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Sex and The City

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Theteenandme · 04/08/2025 13:40

I've never watched it before (apart from half the episode where Carrie loses her shoes and is a bitch about it). Its absolutely awful and such bad acting!

Did people really like it originally? Or was it one of those things people said they liked because they thought they should?

I dont think it's just looking at it through modern eyes. I cant imagine I would have thought much of it at the time either.

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outlanderish · 04/08/2025 17:24

I loved SATC and still do. It's my go to binge watch when I'm feeling down. It was hugely controversial at the time and I'm not being made to feel bad because I like it but the new AJLT is utterly awful. Tried watching it and it was far too woke.

3678194b · 04/08/2025 17:27

I always thought they were at bit muttony in dress sense. And saw them as middle aged at the time. And couldn't understand why women at that age were all single.

Speaking as a young adult that is.

JHound · 04/08/2025 17:28

OtherS · 04/08/2025 16:08

I watched them at the time, but never liked any of the characters. Can't stand Carrie, always found her really cringey. And none of the relationships made much sense to me, either the romantic ones or the friendships. Why would Steve want Miranda? Why would Baryshnikov want Carrie? Why would Charlotte be friends with Samantha, or vice versa? Didn't much like any of the clothes either tbh. But it was pretty watchable, and only short episodes. There probably was also an element of it being such a big deal it would be weird to not watch it. Haven't watched any of the reboot though as it looks dreadful.

Why would either of those men want the women they ended up with?

JHound · 04/08/2025 17:31

DiggingHoles · 04/08/2025 16:10

I know, that's what makes it especially baffling. She decided on a whim to have a baby, even though she told Carrie minutes before that she hardly even had time to schedule the abortion.

I just don't buy that women decide on whim to have a baby if they have a surprise pregnancy. Even posts on here confirm this. Some posters come on here saying that could never have an abortion and so never even schedule one.

But Miranda is completely sure at the beginning of the episode that she does not want to continue the pregnancy and then decides during her appointment to make a life-changing decisions like having a baby. It's out of character.

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She did not seem completely sure. She seemed uncertain as to how a baby would fit in.

I don’t find her change of mind any more surprising than I find it surprising that some of my most stridently childfree acquaintances are now mothers. It was unplanned to a man she was not with so considering a termination is to be expected.

JHound · 04/08/2025 17:35

OtherS · 04/08/2025 16:21

Yeah, but I find that weird. If you meet a friend's friend and you have loads in common and get on really well, you might form a group with them both. But if you have nothing in common and are seemingly opposed on all your views and beliefs, why would you keep hanging around them? Surely you'd be polite if you were ever both at an event with your mutual pal, but that would be the extent of the relationship. You wouldn't spend half your life hanging out with them, you'd usually hang out with other friends and probably be a bit irritated if your mate kept inviting her weird posse to lunch with you both. Yet we never see any of them having any other friends. Maybe because they're all so unlikeable?!

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The only different views they have are on sex.

Apart from that you can still get on. I was a super whore when younger and one of my closest friends is very catholic and did not believe in sex before marriage.

We still get on like a house on fire. Also Charlotte did spend much time with just her and Samantha.

JHound · 04/08/2025 17:38

3678194b · 04/08/2025 17:27

I always thought they were at bit muttony in dress sense. And saw them as middle aged at the time. And couldn't understand why women at that age were all single.

Speaking as a young adult that is.

And couldn't understand why women at that age were all single.

LOL! 😂

Dear God!

SpaceRaccoon · 04/08/2025 17:40

But you have to understand that lots of American men are circumcised, not just Jewish men.

Indeed, but the rates have dramatically dropped since that episode aired - and for European eyes, the horror at an uncircumsized penis was always odd.

TenaciousDeeds · 04/08/2025 17:54

It’s weird - when I think back to the other iconic series I loved at the time, like Friends and Frasier, they’re almost timeless (ok they’re half hour comedies), but SATC just seems so cringe and dated now.

Tagyoureit · 04/08/2025 17:58

I loved it when it came out. Was happy to receive the box set and usually had it on as background noise.

Then when AJLT was coming out, i rewatched the series and the films.

Carrie is just so selfish, self absorbed that it was actually cringey watching some of it.

Vitrolinsanity · 04/08/2025 19:19

I don’t think we were supposed to love Carrie; I always saw her as a cautionary tale whereas even Charlotte had a game plan and was a genuine friend. Also the funeral flowers for Miranda’s mother was comedy hold.

i watched it in real time; everyone I knew modelled themselves on Miranda and Samantha Jones.

NoSoupForU · 04/08/2025 19:21

I don't know. I thought it was shit then and I think its shit now. But I'm sure lots of people think some of the things I enjoy watching are equally shit.

