To think a man’s real character is how he behaves after sex?

[ThatAmusedMaker]

The mask usually slips once the need is met.

Sounds like you might be a bad picker if that's your experience.

Qué? My husband is a brilliant partner, team mate, dad and team player but roles over straight to sleep after sex. I'm not trading all of that for someone who chit chats when I just want to get cleaned up.

Can’t say I’ve ever experienced that.

In my experience they've been snuggly smiley and fast to sleep

My DH cleans up. Not sure what that means 😆

Married 35 years to a lovely man. Who can be fast asleep within 2 mins afterwards😆. Not sure what you are experiencing,but if they are all getting up fast an running away you might have a point!

Nah the real character is how he behaves to others.

As in, it slips off and they go to sleep.
What are you like after sex, OP? Is that your "true" self?

Or how they treat people in the service industry. And that applies to women too.

Well if you're picking men who regularly do the Coyote Dawn routine (see Urban Dictionary for clarification) ( ) then I'd say it's probably the men you're choosing.

I think I'm going to need an example.

I’ve got a good one. He makes a cup of tea.

I think you see a man for what he really is when he's drunk.

Do you pick penis dunkers (following on from the weirdest aibu thread). Or guys who do it with their socks on for a quicker get away. Personally I think someone else nailed it in how s/he treats retail and more over wait staff...we people watch in spoons and the number of people who ignore the staff delivering their food...my sil does it too and I know she is a vile excuse of a human being

I assumed this meant in relation to new partners. As in the ones who are charming and attentive until they get what they want?

I am pretty sure OP is talking about men who are charming on a couple of dates, but after they start having sex, they stop the romance and love bombing behaviours because they don't feel the need to try anymore, rather than the immediate aftermath of the act itself.

If you want to see someone's real character you need to observe how they treat the following:

Vulnerable people.
People they are debating or disagreeing with.
Service staff.

Everyone I have had sex with has been very pleasant afterwards. A couple of them turned out to be absolute twats a few months later, so I disagree.

I generally roll over and go to sleep. And the rolling over is due to the fact that DP threatens me with death if I so much as touch her.

She is not a woman who does well with post sex warmth!

Guessing that's not what you were looking for though OP.