Would this put you off?

[SunnyDaisyy]

If someone you have been dating, tried to turn the conversation sexual. And then said he would like to send me some videos of him. He said he wants me to give him 'instructions' of what to do on the videos?

eewww yuk

Come on OP get with it. Of course it’s weird and off putting- to put it mildly. If you cant grasp this fact yourself maybe you shouldn’t be dating
yet

I don't think it matters whether it would put other people off. There are some people who are never going to be open to that type of a conversation, and that's fine. There are people who would be open to it if the conversation naturally goes that way, and that's fine.

But if he tried to turn the conversation sexual and you didn't imply that you were into it and he continued then yes, that's icky.

Absolutely. End of. I could just about cope with the first sentence "someone I was dating tried to turn the conversation sexual" (and only just if I had not shown a modicum of enthusiasm for the same) - but the rest, no. Just no. You don't need to go out with a blaze of glory or over-explain, just move quietly on.

Oh no, I’d absolutely love that!

*said no self respecting woman ever

It would depend how long we had been dating and what the conversation was like immediately prior.

If we has never been sexually intimate before though the bit about the videos would be a massive turn-off.

Men need to realise the majority of women aren't interested in watching them wank, not on video.

Still, at least he's asking.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, if it doesn't work for you, that's all you need to know.