How much alcohol for a 15 year old?

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If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

OP, do what most balanced parents do (outside of mumsnet)
Let her take a couple of pre mixed cans, alchopop type drinks. Tell her to stay well away from sprits if anyone brings them. There will probably be a bottle of sourz there because someone always brings that- warn her about that and make sure she knows it’s strong.
Tell her you are trusting her and this new to both of you so be careful and stick to pre mixed drinks for now.
See how she comes home and how it all went and go from there.

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But why is it nothing or drink into a stupor? That’s not the case IME. Yes some teens do go mad but my dd and most of her friends will have a few weak drinks and come home fine. This is in a controlled environment where parents are present in the house in case things get out of hand. I would far rather her do that than take 2L bottles of white lightening to a field at 16 with mates.

Sure, that's the goal. But the starting point of so many people on this thread seems to be a kind of resignation that "they're going to do it anyway".

Surely the baseline should always be to discourage it? If alcohol comes up in the context of a supervised environment maybe you give support with certain rules. But in this case the parents seem to be accepting that the kids will bring alcohol without any expression of concern or any attempt to set guardrails. It's almost a kind of "out of sight, out of mind and all good as long as no one pukes on the carpet" attitude.

I just think a lot of this stems from the fact that alcohol is totally normalised in our culture. If it was less normalised by parents kids would feel less inclined to do it.

None. I have two DS, one doesn’t drink he is 20 and the other rarely does he is 23 years. They both know booze is a poison and have an alcoholic father. Why encourage? Instead inform. Plenty of delicious alternatives.

None, but it won't make any difference they will get it from somewhere.
I very much doubt the parents are going to be searching bags as they arrive or sitting with them all night

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and I’d call social services on the parents

I’ve a 15 and 17 yo, I would allow the 15yo a couple of cans of low alcohol beer/cider (like 2.5%) or a can of the lower alcohol premix cocktails (like 4.5%) my 17yo is super sensible and will take a few cans of cocktails or cider or a bottle of wine. The kids today drink far less than we did (I’m end of gen x). I speak to them about limits, advise only 2 drinks, must have food etc. The older one has had to deal with drunk friends at parties and is keen to not get in that state. The younger one I think will learn the hard way, he’s more of a risk taker.

I am sure that social services won’t be interested in teens having some alcohol at a 16th birthday party.

Probably just 2-3 koppaberg bottles or something like that! All the people saying zero, you realise she will just drink her friends' drinks right?

Yep realise she may have her friend’s drinks … maybe. But why encourage drinking? Has zero benefits. Would you encourage your child to smoke? Surely we all know how terrible alcohol is. Seems ridiculous to pretend otherwise.

None.

Exactly! Why not at least try to put her on the right path rather than shrugging your shoulders and going "we have no control".

Well done for discussing this with your child, mine did not talk to me before hand and I had to collect both my 16 year olds over the years from parties in a drunk state.

We hosted a party recently for a group of 17/18 year old girls, don’t worry about brining alcohol, we would supply it as parents. That way we were in control. We were also in attendance, in the background and monitored the situation very carefully.

Both my young adult children now barely drink, they prefer the option of being able to drive themselves home.

I knew coming on this thread the Alcohol Purity Police would be along with their pearls 🤣 meanwhile normal people take a more measured approach to this, lest they have children who don’t go round to their stifling parents homes when they’re adults

Theyre teens. Are alcohols still around? A couple each, or other low alcohol low quantity drinks.

lol this can't be real

First reply nails it.

None. His brain is still developing.

2 drinks of low alcohol beer/cider/4% alcopops is what all of my 16 year old and friends who allow alcohol have at their parties. Other kids have alcohol free parties with absolutely no issues and plenty of kids parents don’t allow them to bring alcohol.

OP, do what most balanced parents do (outside of mumsnet)

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So much for thinking I am a balanced parent. Off down the booze aisle now to fix that 🙃.

None. 15 is far too young.

I send them with a couple of premixed cans. Otherwise you risk them drinking the neat vodka that will invariably be there...

'Alcohol Purity Police' - how to spot someone reliant on alcohol.

Hmmm seems a few people think drinking is a norm at 15 years of age … as mentioned it is illegal, interferes with brain development, increases likelihood of dependency in later years, more likely risk of harm when under the influence and also there are no benefits. It is a poison hence the flavours that are added to disguise the taste. 375ml of neat alcohol is lethal. I appreciate that some teenagers will drink … but I would never encourage.

What do you think social services would do?

Yep, SS will fly over in a car going née naw, nee naw to arrest the parents (for doing nothing illegal) and save the children from such horrors as a party in their teens.....
Or, alternatively they might be too busy trying to get toddlers out of faeces covered homes or homes with drug paraphernalia all over the floor. Perhaps they might be trying to get and older girl out of a home where she is being SA by a family member? Can you see the difference? SS won't give a toss about a few teens having a house party!