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Appropriate wedding attire?

76 replies

Pomtoo · 30/07/2025 09:14

I know it takes a while for pictures to show up because they need to be approved, but when it does…
Do we think it would be OK to wear this dress to a wedding (as a guest - brother getting married)?
TIA

Appropriate wedding attire?
OP posts:
theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 30/07/2025 09:45

totally inappropriate

Smilesinthesunshine · 30/07/2025 09:45

Oh my god that is awful! You sound very chilled about it to be honest, what does your husband think? I am so sorry for you, that is so infuriating. The mil sounds like a piece of work for not having you on her FB profile as well.

CryptoFascist · 30/07/2025 09:48

Hilarious! Sorry your SIL fancies her brother.

Coffeeishot · 30/07/2025 09:49

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 30/07/2025 09:25

Who's Alex's?

It is a Schits creek reference, she wore a white gown to her brothers wedding .

Coffeeishot · 30/07/2025 09:50

Oh no Sil is clearly deranged 😮

heardabouthat · 30/07/2025 09:51

Yes please wear it …: to your own wedding!

redgingerbread · 30/07/2025 09:51

What on earth?! Does she hate you for some reason?

Congrats on the wedding. Hope you can avoid SIL as much as possible in future…

CoraPirbright · 30/07/2025 10:15

Good grief!! How could anyone think that was appropriate?! I am so sorry for you OP but from your tone you don’t seem too upset? If so, you are a far, far better person than me!!

ExtraOnions · 30/07/2025 10:18

Carrying on the Schitts Creek references, just write “Don’t worry, it’s his sister” underneath any photos

Katherine9 · 30/07/2025 10:26

Pomtoo · 30/07/2025 09:26

Haha, first response got it in one!

SIL turned up at our wedding wearing this dress two weeks ago. It was a small destination wedding and several strangers we met assumed she was the bride.

MIL now has her FB profile picture as her, her DH, her DS (my DH), her DD (the wannabe bride) and it looks like the siblings are bride and groom!

SIL is married and is a wedding photographer, so it’s not like she’s ignorant to wedding etiquette!

You could have just posted the facts rather than misleading us!

Dearg · 30/07/2025 10:30

Well, she’s not very nice is she? Now you know Op, so you can watch your back.

WickWood · 30/07/2025 10:32

Oh dear, I feel mortified for her, how embarrassing!

BitOutOfPractice · 30/07/2025 10:33

Wow! What did your dh say op?

ilovepixie · 30/07/2025 10:37

Jesus Christ! Why would you even ask! Are you stupid!

ilovepixie · 30/07/2025 10:39

Sorry your SIL is a stupid mean woman! Not you!

billycat321 · 30/07/2025 10:49

In church- No . At party afterwards- maybe but in different colour

Cutleryclaire · 30/07/2025 10:49

Is your DH bothered by the picture looking like he’s married to his sister?

Pomtoo · 30/07/2025 10:49

Katherine9 · 30/07/2025 10:26

You could have just posted the facts rather than misleading us!

At least this betrayal happened to you early in the day so you have the rest of the day to try and get over it. My sincere apologies for misleading you and I hope I’ve not caused you any unnecessary trauma.

OP posts:
Chemenger · 30/07/2025 10:51

Simonjt · 30/07/2025 09:19

Hi Alexis, no, you shouldn’t wear a white floor length gown to your brothers wedding.

my thoughts exactly. Don’t wear a headdress either.

Iloveeverycat · 30/07/2025 10:51

Thats was horrid of her doing that

Meem321 · 30/07/2025 10:53

Exactly what my SIL did... One of the elderly guests said it seemed incestuous. Stupid cow. I never liked her and she never liked me. I'm still married 25 years later...she's not 🤣

SweetFancyMoses · 30/07/2025 10:54

That’s nuts that your SIL wore that to your wedding. What an ignorant twit.

Squarestones · 30/07/2025 10:54

Totally inappropriate but not sure why do a reverse? I always feel those are used when it's a bit unclear who is in right or wrong but in this case your SIL is clearly wrong.

No skin off my nose obviously but interested in the thought process of posting this way rather than just a straight up post?

JaninaDuszejko · 30/07/2025 11:02

Ha! That's kind of hilarious. The thing is all the guests at the wedding will know she's not the bride and so they will be judging her hard. So be magnanimus, if anyone asks say you don't care because you had a lovely day. She has made you look so good by doing that.

Well1mBack · 30/07/2025 11:07

Hopefully someone on FB comments under the MIL's photo something like what a beautiful picture of the bride and groom and then you can reply and say it's his sister in this picture. I'm the bride!

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