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To think the RNLI are 100% in the right

727 replies

SanFranBear · 29/07/2025 09:44

I've just seen this story on the BBC news homepage where the RNLI are being accused of acting as a taxi service for migrants trying to enter the UK on small boats from Europe.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dejyg4l37o

The organisation and volunteers quite rightly have responded to say they make no apologies for saving lives at sea and that their work has no political motivation.

Damn straight - one of the volunteers further down the article explains the profound impact he feels of encountering people struggling in our waters.

It makes me wonder what critics of the service expect them to do - just sail away, leaving the people to die? Pick them up and cross the channel to dump them back 'where they came from'?

What is wrong with them? Where is their compassion? Regardless of your thoughts on immigration, this is so cold and inhuman....

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EasternStandard · 31/07/2025 11:30

On security it’s far better to vet people before they enter. A system that is not chaotic, dangerous and frankly bizarre with French police in riot gear on their beaches and pick ups at ours.

Get away from that and there is a humanitarian quota system where people can be vetted.

And no it doesn’t mean simply putting in safe routes. No one has done that as it’s not feasible due to high demand.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:33

Phobiaphobic · 31/07/2025 09:44

And they don't take their wife and kids with them? Why are these boats overwhelmingly full of young men? If it's so dangerous where they are, why do they leave their family behind when they flee?

This has been explained so many times I can only conclude you don’t really want to know.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:35

suburburban · 31/07/2025 10:40

Why is it always our problem though

It isn’t. We take relatively few refugees.

PandoraSocks · 31/07/2025 11:36

TheNuthatch · 31/07/2025 11:26

I didn't accuse you of that? I asked if you had a message or thoughts. I'm certainly not apologising for doing so.

Your post to DuncinToffee was vile. You should apologise.

Notonthestairs · 31/07/2025 11:36

Funeraltango · 31/07/2025 11:19

That link doesn’t say anything about breaking maritime law.

Hopefully this sheds more light -

Others call for the Navy to “push the boats back” or “return the people to France where they came from”. This is simply not viable without political agreement because UK vessels would need permission to enter French waters as they are no longer conducting ‘innocent passage’ under UN Convention on Law of the sea (UNCLOS) rules.
https://www.navylookout.com/why-its-not-the-royal-navys-job-to-stop-migrant-boats/

Why it’s not the Royal Navy’s job to stop migrant boats - Navy Lookout

The flow of migrant boats crossing the English Channel has led to daily rants on social media demanding we "send in the Royal Navy to defend our borders". Here we briefly look at why using the navy this way is impractical, wasteful and has already prov...

https://www.navylookout.com/why-its-not-the-royal-navys-job-to-stop-migrant-boats/

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:37

EasternStandard · 31/07/2025 10:44

I think we are one of the better countries for women and girls. Look at the marvellous FWS and even this site for pressure.

Some prefer to say we uniquely don’t have a culture, or deride it as below.

We have loads of great stuff and I wouldn’t swap for many places, especially when thinking of dd.

I don’t think the questions regarding what British culture is are implying there isn’t one, rather trying to fathom out what about it is ‘under threat’.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:37

LizzyEm · 31/07/2025 10:46

I want to move to another country but due to visa restrictions, as a working age person without passive income, I can't.

Should I be able to just rock up to the country I want to move to, illegally cross the border, refuse to leave and expect to be supported?

No, I shouldn't because that's illegal, and against proper behaviour.

Why then should these boat people be able to do it and be fully supported by the British taxpayer?

Because you aren’t at risk of torture or death or extreme discrimination if you stay here.

EasternStandard · 31/07/2025 11:39

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:37

I don’t think the questions regarding what British culture is are implying there isn’t one, rather trying to fathom out what about it is ‘under threat’.

Do you agree there is a British culture?

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:40

TheNuthatch · 31/07/2025 11:17

Your daughter would be unsafe in Eritrea because of Eritrean men. The same men that you are happy to welcome to our towns and cities.

So you want the Ethiopian man charged with 3 counts of SA to be deported if found guilty, yet you're happy for him to be replaced as he's just one bad apple. OK.

All Eritrean men?
British men commit offences at a fairly high rate too. Should we blame all of them or just the criminal ones?

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:43

EasternStandard · 31/07/2025 11:39

Do you agree there is a British culture?

Well…British, no. English, Scottish, Welsh, NI, yes. Bu5 British is a good enough shorthand.
I just don’t think it’s under threat from refugees. The far right like Stephen Yaxley-Lennon, yes. Billionaires, yes. Refugees, no.

suburburban · 31/07/2025 11:49

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:35

It isn’t. We take relatively few refugees.

