To ask neighbour to close curtains

[Handrearedmagpie]

First of all, I know IABU. It's more a question of HOW unreasonable.
My young DS is autistic, non speaking and has a severe learning disability. Meltdowns are triggered by sudden changes like adverts on the TV. Neighbour diagonally across street from me has very large windows and an ENORMOUS TV. Never shuts her curtains/blinds so DS can watch her TV from our house and fixates on it when his own tablet is removed before bedtime.
Every. Single. Night. It's meltdown when adverts appear on her TV. Obviously I shut our own blinds but he knows her TV is there and just opens them again, or he will go upstairs and hyper focus on her TV from my bedroom window.
How horrendously unreasonable would I be to ask her to close her blinds for half an hour at night just to avoid this nightly hysteria??! I'm at my wits end with it.
YABU - absolutely unreasonable. It's your child's disability to manage.
YANBU - you can only ask and see what she says.

You did not answer my Question? I asked first come on be brave and say yes.

Just to add yes, any stranger coming to my door giving me some sob story I would be highly suspicious off and tell to fuck off. Because trusting strangers on your doorstep is asking for all sorts of problems.

@skymagentatwo so do you find it funny and amusing to tell the neighbour caring for a complex disabled child to f%@k off for daring to ask if you would consider doing her a favour?

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We all know what sort of person you are.

Not at all, tell her you don't expect an answer right way, let her leave and give her time to think about it.

The op has already emphasised the lack of pressure on her end, I'm sure she won't have any problem in communicating that to the neighbour. Doorstepping increases the pressure, because it springs it on them, gives them no time to think about it at leisure

I was not making fun of vulnerable people and you know that.
The op has not suggested that she intends to be threatening or intimidating. If the op’s neighbour is elderly or vulnerable then that situation will need to be dealt with sensitively. As a mother of a vulnerable child I’m sure the op is mindful of this.

People knocking on your door is part of life, it’s not abnormal behaviour despite your attempts to portray it that way.

So you also refused to answer my question, how about starting with answering that first 😂

You may be nee to MN, I don't know. But lots on here are apparently afraid to answer their doors, even for expected deliveries. I do find that laughable, yes. And genuinely, if someone is so elderly/frail/vulnerable that they are afraid to answer their door then they really aren't capable of living alone are they?

Haha at least your honest and we can see what type of person you are. Caring NOT hahaha

Yes you were, try to explain it away any way you can it wont work.

People with anxiety/ASD/MH issues etc you mean?

Well according to @FishFingerSandwiches4Tea "vulnerable that they are afraid to answer their door then they really aren't capable of living alone are they?" WOW 🙄

I really doubt all these people who talk big would do this IRL. I mean, I've told my friend that if my difficult neighbour asked for X I'd laugh in their face. But I actually wouldn't. I'm really just expressing my attitude to the idea. I'd be nice in person, make understanding noises, then decline their request. But my neighbour has made their bed with me, otherwise I might have considered it.

People who believe this would be the first to complain about government spending taxpayers money to house such individuals in a way they think appropriate.

Not at all! I'm saying that these people should have support, I feel terrible for anyone living this way, its not how it should be is it?

However, this has all been a massive derail from the OPs thread. Very much 'whataboutery' which likely isn't even relevant to the OP's situation.

Touched a nerve have I? Shame.

That’s why you need to parent him and change this!!! I say this as a parent of a severely autistic child and you CAN change things even when they are routine obsessed! Seriously just takes a bit of extra effort until it’s settled in. Change what happens on his evening and iPad should be off by 5pm at the latest anyway as it affects their sleep. Read him stories or have a bath or just do anything different to break that cycle

No just proved you wrong once again. I think it's you whom has a nerve touched 😂

You've provided cctv. Well done. She's still too afraid to answer the door, and you're happy for this situation. Not how id treat my mother but we are all different aren't we.

It's really not less pressure to be brought into someone's house and asked to do something whilst being shown just how hard their life is

That's putting so much pressure on them

Surely the added inconsistency of whether the neighbour shuts the curtains or not could make the situation worse by adding more variables.

It’s a well known thing on Mumsnet where people talk openly about not answering their door. No vulnerability or mental health issues just shock at the sheer audacity of someone daring to knock on their door.
That’s what I was referring to.

Yawn try harder.😩

Agree. While it's not wholly unreasonable to ask, this really would be.

She is though. It's a ridiculous thing to ask.