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To think that there is no hope here?

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Taxed · 28/07/2025 07:36

52.6% of UK individuals are reliant on the State (that is 35 million people). Only 47.4% are net contributors. How did we get here?

AIBU to think that the UK is now a declining economy that will never recover if this continues to be the case?

I am 49 and a high earner (just shy of the top 1%). My husband is also a high earner and we are thinking of leaving. We don't know where but we know we have to as the situation in the UK is getting worse not better. The only thing that is keeping us here is our son, who is still in secondary school. I am actively encouraging him to consider a future outside of the UK.

I genuinely feel that being ambitious and successful is not worth it in the UK. People hate you for it and want to see you penalised. They think that whatever you do to earn the money it must be easy and a breeze. That you are greedy and need to be made to pay for doing well. Just last week, I heard that the government might be thinking of implementing a charge, payable by high earners, to access the NHS. Everything is about taxing the already heavily taxed even more and few want to face up to the fact that this is unsustainable when you have most of your people relying on the State to live.

People complain about the immigrants but they make up a tiny proportion of 35 million.

I feel disliked for doing well and just can't see a future here and it is making me angry and sad. I believe in having a welfare state, in helping those who are in need but 52.6%? The country is on its knees when most of its people are in need. That is like a developing country not a developed and thriving economy.

Sorry for the long rant. I'm just tired, sad and have just about lost hope of enjoying life in the UK.

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Pregnancyquestion · 28/07/2025 10:27

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:23

Well I prefer us to look after our own first, personally. Rather than the Mauritians. Who I understand have had a nice tax break thanks to the UK taxpayer.

You can only control yourself though can’t you. If your wages after tax aren’t enough to sustain the life you want, maybe OP and other 1%ers should take some individual accountability and get a second job

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 10:27

Walkaround · 28/07/2025 10:20

To be fair, you are very much focusing on yourself, so why do you expect anything different from the replies? You want to run away, you think the grass is greener elsewhere, you don’t want to stay in the UK to be involved in any potential change to deal with the situation, you don’t think there is anything in it for you to stay here, you think it’s downhill all the way from now on, you think the same doesn’t apply in the US. If you have no sense of belonging, loyalty, love, obligation, hope or optimism, what do you expect Mumsnet posters to do about it (other than ask you to stop whingeing and sounding sorry for yourself)?

Looking round the world, it seems to me that every country has wealthy, successful people and less successful people and poor people, so your desire to escape from a country where you claim to be a successful person already just comes across as sour grapes, and your view of other people’s opinion of your success as deeply paranoid. If you think there is nothing left worth defending in the UK, want to take a punt on the US, are confident you will not only be welcomed but also allowed to stay there forever, regardless of your subsequent circumstances and the fact of the place of your birth, then go ahead. If that turns out to be a busted flush, too, and is another country you would not be willing to defend when the chips were down, then keep an eye out for the next replacement superpower and whether you would be happy to live there, instead. Do you fancy moving to China?

This. Well said.

JHound · 28/07/2025 10:28

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:26

A tenth of £45billion seems rather a lot for taxpayers to be forking out for strangers in preference to our own vulnerable. But I'm not Keir Starmer (luckily) and I'm not aiming to cut a dash on the world stage as a do-gooder for the benefit of the world's diaspora rather than my own population.

So I presume you were opposed to the UK throwing its doors open to assist Ukrainian asylum seekers.

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:28

JHound · 28/07/2025 10:27

I think if you got rid of the private sector society would be a shit show.

I think if you got rid of the public sector society would be a shit show.

They co-exist and both rely on each other. And I say that as somebody who has never worked in the public sector.

I agree. And a balance needs to be struck which Labour are not doing.

Plus we have too many people in this country anyway. I am suspicious as to why something as extreme as the Right To Die Bill was rushed through Parliament. I suppose there must be a good reason.

Tangfastic71 · 28/07/2025 10:29

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:26

A tenth of £45billion seems rather a lot for taxpayers to be forking out for strangers in preference to our own vulnerable. But I'm not Keir Starmer (luckily) and I'm not aiming to cut a dash on the world stage as a do-gooder for the benefit of the world's diaspora rather than my own population.

