he feels in what is supposed to be his home. What you are doing is morally wrong and you know it, you just don't like the truth of it. You have taken a huff because the guy - who is paying to have a home to live in for four months - is actually LIVING there, going about his day doing his washing, etc, and didn't tell you about a minor breakage, so you're going to go back on your agreement and leave him with nowhere to go. I'd hazard a guess that YOU make HIM feel incredibly uncomfortable with your control freak ways (hence why he didn't tell you about the damage!)

Morally wrong! Do you hear yourself.

I think some people need a serious reality check about actual problems in the world. Getting a months notice as a lodger isn't one of them.

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Cherrysoup · 10/08/2025 10:45

Give the notice. I think a month is more than enough. As you heard the noise of the damage being done, it’s clear that he also knew then didn’t tell you, pretty shocking. This is not his ‘home’ as some pp have said, it’s a temporary lodging. He has few rights as a lodger.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 10/08/2025 11:28

'I think some people need a serious reality check about actual problems in the world. Getting a months notice as a lodger isn't one of them.'

but you have written a thread on it ?!!!

and here is a line from your opening post:

' I want to give him notice now to leave a month early (he will have a month notice) am I out of order? '

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 10/08/2025 11:30

and it's now 3 days since you started your thread, have you spoken to him and given him his notice ?

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Jemblue101 · 10/08/2025 13:26

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 10/08/2025 11:28

'I think some people need a serious reality check about actual problems in the world. Getting a months notice as a lodger isn't one of them.'

but you have written a thread on it ?!!!

and here is a line from your opening post:

' I want to give him notice now to leave a month early (he will have a month notice) am I out of order? '

A light thread asking for advice on handling a tricky situation is very different to a terrible moral dilemma that makes me 'deeply immoral'

As I said, serious reality check required

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Blondeshavemorefun · 10/08/2025 14:13

Did he sign a 4mth contract ? You are going back on your agreement

think the best thing is to say to him that you won’t be renewing the lease due to reliesing you want to live alone

but if he finds somewhere sooner that you won’t hold him to the signed contract

RobinStrike · 10/08/2025 16:06

So what has happened? Have you given him notice?

GilmoreGirly86 · 11/08/2025 02:40

Jemblue101 · 10/08/2025 13:26

A light thread asking for advice on handling a tricky situation is very different to a terrible moral dilemma that makes me 'deeply immoral'

As I said, serious reality check required

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Yes, morally wrong. And you know it is, hence why you posted in the first place. If you didn't at least have a niggling doubt that what you were doing was wrong, you wouldn't have posted. What you wanted was people to tell you that it's okay to treat people that way but it hasn't gone your way so your true colours have come out. You say you feel stuck but you hold the power (another thing you know, and are taking advantage of) but HE is stuck in a horribly uncomfortable situation with nowhere else to go, and stuck with YOU.

BeenzManeenz · 12/08/2025 15:50

Jemblue101 · 08/08/2025 10:04

I have already said I'm not going to put details online, so that is all you will know, and as I said at the time, the quibble as you call it was discussed and agreed before he moved in, so just because damp is no issue for you doesn't mean others are cool with completely avoidable mould and mildew. But that had nothing do to with this decision.

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But you are already putting the details online by repeatedly posting here! What do you want people to say when you're leaving out half a story?

Legally you're within your rights to ask him to leave, if that's what you want then do it. Not sure what you are expecting from this thread?

Unless he is creepy or abusive in some way you've been a bit immature here. Don't get another lodger if you're this sensitive. Yes it's your home, but don't rent it out without thinking about the consequences. It's just a bit shitty.