Friend 'sobbing in the kitchen' over Ozzy Osborne

[lronWoman]

I'm not generally a mean spirited person but I just can't take this seriously!

My friend has never been a Black Sabbath fan and I've never heard her mention Ozzy once in the 20 years I've known her. However, her and her sister are apparently 'beside themselves with grief' over his death.

I just don't understand this type of performative grief over A list celebrities that people have never met. It's sad and I get that it kind of marks the end of an era, but the guy lived to a ripe old age in the lap of luxury and was one of the most celebrated rock stars the world has ever known. It's not like a present day star has suddenly been cut down in their prime and will no longer be releasing new albums. They'd already released all their famous stuff before we were born.

She wasn't sobbing in the kitchen when an old mutual workmate died unexpectedly in his late 30s a fortnight ago. Guy wasn't a close friend of ours but we were friendly. Used to go to the pub as a group and he helped us move house, refusing to accept a penny for it. Really nice bloke! We hadn't seen him in close to a decade but both felt sad about it for a few days. But no sobbing in the kitchen!

Latest comment is "he's up there at the bar with gramps". I'm finding it hard not to make an inappropriate joke tbh!

It’s ok to feel a bit sad, but utter stupid and dumb to be crying over someone who doesn’t even know or would have cared about your existence. Leave her to be but if she does this again, just leave and walk out. No need to entertain this nonsense.

People have always been saddened and she'd a tear for a celebrity that means something to them.

I know people who were upset when The Apple founder guy died. I was completely baffled, but when Alexander McQueen died I was sad and shed a tear, due to having admired his work.

Of course Diana was on another scale. As would be expected. It's interesting that few people spoke disapprovingly of people who queued for hours and shed tears when the Queen died recently.

We grieve people we admire, people we've shared happy moments with (dancing along to their music, watching their acting with a loved one for example).

I have zero interest in Ozzy Osborne and my eyes are dryer than usual this morning, but can understand why it may impact others differently.

Yet again all I take from this is how much the OP dislikes her so-called "friend".

If you really think she's some sort of grief vulture who just wants to be the centre of attention, why are you friends with her in the first place?

If you're a real friend you'd be able to understand where she's coming from and what feelings might have been triggered, and make allowances even if she's behaving a bit OTT.

Shrugs.

Was even worse when Di died. People
are weird but it’s harmless.

Or she like me dislikes performative grief.

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Feeling sad or crying over the death of a celebrity is fine. I cried when the Queen died because she had always been there and it was the end of an era. I thought it was very sad when Diana died as she was leaving young children behind. However there is a huge difference between feeling sad about it and having a cry etc and posting about it all over social media about how distraught you are.

it's a bit weird.

I'm an older metal head, and from Aston in brum, he was a massive part of my upbringing, the pride in my home city, my musical education and the cornerstone of an entire movement. Ozzy yelled into the Abyss so a generation could feel something more with their music. He was the inspiration for a generation and more. I've seen him in concert a couple of times.

Am i crying? I did shed a tear at one of the amazing tributes i came across from Yungblood, but sobbing in my kitchen? absolutely not.
am i sad? Yes. absolutely, it's the end of an era, the world feels a little less bright today, another Icon of Rock has passed.

For an alcoholic and drug addict I'd say its a pretty good innings.

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I feel for Sharon and his kids because I know what its like to lose someone, so I do empathize. But of course I don't know them or him personally so can't imagine crying over it. He lived a long, full life and his death wasn't totally unexpected seeing as he was ill. I was sadder about Malcolm Jamal Warner the previous day because he was a younger man and his death was totally unexpected (I was a big fan of the Cosby Show as a child). I didn't cry about it, but it does make you more aware of your own mortality when someone dies before their time.

Nasty.

Yeah, that's fucked up

I was never a Black Sabbath fan but earlier on the radio news they played that opening guitar riff on 'Paranoid' and was instantly transported back 55 years(!) to 1970 when I was 15 and felt overwhelmed with nostalgia and sadness at the passing of all that time!

When a major celebrity dies, especially one who's been around a long time, the media go into overdrive and some people get caught up in all the emotion - especially if there is a musical backdrop.

That’s a bit of a strange thing to say @YourBrickTiger.

If I remember right it was the summer between primary and secondary school for me. I'd got up early to watch tv and saw the news. I went up and told my mum, she said "oh that's sad. Those poor children"
The next conversation about it was how we both found it quite disgusting the way people went on about it. It's not respectful, it's vile and attention seeking.

Re: Ozzie, I'd never be happy someone died of course, it is sad in a sense, but also hard to believe he lasted as long as he did!

Not at all, it's my life, my feelings. Can't divulge more about it, but if I explained it would make sense.

What did she do to you to make it such a personal celebration?

Are you the ghost of Diana?

This is it. A celebrity I like died recently and I was incredibly sad - not just because of the circumstances around it but because it made me think about other losses in my life; also how sad it is that a dead person isn't able to see just how loved they were and how sad everyone is that they've gone, which brought up memories of dark points in my own life.

It's weird and seems performative to some when it's someone like Ozzy Osbourne who lived a full life, but feelings are weird.

Absolutely

I was 12 in 1977 and staying at my Elvis fan Aunt in Croydon .
All was fine with Her and then she walked to the shop to buy her daily papers and came back in pieces .
It certainly affected Her but she did not dwell on it. Probably the shock of it.
I was pretty shocked (and deeply saddened) at the death of Robin Williams so I kind of get it .

Isn't that kind of related to the point OP made? Why make strange (and in this case, deeply unpleasant) statements at all if you're not prepared to elaborate on them?

In OP's case, her friend made a statement which might make sense if given a bit of context. Without the context, it looks like performative attention-seeking. Which your post did too, although much more unpleasant.

If I had feelings which I felt were justified but knew would make me sound horrible deranged without providing additional context, I would try to avoid expressing them publicly, unless I was really desperate for attention.

I just don't understand this type of performative grief over A list celebrities that people have never met.

Same here. I was sad when David Bowie died, and shocked by John Lennon's death because he was murdered, but I really don't understand the sort of mass outpouring that celebrity deaths seem to lead to.

Obviously sad for Ozzys loved ones , but I think we all knew that Ozzys time on earth was coming to an end , so not a great suprise . We are born, we live hopefully a long happy life , and then we die . The circle of life .

I cried when Sinead O’Connor died. But I literally grew up with her.