It seems like a very small amount of money to support human beings who have faced atrocious conditions when we lose ten times as much to people not paying the tax they owe

Icanttakethisanymore · 28/07/2025 10:29

Taxed · 28/07/2025 09:59

No, I will not break them down for you. Go do your research. If that means I lose credibility, then so be it. It's incumbent upon all of us to know what is happening to our country.

The ONS is very accessible and the Adams Smith Institute is likewise very easy to find and their report has been out for ages.

Do you know how this stat has changed over time?

I have just done a quick check and it's not particularly changing in recent years (in fact the number of net contributors has gone up slightly)

It HAS gone down a fair bit since the 70's but that's due to demographic changes and an aging population.

  • Long-term: the share of net recipients rose from ~43% in the late 1970s to over 53% by 2010.
  • Recent years: small declines in recipient share—down to 52.6% in FYE 2023, meaning a modest uptick in net contributors.
  • Demographics matter: retirees overwhelmingly receive more than they pay, skewing totals upward.

Most other western countries are experiencing the same demographic challenges which will lead to changes in the net contributors / net recipients.

JHound · 28/07/2025 10:30

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:14

Yes but the public sector does not generate wealth. The private sector does.

I'm not complaining about it btw. Just trying to work out the 52%.

Edited

How would the private sector generate wealth without an educated workforce? With public transport infrastructure and workers? Roads etc?

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:30

JHound · 28/07/2025 10:28

So I presume you were opposed to the UK throwing its doors open to assist Ukrainian asylum seekers.

For a finite period. Not for permanent residency assuming they win the War or at least keep part of the country. They will need to go back.

Anyway I don't see large groups of Ukrainians stuffed in hotels and pestering little girls on the streets.

EasternStandard · 28/07/2025 10:30

PandoraSocks · 28/07/2025 10:14

Well OP is sitting on his/her backside posting lies on SM. Perhaps that pays well?

What’s the lie? The 52% part?

Applesonthelawn · 28/07/2025 10:31

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 09:38

So you want people to ‘put their backs into it’ while working for wealthy employers who pay themselves massive bonuses and dividends to their shareholders while paying such shit wages that their employees have to be topped up by the tax payer to be able to just about break even ? And then to hand over a significant portion of that wage in rent to greedy landlords who are raking it in via UC to the point where they increase their rents in line with annual UC increases ? It’s easier to blame the ‘lazy’ workforce than to look at actual facts.

The "actual fact" is the both DH and I started life at the very disadvantaged end of society and really did "put our backs into it" and reaped the benefits, so we didn't have to stay there for longer than around 8 years each. I know what it is to do lowly badly paid work, and I know just how much social mobility there is in this country for people who are genuinely hard working and talented. So many excuses being made for under performers. You want a good quality of life, you have to earn it. There is no other way.

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 10:31

JHound · 28/07/2025 10:16

The public sector pays taxes and UC which subsidises the private sector.

So that’s surely where we need to start. The tax payer is effectively subsidising the wages bills of employers who could afford to pay better wages if they were better regulated and unable to pay themselves and their shareholders massive bonuses and golden parachutes. Similarly wealthy landlords who are effectively living off the tax payer by way of UC rent contributions, and who increase their rents in line with the yearly uplift in benefit contributions.

Hardlyworking · 28/07/2025 10:34

My god, how dense is the OP?! This 52% he/she insists on quoting but refuses to reference, includes ALL public sector workers, so the entire NHS workforce, all teachers, police, armed forces, rail workers, etc. etc.

Yes they are reliant on state handouts. It's called a salary as they work for the state😂

Just fuck off to Magaland already. See how they treat immigrants. It might broaden your tiny mind just slightly.

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 10:34

Applesonthelawn · 28/07/2025 10:31

The "actual fact" is the both DH and I started life at the very disadvantaged end of society and really did "put our backs into it" and reaped the benefits, so we didn't have to stay there for longer than around 8 years each. I know what it is to do lowly badly paid work, and I know just how much social mobility there is in this country for people who are genuinely hard working and talented. So many excuses being made for under performers. You want a good quality of life, you have to earn it. There is no other way.

No, the actual fact is that not everyone is afforded the same opportunity and for most of us, ‘putting your back into it these days just means making someone else wealthy.

