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AIBU to think I’m being shafted?

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Ambernectarine22 · 03/08/2025 22:00

My partner and I are in our 50s and don’t live together. I have ‘enough’ money and he has considerably more than me. We share the cost of our meals out, trips away etc 50/50 but… when we go out for a meal or go to the pub he always has more to eat/drink than me. (2 or 3 pints and a starter or a couple of side dishes, for example.) Should I speak to him about this (awkward!) or am I being mean?

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Ambernectarine22 · 06/08/2025 19:40

@Notsosure1 He claims to be unaware that there is a discrepancy in our various consumption. If I regularly had more than him I wonder if he would be so unaware!!

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Notsosure1 · 06/08/2025 19:50

Ambernectarine22 · 06/08/2025 19:40

@Notsosure1 He claims to be unaware that there is a discrepancy in our various consumption. If I regularly had more than him I wonder if he would be so unaware!!

I think an experiment is in order 🤔👀

Todayismyfavouriteday · 06/08/2025 20:39

Definitely stingy. I'd think twice about moving in with him or sharing anything that involves money, with someone like him... Keep your eyes open!

Enrichetta · 06/08/2025 21:19

unaware that there is a discrepancy in our various consumption… yeah, right. He is dissembling - proceed with caution,@Ambernectarine22

Someone2025 · 06/08/2025 21:46

Ambernectarine22 · 06/08/2025 19:40

@Notsosure1 He claims to be unaware that there is a discrepancy in our various consumption. If I regularly had more than him I wonder if he would be so unaware!!

He’s lying, everyone keeps an eye on these things, if it was a one off he could probably be excused for not noticing but as you said this happens time and time again

Hopingtobeaparent · 06/08/2025 22:30

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 03/08/2025 22:01

Next time, just say you’re going to pay for what you’ve ordered. If he objects, you’re being shafted.

This.

Hopingtobeaparent · 06/08/2025 22:37

Sharingaroomtinightthen · 04/08/2025 22:17

I wouldn’t quibble about splitting the bill for the sake of a couple of pints.

It all adds up, & he’s more wealthy.

OP, he probably just hasn’t given it any thought.

Have the conversation and work out a fairer agreement.

Ambernectarine22 · 06/08/2025 22:58

Thank you, all of you. He’s a pretty good person - straightforward and loyal - and the various responses on here show that this is an emotive subject. We have had a conversation about it and agreed that in future we will split the bill according to who’s had what. (And I will be doing the maths!)

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