To think there are very few nice people here on Mumsnet anymore?

[NaiceSnail]

I’ve been on here for a while and recently, it feels like the vibe has really changed. So many posts seem to get turned into arguments or people are just downright rude to others. I get that Mumsnet is a place for strong opinions but it’s starting to feel like kindness and constructive conversation are in short supply. Maybe it’s just me but are there actually still genuinely nice people around here or has it become more of a space for venting and putting others down?

AIBU to long for a bit more positivity and civility around here?

They were making a fair point

How was that a demonstration?

Came off X as it's so horrible, thought i might give MN a go,but have to say I've been a bit shocked by the nastiness and bad language, so I'm not enjoying it tbh. I like a strong discussion but far too many MNetters do exactly what men do on X, instead of discussing they just make nasty personal comments and swear. Really depressing.

Some people on here are lovely.

I do think the first few answers set the tone for some threads though. If it starts in a nasty way, people take it as a green flag to go all out.

Why do people keep moaning?
It is what it is, you don't really know people anyway as it's all anon.
Why come on
Meet some real life friends or don't get so invested.

There's some nastiness especially on AIBU, but there are also people who can't seem to cope with anybody disagreeing with them at all. There's a thread at the moment about the 2019 Zara dress and when a couple of people have said something negative about it, some others have reacted childishly. Don't post on a public forum unless you can't take disagreement.

When people are being unpleasant, it is really important to me to maintain my dignity and decency and not join in, even if tempted. If I have ever posted something slightly unpleasant, it does not make me feel good. All I can do is keep the standards I have and not be dragged down.

it is the Internet and people feel they can be as mean as they want. In real life luckily, I am surrounded by decent people.

I don't think it's just on Mumsnet. The department I work in is horrible and everywhere I look people in general are pretty awful. I just think most humans have become dreadful.

Agree. It was snide. And typical of many pointless digs people make.

Everyone is entitled to post and they may not know a thread has been started before. We are allowed to have the same topics discussed again!

Dinosaurs were roaming the earth when I joined. Since the end of year one people have been saying it’s not like it used to be.

You woke up an 8 month old thread to criticise people.

And many of us like thr robust nature of this place and the language. I'd take the word 'fuck' over the twee and creepy 'baby dancing' some women use.

I think it's the height of bad manners to step into a place with decades of history, look around, and start rearranging the furniture. It can be not for you. That doesn't mean it has to change.

Why are you logging into and using a forum you don't enjoy?

I think it depends where you look, @Bertiebiscuit. AIBU does tend to be direct and robust, but if you go and look at other areas of MN, you’ll find people offering support, advice and encouragement to parents of children with special education needs or disabilities, or to mums who are struggling with breastfeeding, or MNers suffering poor mental health.

You’ll find Woolly Hugs - a charitable endeavour that knits blankets for MNers who have lost a child or a spouse, and that also knits blankets for children in hospital, women undergoing cancer treatment, blankets to wrap premature babies who don’t make it (because they need something smaller than most baby blankets, and hospitals often don’t have anything suitable) - we even have regular online craft sales which raise money for different charities.

Or there’s MN Classics - full of some very funny threads from the MN archives.