To think you don't just walk in

[Eerrnohun]

Yesterday afternoon, sitting on the floor playing with my son. I hear the a knock at the front door and before I had time to get on to my feet, my aunt is bursting through the front door.
Didn't know she was planning on coming over so was very taken back at her just bounding in.

Even if I had known she was going to come over, I'd still expect her to wait until I'd answered the door. I don't enter her house, or anyone else's house without being invited in. We're not super close - see each other once every couple of months or so, so it's not like she's round all the time and just felt so welcome to let herself in.

AIBU to think it's rude as hell to just walk in?

And before anyone says it, yes I'm aware locking the door would stop people walking in but DH was in and out throughout the day.

I think it’s very rude but I realise that it’s accepted in some families or parts of the country, particularly a few years ago. But why on earth don’t you keep your front door whilst properly? Next time it might not be a relative who walks in without knocking.

It's rude if the person whose house you're visiting isn't ok with it.

It's the way it's done in our family. People walk in. But when people get their own houses, a new partner moves in, a baby is born etc the question is asked - knock or walk? There would be a riot if people didn't respect someone's wishes.

My DD asks people to knock as she has narcolepsy and finds the door opening triggers her cataplexy and SIL prefers knocking just because she prefers that. Anyone else is walk in.

We can always tell when there's a new nurse or carer in my youngests care team as they knock.

Its completely normal for me.
But if you dont like it lock the door.

So if you don't respect the way he asks guests to enter his home, why do you think he should respect yours? He's clearly politer than you as he does as you ask at your home even though it's not the way he would do things, because you've asked. He's asked you to just come in and you refuse.

😂 Lord I've left my front door open in London to go to the car on the street meters away and had a man just casually try to walk in. Open like wide open because my door closes and can't be opened without key.

When we are in the eu people including neighbours just pop in saying hello.

It's up to you to say what you're not comfortable with OP. Personally I love it when my family and community feel safe enough to be in and out my home like theirs but that's my preference. I also shamelessly enter their homes 😂there does seem to be a cut off naturally after 20:00 where people knock and wait though 🤔

It’s about invasion of privacy. I don’t like it, whereas he doesn’t mind it. One of us has to give, and I think it’s more reasonable for it to be the person who doesn’t care than the person who does.

But it's his privacy. You realise there is no logic to your argument

But it's not an invasion of your privacy for you to enter his home. And it's not an invasion of his privacy as he doesn't consider it so.

He respects your privacy but you won't respect his own feelings in his home. Maybe he doesn't like getting up to answer the door. Pretty rude of you to make him when he's asked you not to.

Every person I know who has a front door that just opens off the street has had people walk in, from an unexpected mother in law, delivery men and even a random man who thought it was someone else's house. The solution is to lock your door. She was wrong to walk in but you left your house accessible so that's something you can change.

I never do it if someone isn't expecting me but otherwise I'm a door opener

I have a front and back door with no door handle problem solved, can only be opened with a key and pushed from outside or by latch inside.

I'd hate anyone just walking into my house, but some families are closer than others - my aunties all live hundreds of miles away so I would be a tad shocked if they appeared in the lounge, but other folk are very close (physically and emotionally) and would be happy with that set up. It's your house, set your boundaries, perhaps lock the door if you don't want anyone to just walk in.

Dh family are a knock and walk. Mine are a knock, crack the door and shout

So did you ask her not to do it again?

A nutter could have walked in off the street and taken your kids! Anything can happen ffs and it’s just common sense to keep your front doors locked!

Everyone who knows me just walks in because they know the doorbell doesn't work. At my FIL's everyone just walks in too. At my neighbours I knock then walk in. But you don't do it unless you know the people that live there are fine with it, that's the key thing.

This

Get a water pistol!

God my in laws do this 🙄 I lock the door now haha

So when your door’s unlocked and some rando walks into your kitchen, steals your handbag/keys, and drives off in your car, do you think your insurance will pay out?

Exactly. She's saved you the bother of getting up to answer the door.

This is normal in my house.

I can't remember the last time my brother knocked on the door.

If you don't like it, tell her.

Surely your DH has a key he can use to let himself in and out.
Unless you live on a military base, surely you’d be safer locking your front door?
We lock our door every single time anyone comes in or leaves.
The only we didn’t was living on bases, where the guy at the front gate has a rifle 😉

Awfully rude, I’d never saying anything but the door would always be locked going forward!

Keep your front door locked, your husband presumably has a key and it's not a big deal to use it.

Your aunt was rude. I've never done that in my life, neither has anyone just walked into my home, don't know anybody who would.