Ooh we seem to take a lot of migrants or asylum seekers so I don’t think that is true

2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:53

PandoraSocks · 31/07/2025 10:18

Rioting outside hotels?

You think that the majority of British people riot outside hotels?

You need to take a closer look at your friendship group if you think this.

PandoraSocks · 31/07/2025 11:55

2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:53

You think that the majority of British people riot outside hotels?

You need to take a closer look at your friendship group if you think this.

It was obviously a joke.

2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:55

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:43

Well…British, no. English, Scottish, Welsh, NI, yes. Bu5 British is a good enough shorthand.
I just don’t think it’s under threat from refugees. The far right like Stephen Yaxley-Lennon, yes. Billionaires, yes. Refugees, no.

Interesting. Which billionaires in this country do you think we are under threat from?

PandoraSocks · 31/07/2025 11:56

suburburban · 31/07/2025 11:49

Ooh we seem to take a lot of migrants or asylum seekers so I don’t think that is true

We are way down the list numbers wise:

To think the RNLI are 100% in the right
2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:57

PandoraSocks · 31/07/2025 11:55

It was obviously a joke.

Not sure why you would think rioting is funny.

PandoraSocks · 31/07/2025 12:00

2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:57

Not sure why you would think rioting is funny.

Neither am I, because I don't. But carry on carping if you wish.

EasternStandard · 31/07/2025 12:01

2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:53

You think that the majority of British people riot outside hotels?

You need to take a closer look at your friendship group if you think this.

I think it’s more likely posters won’t put anything positive about British culture. Usually the bad stuff.

Funeraltango · 31/07/2025 12:37

Notonthestairs · 31/07/2025 11:36

Hopefully this sheds more light -

Others call for the Navy to “push the boats back” or “return the people to France where they came from”. This is simply not viable without political agreement because UK vessels would need permission to enter French waters as they are no longer conducting ‘innocent passage’ under UN Convention on Law of the sea (UNCLOS) rules.
https://www.navylookout.com/why-its-not-the-royal-navys-job-to-stop-migrant-boats/

So would it be legal for the RNLI to drop them back in France?

Funeraltango · 31/07/2025 12:39

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:37

Because you aren’t at risk of torture or death or extreme discrimination if you stay here.

If they’re at risk of these then presumably their wives, children, mothers, and fathers are also at risk. Why did they leave them behind?

TheNuthatch · 31/07/2025 12:40

cardibach · 31/07/2025 11:40

All Eritrean men?
British men commit offences at a fairly high rate too. Should we blame all of them or just the criminal ones?

No of course not all Eritrean men, as it isn't all British men either. I used Eritrea as an example of cultural differences towards women and girls, as that is currently the most common country of origin for small boats arrivals.
There is clearly an issue though as per the government's own advice which warns women specifically of the dangers from men in that country. I don't think it's wrong to question whether those attitudes towards women are also arriving on our shores.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 13:17

suburburban · 31/07/2025 11:49

Ooh we seem to take a lot of migrants or asylum seekers so I don’t think that is true

We don’t when compared to most other countries. Not even per capita. About 0.6% of our population came as asylum seekers. According to the HomeOffice, asylum seekers from all sources amounted to 16% of immigration in 2024 (that includes, for eg, Ukrainians).
In 2024 there were 16 asylum applications per 10,000 people in the U.K. compared to the EU average of 22 per 10,000. Cyprus had the highest EU rate, probably because it’s closer to conflicts and most refugees do stop close to home in the hope they can return one day.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 13:20

2dogsandabudgie · 31/07/2025 11:55

Interesting. Which billionaires in this country do you think we are under threat from?

The existence of increasing numbers of multi millionaires and billionaires threatens society and culture because they are taking wealth out of circulation and making everyone else poorer. That increases tensions and pits people against each other. It threatens a lot of our cultural norms like politeness and tolerance.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 13:21

Funeraltango · 31/07/2025 12:39

If they’re at risk of these then presumably their wives, children, mothers, and fathers are also at risk. Why did they leave them behind?

That’s been explained a million times, including on this very thread.

cardibach · 31/07/2025 13:22

TheNuthatch · 31/07/2025 12:40

No of course not all Eritrean men, as it isn't all British men either. I used Eritrea as an example of cultural differences towards women and girls, as that is currently the most common country of origin for small boats arrivals.
There is clearly an issue though as per the government's own advice which warns women specifically of the dangers from men in that country. I don't think it's wrong to question whether those attitudes towards women are also arriving on our shores.

But you said letting Eritrean men in would make our cities unsafe. Letting violent men be at large does. Most of those aren’t Eritrean. And now you agree not all (or even most?) Eritrean men.