To think you don't just walk in

[Eerrnohun]

Yesterday afternoon, sitting on the floor playing with my son. I hear the a knock at the front door and before I had time to get on to my feet, my aunt is bursting through the front door.
Didn't know she was planning on coming over so was very taken back at her just bounding in.

Even if I had known she was going to come over, I'd still expect her to wait until I'd answered the door. I don't enter her house, or anyone else's house without being invited in. We're not super close - see each other once every couple of months or so, so it's not like she's round all the time and just felt so welcome to let herself in.

AIBU to think it's rude as hell to just walk in?

And before anyone says it, yes I'm aware locking the door would stop people walking in but DH was in and out throughout the day.

I dont understand why everyone doesn't keep their doors locked at all times. You nip out to the grade for a minute for the bins, get distracted by chatting to neighbour, or you go upstairs to change the bedding, or go to the loo and anyone could just walk into your house. We leave the key in the lock during the day, but the door is always locked.

I live on a new build estate and a small child randomly opened our door and ran inside (she thought it was correct house she was visiting they must look same, her mum was mortified) - usually do lock door.
I also remember my mum taking us around a ‘show house’ as kids and a bloke sitting on sofa. Show house had been sold and door unlocked and we all trooped in.

Someone broke into my daughters house through the back door last year, while she was in bed, ruffled her handbag, got her car keys and drove her car off. We have constantly banged on about her lack of security awareness, but she now has upgraded locks, and cctv. She lives alone, and was lucky it wasn't someone with more than car theft in mind. Was this recirded asburglary or car theft? I don't know but will ask when I see her next.
We live in a village that us fairly safe, but even here, Facebook regularly has posts from people being robbed by opportunist thieves.

It’s perhaps area dependent but car key one and then car taken later pops up regularly around here. Lots of estates with new lease cars on drive and easy access to a dual carriageway. People don’t notice key gone or assume somewhere in house.

Totally normal for us - friends and family in the know would just walk in - but we do have a trigger (DH's boy's toys!) that sounds with three beeps so if we are in the house then we hear them as they enter. If we are in the garden we do lock the door and the gate is accessible for the back garden.
But we are all different - if you don't like people walking straight in then lock your door.

Very normal for me and my family. Also normal for us to have a rummage in the cupboard for a biscuit to go with the tea/coffee we are making ourselves.
Only family though, if a friend or someone I didn't have that relationship with did it I'd definitely be irked.

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She did nothing wrong, it was likely how it was when she grew up. Some things aren’t worth turning into an issue. You weren’t sitting in your lounge naked I presume 🤣 otherwise lock the door

My husband's family do this it was how they were brought up and personally I am not for it at my home. I prefer to know in advance if someone plans to drop round and for them to knock and wait, my door is always locked anyway.

My MIL gets annoyed if you knock and wait and just wants you time come in so when I am with my husband we just come in, but if I am on my own I usually knock. I will come in to my parents house if we visit but we live at a distance and they always expect us and often are waving at us as we walk up the path from the kitchen.

I think just make it clear it isn't what you want and that you like a bit of notice so you can get the kettle on for them.

Depending on how close we were. I have aunties I see not so often and think I would be bothered if they 1 turned up unannounced and 2 just waltzed in!

My mum and dad are probably the only ones that do this. Even then my dad still hesitates.

We had this.

Too many times we were having private conversations and someone would cheerfully come bounding in and frighten the life out of us and we’d have to switch to visitor mode in a split second.

We had to just spell it out, we don’t like it, we’re not doing that anymore.

Grew up in this kind of situation and absolutely hated it. Once met a male neighbour wandering in the hallway and I was in my pyjamas, only just up. Luckily where i live now everyone locks their doors and texts before they visit.

Completely normal in my family and close friends. I’m one of 8 and growing up our front door was always opening and closing with people coming in and out, siblings, friends, aunties and uncles, elderly neighbours. I don’t use my front door much but if it’s open and someone comes round they’ll always come straight in, or I’ll shout come round the back. From my experience over the years it’s more a working class thing - my ‘posher’ friends would be much less likely to do it.

Omg lock your front door!! Literally anyone can walk in!!

I remember my aunt being burgaled on the seventies. She was watching telly in the front room, thought her husband was making a lot of noise. Burglars had taken out the kitchen window and climbed in. Both front and back door were unlocked

Lock your door then 🤦🏼‍♀️
my best friend usually has her door unlocked when sat on the sofa at home with her dog and partner, we have confirmed that if the door is unlocked I can walk in. If you don’t want people walking in then lock your door. I live in a much better area than I used to but still consistently lock my door unless I yell to my partner I’m not locking it as I leave. Besides, isn’t it a safety issue with young children? I don’t know how old your little one is but I would lock the door.

What's done is done, whether or not uabu is irrelevant now isn't it? There's more to worry about in life than this I'm sure.

Pretty normal in my family to just walk in, they're family so always welcome

It depends on who it is. I definitely have friends who walk into my house without knocking. I regularly wake up to one or other of my sons friends sleeping in the spare room and none of us, including my son, know they're there until the get up 😄 I never lock my front door so we may even be out and come home to someone being there. It's really not a big deal. Those who do this know they're welcome, those who don't, know not to.

This is completely normal for my side of the family, husbands parents would do this but not his extended family.
I couldn’t face the awkward conversation so would just make a point of locking door

Really rude thing to do.
You should have said something.
Its a really uncouth presumptuous thing to do.

Generally speaking, I just walk in. My job involves letting myself into other people's houses and I guess I just got used to it.

If I don't know the person very well then I'll knock and wait but I do get antsy because really, what is the point? They know I'm coming so why are we performing a mini welcome ceremony?

I wish more people would let themselves into my house too. I have a small child. I cannot always drop everything and run to open the door. Just open the door, call hello, and walk in. If you catch me in a state that you disapprove of then maybe you should have let me know you were coming?

Keep your doors locked?

Well my front door is always locked, especially with a 3 year old?

Exactly, surely most people do these days, especially with young kids.