We all like and appreciate different things.

AleaEim · 04/08/2025 19:43

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/08/2025 15:24

Agree

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I agree but I was responding to the PP who said nobody has done it since.

AleaEim · 04/08/2025 19:45

outlanderish · 04/08/2025 17:24

I loved SATC and still do. It's my go to binge watch when I'm feeling down. It was hugely controversial at the time and I'm not being made to feel bad because I like it but the new AJLT is utterly awful. Tried watching it and it was far too woke.

They tried to be woke but did it very badly which made it unwoke.

Coffeeishot · 04/08/2025 19:54

JHound · 04/08/2025 14:22

Yes! I mean SATC has always been weird in its portrayal of ethnic minorities - I will never forget that episode where Samantha had a black boyfriend, but they amped the cringe up in SATC 2 and really did a terrible job with Samantha’s character.

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It was just awful they really did kim a disservice, and I think it stems from Samantha being such a popular character.

Blueuggboots · 04/08/2025 19:57

I loved it when I watched it years ago, but I will not watch AJLT because it’s woke virtue signalling twaddle.
someone on here explained it as going to see old friends who you loved and realising they’re twats now.
I don’t think it has aged well.

autienotnaughty · 04/08/2025 19:57

I enjoyed the films and had seen the odd random episode (including the shoes one) I tried to watch from the start but I found it quite boring so gave up.

CatKings · 04/08/2025 20:29

I couldn’t watch the new stuff because I loathed Che.

I rewatched it a few years ago - in my youth I loved Carrie and Charlotte and as an adult it was Samantha and Miranda. I hate what they did to Miranda’s character.

It’s a horrible example of wasting your life over a man who doesn’t care for you. But then it’s okay because he gets over it and you get all his money. The whole wedding thing was ridiculous. Then the Russian who also treats you like shit, but he’s also rich.

At least with Girls it fully accepts the flaws of the characters and they aren’t meant to be aspirational.

Anjo2011 · 04/08/2025 20:36

I loved the original episodes. With few exceptions, the original of most things will always be the best. The original SATC I loved, the new ones just couldn’t replicate the magic, especially when one of the main characters is no longer there (Samantha.)

Vitrolinsanity · 04/08/2025 20:51

I think that Kim C played a blinder after the horror of SATC 2, for which I hope at least she trousered serious cash. Like Samantha, she fucked off to London to be utterly fabulous.

StrawberrySquash · 04/08/2025 21:06

TenaciousDeeds · 04/08/2025 17:54

It’s weird - when I think back to the other iconic series I loved at the time, like Friends and Frasier, they’re almost timeless (ok they’re half hour comedies), but SATC just seems so cringe and dated now.

There's a whole mini industry in trotting out articles about why Friends is problematic and why Ross is the worst.

BoldBlueZebra · 04/08/2025 21:27

It was of it’s time. Like so many things viewed in retrospect is just disappointing and puzzling as to why it was so popular to begin with. I never did think the relationship with big was a good choice and they should never have written that to go as far as it did it was completely toxic. I also have hated AJLT and the whole aiden thing completely hideous

HeadNorth · 04/08/2025 21:38

StrawberrySquash · 04/08/2025 21:06

There's a whole mini industry in trotting out articles about why Friends is problematic and why Ross is the worst.

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Yes, Ross is the Carrie of Friends - people just love to hate his character. There’s loads of stuff written about how Friends is dated and ‘problematic’.

Charabanc · 04/08/2025 21:42

GoneGirl12345 · 04/08/2025 15:48

I think it was calling the transwomen half woman half man, several times that shocked me. I don't think anyone on either side of the trans debate would find that acceptable now!

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Indeed. Because transwomen are all man, not half man.

Except, as I recall, it was drag queens on SATC, not trans identified men. I loved that party on the roof.

x2boys · 04/08/2025 22:02

CatKings · 04/08/2025 20:29

I couldn’t watch the new stuff because I loathed Che.

I rewatched it a few years ago - in my youth I loved Carrie and Charlotte and as an adult it was Samantha and Miranda. I hate what they did to Miranda’s character.

It’s a horrible example of wasting your life over a man who doesn’t care for you. But then it’s okay because he gets over it and you get all his money. The whole wedding thing was ridiculous. Then the Russian who also treats you like shit, but he’s also rich.

At least with Girls it fully accepts the flaws of the characters and they aren’t meant to be aspirational.

They got rid of Che thankfully and the third series is OK imo but not a patch on SATC

x2boys · 05/08/2025 00:48

They should never have made Big the love of Carrie's life he just wasent that into her.if he was he wouldn't have spent six seasons.messing her around