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:34

JHound · 28/07/2025 10:30

How would the private sector generate wealth without an educated workforce? With public transport infrastructure and workers? Roads etc?

The public sector is too large and too expensive. Yes services such as education, roads, prisons etc are essential. But they do not generate actual wealth. They make the generation of wealth possible in that they create an environment where wealth can be earned. But they do not generate wealth in and of itself. They are a service that need to be paid for. Anyway that's just my own thoughts on the matter.

thepastinsidethepresent · 28/07/2025 10:35

Jennps · 28/07/2025 09:17

Let’s not forget that 1/4 new cars are not paid for by the taxpayer for those on disability benefits. You can get a new car now for having ADHD or alcoholism.

It is beyond insane.

Edited

Stop talking out of your arse. You're just using this thread as an excuse to parade your prejudices.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 28/07/2025 10:35

Dannydevitoiloveyourart · 28/07/2025 09:47

If the cost of living wasn’t so high, the state handouts wouldn’t be needed.

But when the state sells its infrastructure off to the highest bidder (trains, energy, manufacturing, health service etc), when there is no limit on house prices and the rental market, when waiting times for the NHS are at an all time high and understaffing is rife- it means people cannot afford to live on just one salary alone, it means sick people can’t get better and back to work.

Rents for a 3-bed family home in many parts of the south east cost the same as the take home pay of the average UK salary. It’s unsustainable.

The fix isn’t less benefits, the fix is more affordable living.

This 👍

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 10:36

EasternStandard · 28/07/2025 10:30

What’s the lie? The 52% part?

Te breakdown of it. Which OP steadfastly refuses to provide - presumably because it doesn’t suit her me me me narrative.

MyNameIsX · 28/07/2025 10:36

Taxed · 28/07/2025 07:36

52.6% of UK individuals are reliant on the State (that is 35 million people). Only 47.4% are net contributors. How did we get here?

AIBU to think that the UK is now a declining economy that will never recover if this continues to be the case?

I am 49 and a high earner (just shy of the top 1%). My husband is also a high earner and we are thinking of leaving. We don't know where but we know we have to as the situation in the UK is getting worse not better. The only thing that is keeping us here is our son, who is still in secondary school. I am actively encouraging him to consider a future outside of the UK.

I genuinely feel that being ambitious and successful is not worth it in the UK. People hate you for it and want to see you penalised. They think that whatever you do to earn the money it must be easy and a breeze. That you are greedy and need to be made to pay for doing well. Just last week, I heard that the government might be thinking of implementing a charge, payable by high earners, to access the NHS. Everything is about taxing the already heavily taxed even more and few want to face up to the fact that this is unsustainable when you have most of your people relying on the State to live.

People complain about the immigrants but they make up a tiny proportion of 35 million.

I feel disliked for doing well and just can't see a future here and it is making me angry and sad. I believe in having a welfare state, in helping those who are in need but 52.6%? The country is on its knees when most of its people are in need. That is like a developing country not a developed and thriving economy.

Sorry for the long rant. I'm just tired, sad and have just about lost hope of enjoying life in the UK.

100%

Many of us are in full agreement with you.

It’s over.

Quirkswork · 28/07/2025 10:37

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 10:34

No, the actual fact is that not everyone is afforded the same opportunity and for most of us, ‘putting your back into it these days just means making someone else wealthy.

No one owes you a living though. What's the alternative to work? It shouldn't be relying on the State unless your circumstances genuinely mean you can't work and support yourself. You can't not work just because you're chippy someone else is getting rich..assuming you are on the legal wage.

PandoraSocks · 28/07/2025 10:38

EasternStandard · 28/07/2025 10:30

What’s the lie? The 52% part?

I believe in having a welfare state, in helping those who are in need but 52.6%?

This from the OP. The deliberate inference that 52.6% are reliant on welfare benefits.

I am sure you will argue that OP wasn't twisting statistics to suit their agenda, though.

Icanttakethisanymore · 28/07/2025 10:38

Don't flame me for using Chat GPT but...

