Asking lodger to leave early

[Jemblue101]

Hi all, I have a lodger and he originally said we wanted somewhere for 4 months, has now been just over 2 but I'm finding it really stressful and I can't relax in my own home. There has also been some minor damage in the bathroom.

I want to give him notice now to leave a month early (he will have a month notice) am I out of order?

I've given it a chance and took the lodger out of financial desperation. But hate it. Equally it might then become awkward for the final month :(

@Jemblue101

What is / was the ' damage ' in the bathroom

and are the boundary issues to do with him drying his laundry in the bedroom and not wanting to peg it outside on warm dry sunny days.

You are a bloke who likes trolling? Am I right?

@Jemblue101

No been here for almost 2 years, shown my kitten photos on a litter tray thread and have given no reason ever to suggest I am not a woman.

Indeed you could do an advanced search if you haven't already, and you will find where I went to school in the 60's / where I currently work etc. and most folks here could prob work out exactly where I live and where I walk my dogs.

It's tricky because you risk an awkward notice period but equally it's your home and I do think 8 weeks with someone is a long time when it's stressing you out this much.

Is there a good excuse you could come up that doesn't pin it on him?

I have no interest in researching a troll. But I'm sure your spiteful little comment made you feel good for a few minutes

Well, that was suggested to the OP on the second page and I’m bewildered why the OP feels the need to give any more ‘proof’ that she’s perfectly at liberty to do as she pleases.

When you say he planned to stay for 4 months does this mean at the end of the 4 months he is moving to another city or has somewhere else to stay? Because that would make a difference. If he then would only have a month left that would make it very hard for him to find another place to stay, whereas if he’s staying in the same place then it just means he looks elsewhere a bit sooner.

Ive had a think and have decided I can deal with awkwardness if there is an end close in sight.

I don't know, but they have family here so they will have options, and there are loads of short term lodger adverts on spareroom.

Well, presumably it didn’t come as a shock that that’s what was going to happen!
Yes, the OP isn’t enjoying it and will be well within her rights not to take in another lodger. But to make someone homeless with one week’s notice - as suggested by a previous poster - is mental! A commitment is a commitment, especially when it’s only for a few weeks.

Good for you, OP. This is just one of life’s learning experiences and you will get through it.

To quote someone famous...

Who told you life was going to be fair?

I've travelled a lot. Worked in random places. Ended up with a 2.5 hour commute to work (walk/bus/train/bus/bus/walk) when my local (to the job) accommodation abruptly ended, sometimes accommodation doesn't work out. If you're just taking short term accommodation without a contract you travel light & remain aware things can change quickly (on either side)

The homeowners needs come first 🙅🏻‍♀️

We’ll agree to disagree. I would see it through for the few weeks remaining, and chalk it up to experience.

Give him a week’s notice and get him out. As you said, he has family nearby and there are loads of rooms available near you. Make it clear he’s to be gone by Friday!

Let us know how it goes, OP

This. Just do it.

Depending on what the lodger was like (just annoying or actually scary) I probably would too. But that doesn't mean I think the OP needs to if it's affecting her this badly.

Definitely a weeks notice then, just think if you do it today, by next Sunday you'll have the place back to yourself.

No, it's not 'mental'. He has family in the area & plenty of rooms on spare room. He can easily move in a week.

Tell him he doesn’t need to stay the month but can leave early if he finds somewhere sooner.

There's zero indication he's in any way scary. The OP hasn't even posted that he's annoying. She was grumpy a couple of weeks ago because She didn't like how that he drying his clothes inside in his room rather than on the washing line outside. So quibbling about the minutiae of laundry and one unspecified minor accident in the bathroom is all we know.

It sounds as if the op has come to the realisation that having a lodger is not for her, being anything actually wrong with this guy's behaviour.

I have already said I'm not going to put details online, so that is all you will know, and as I said at the time, the quibble as you call it was discussed and agreed before he moved in, so just because damp is no issue for you doesn't mean others are cool with completely avoidable mould and mildew. But that had nothing do to with this decision.

Big girl pants on …
tell him you won’t be extending the lodger agreement past the 4 months & if he could find somewhere before then that would be great

'Some' female lodgers could be the wrong ones too. I.e I interviewed several before ending up with my current one, (who is respectful etc.) I had drug addicts, those with severe MH issues coming to my door. I was very careful who I said yes to. I only offer a six month rolling contract that can be terminated early for unreasonable behaviour. NB I have been a life long renter who is now fortunate to have my own home.

but remember your issue re your tenant's laundry wasn't just that he wasn't hanging out outside on hot sunny days / drying it in his bedroom and not always opening the window

but that he also left it in the washing machine drum too long

you got pretty snippy with the replies on that thread too...