To be annoyed that I’m being blamed for this?!

[AngelaSnerkel]

We (DH, toddler and I) went to a wedding with my mother last month. She drove to us, briefly came in for a cup of tea, and then we all went in our car.

Weeks later, she’s asked us to look for a set of keys she allegedly left on our hallway table. It’s keys to my grandparents’ house and she said she took them from her car and put them there for safekeeping.

The keys aren’t there and DH and I haven’t seen them. DM is now “very disappointed” in me for losing her keys and is going to draw me a diagram of the keys and where she left them so I can find them, and keeps messaging me to ask that I “look again properly.”

AIBU to think this is insanity?

Love it - an answer as good as your username! 😂

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Send her a diagram of where you’ve looked

Yes, yes I would because she’s being completely unreasonable and keeping it going too - how long is the OP supposed to hear about what a disappointment she is for something she didn’t even do?!

Why did she take your grandparents' keys with her to a wedding? Assuming she wasn't planning to pop in there on the way or she'd have realised on the same day the keys were missing. If they normally 'live' in her car she needs to search it thoroughly.

My tip on finding lost things is to look again in the first place you looked, but forensically. Not by any means foolproof but works more often than any other finding things method.

Oh please do this!

Would you really not say that? Sounds pretty spineless to me! I’m glad my relationships aren’t so fragile (or my confident so poor) that I have to pussyfoot around and not react when someone directly accuses me of something that was their fault.

OP wouldn’t be making this a direct confrontation, her mother already did that.

Tell her to ask St Anthony, finder of list things.

Blame the local magpie

My mum did similar to me years ago, she lost a suitcase and convinced herself that she had lent it to me and that I must of lent it to my friend if I had lost it!!
I didn’t speak to her for weeks over it because I went mental at her about it because I knew I didn’t have it and guess what, it turned up in her house!!! Did I get an apology? No!

Did she find the keys?