ChatGPT said:
In the UK, determining whether someone (or a household) is a net contributor or a net recipient is based on comparing:

1. Taxes paid → all forms of taxation
2. Benefits received → all cash transfers and the value of services received

How the UK Does It (ONS Method)
The Office for National Statistics (ONS) publishes an annual report called
“The Effects of Taxes and Benefits on Household Income”
It uses survey data (mainly the Living Costs and Food Survey) and applies these steps:

1. Calculate Taxes Paid
Includes:
Direct taxes:
Income tax
Employee National Insurance contributions
Council tax
(For self-employed) Class 4 NICs
Indirect taxes:
VAT
Fuel duty, alcohol duty, tobacco duty, etc.
Other minor consumption taxes

2. Calculate Benefits Received
ONS includes both cash and in‑kind benefits:

Cash benefits:
Universal Credit, Child Benefit, State Pension, Disability benefits, Jobseeker’s Allowance, Housing Benefit, etc.

In-kind benefits (valued at cost to government):
NHS healthcare received
State education for children
Social care and some housing services

3. Compare Net Position
For each household:
Net fiscal position = (Direct + Indirect Taxes) − (Cash Benefits + In-kind Benefits)

Net contributor: Taxes paid > Benefits received
Net recipient: Benefits received ≥ Taxes paid

4. Who Is Counted?
ONS analysis is at the household level and then equivalised (adjusted for household size and composition).
Individuals are then classified based on the household they live in.

Important Points

Retired households often count as net recipients because:
State pension is classified as a cash benefit.
They receive NHS healthcare and other services but often pay less tax.
High-income households are nearly always net contributors.
In-work but low-income households can still be net recipients due to tax credits/Universal Credit and in-kind benefits.

Example
Imagine a household:
Pays £5,000 in income tax & NIC + £3,000 VAT/fuel/alcohol duties = £8,000 total tax
Receives:
Child Benefit £1,800
NHS healthcare valued at £2,500
State education for 2 children valued at £6,000
→ Total benefits: £10,300
This household is classified as a net recipient.

FatherFrosty · 28/07/2025 10:38

I’m really interested in how employing people in the public sector affects the economy.
these people are employed, they pay taxes, they buy services and goods that create jobs and employment.

so presumably it’s fairly cyclical.
If you privatised those jobs, the wealth from that business goes up the chain to share holders. some of that wealth goes out the country, or tax is managed to pay little.

its a little like selling off the council houses. Those houses kept any housing benefit received going back to the council. Now that goes to private landlords or large corporations so is “lost”.

id love to see the figures of which provides more income for the government.

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 10:39

thepastinsidethepresent · 28/07/2025 10:35

Stop talking out of your arse. You're just using this thread as an excuse to parade your prejudices.

Agree. I’ve clarified this upthread with a full explanation of how motability actually works. So sick of ignorant and ableist posters like this talking shite on every available benefit thread.

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 28/07/2025 10:40

Rosscameasdoody · 28/07/2025 09:28

This. It will inevitably end as a benefit bashing thread.

It will! I think that those people who are ‘high earners’ have no idea of how utterly desperate it is being at the opposite end of the scale. Especially single parents who work full time and still don’t have enough to even ‘beak even’ paying the bills…let alone have any disposable income! Families on low income (I’m not talking about unemployed…just your average family with working parents in low paid jobs) have it really tough! They are not lazy or work shy, but are still struggling to feed and clothe their children.

I would love to see how some of the high income people on here would cope, for even a week, with the annual ‘working family income’ of the poorest fifth of our population, which is £16,800pa. Then let them come back and complain about it.

I regularly read on this forum, people asking for ideas for their holiday with a budget of 10-15k and my mind is blown! Yes, I get that they’ve earned this money and absolutely deserve their well-earned holiday, but the same people will be the ones complaining about private schools being taxed and ‘benefit scroungers’, without the first clue about the actual reality for so many people. What they pay for one family holiday, is around the same income that another family lives on for a whole year.

I don’t begrudge anyone their income at all (it’s not a race to the bottom!) I just wish they’d have a little more compassion and empathy for others less fortunate.

Hedgehogbrown · 28/07/2025 10:41

You are in the top 1% of earners, so what is it to you? Most people who are on benefits are also in work, but it's not enough to live off. The ridiculous house prices and greedy landlords are taking everybody's income. In London, rent is often more than 50% of wages.