I don’t even know how to word this…
A bit of context, me, DH and two DD (3 and 8mo) - the question is about my mum. I sometimes wish she was more… I don’t know ‘regular’ ‘present’ I don’t know if I’ve got a ‘TV’ or ‘social media’ perception of what mums should be like but is this typical behaviour…
Mum is never predictable sometimes she loves having eldest DD over for tea sometimes she will make excuses. We don’t ask for childcare and pay all the nursery expenses ourselves. We wanted nanny to be able to have nanny time when she wanted.
She changes her mind a lot! Over everything Monday she’s buying the purple couch, Tuesday it’ll be the red couch etc. The following week she’s painting her house cream, then it’s blue - this is just an example it’s something new every week. She’s very unpredictable.
Sometimes she’s critical of an item we buy next week it’ll be “that’s a good idea.” Over the same item.
I never feel I know which mum will arrive sometimes she’s chilled and you can have a conversation with her. Other times she is is quite manic over nothing - when she’s like this she’s plays crazy games with the toddler who gets herself so worked up and often hurts herself.
When we go out together and I talk about the kids she doesn’t seem interested. I get no one likes to hear anyone harp on about the children but she’s there Nan I thought it was different?
We include her in days out and I take her out for lunch as mother and daughter but she is always suggesting me and her do more, like drinking (I don’t want a hangover) or more lunches - it’s hard with two little kids.
I don’t always feel like she listens to me. I can be telling her a story and when I finish she’ll start talking about something completely random or she will interrupt me when I am talking. Maybe I am just boring?
I guess I just want a more predictable mother so I know what to expect, who I feel enjoys listening to stories about her DGD am I living in a fantasy world?