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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

It’s a driving one…

11 replies

inexperienceddriver · 22/07/2025 16:27

Have I done something wrong here - second guessing myself because I’ve had my license for under a year.

Turned in to a residential road, parked cars on my left squeezed in tightly, not leaving much space. There was an oncoming car from the other side, so I stop to let them go as their side is clear. If I really put my foot down, I could have snuck in front of them but I have two kids in the car so Im not chancing it and rather be safe so I wait.

A massive Audi behind me starts beeping at me to make me sneak in front. I ignore him, he keeps beeping me. I look in my mirrors and he is fully in the street, so the back of his car is not in the road we turned in from, there is no reason (unless someone can tell me otherwise) for him to be rushing me, other than impatience. And genuinely, we are taking about 20 seconds here.

Once the road is clear, I move (24mph in a 30) and because he was so close up my behind, he speeds up and cuts me up to overtake me but swings in right by the front of my car so I had to slam my breaks on because he was an inch away from my car. He was so impatient, had to overtake me on a residential road, full of parked cars and pedestrians. Immediately after there was a crossroads and he didn’t even slow to check if anything was coming from the other directions.

Anyways. I’m ready for being slammed for the length at which I’ve had my license, and the general dislike towards slower drivers (and I don’t mean doing 8 in a 30, just being more cautious) but it did really startle me at the time and I guess I just need a sense check.

YABU - you should’ve put your foot down and cut up the other car
YANBU - you got bullied by a massive SUV

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BlueMum16 · 22/07/2025 16:30

Sounds like you were doing the right thing and the Audi driver was being an arse.

TheSwarm · 22/07/2025 16:31

If you had time to clear the parked cars before the oncoming traffic arrived then really, you should have gone.

That said, the audi driver sounds like an impatient twat.

NewsdeskJC · 22/07/2025 16:44

There are always arsehole drivers about. Not related to how long you have had your licence

inexperienceddriver · 22/07/2025 16:56

TheSwarm · 22/07/2025 16:31

If you had time to clear the parked cars before the oncoming traffic arrived then really, you should have gone.

That said, the audi driver sounds like an impatient twat.

I hear you, there were a lot of parked cars though so I really would have had to accelerate. DH does say that the more I drive I’ll get better at distances and won’t give it thought but I just wanted to be safer than have a near miss.

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KillerMounjaro · 22/07/2025 16:59

Did you indicate that you were going to pull out? Could he have thought that you were actually parking there?

Farkinhell · 22/07/2025 17:03

Don't worry about it. If you didn't think it was safe to go you did the right thing by waiting.

Hopefully you have a dash cam and can send footage of him overtaking you in a residential area and ignoring the crossing to your localpolice forces safer roads initiative - he might get offered a safer driving course in lieu of points!

inexperienceddriver · 22/07/2025 17:21

Farkinhell · 22/07/2025 17:03

Don't worry about it. If you didn't think it was safe to go you did the right thing by waiting.

Hopefully you have a dash cam and can send footage of him overtaking you in a residential area and ignoring the crossing to your localpolice forces safer roads initiative - he might get offered a safer driving course in lieu of points!

I don’t have a dash cam! I really should!

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inexperienceddriver · 22/07/2025 17:23

KillerMounjaro · 22/07/2025 16:59

Did you indicate that you were going to pull out? Could he have thought that you were actually parking there?

I didn’t indicate, I just slowed to a stop to let the car through before carrying on. I wouldn’t be able to park there, it would have been too close to a junction. Not that it stops people I’ve learnt so far 🤣

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FionnulaTheCooler · 22/07/2025 17:23

inexperienceddriver · 22/07/2025 17:21

I don’t have a dash cam! I really should!

You definitely should get a dash cam, the roads are full of dickhead drivers especially Audi drivers.

Mischance · 22/07/2025 17:45

It is very interesting how perfectly pleasant and polite people can become so rude behind the wheel of a car. You proceeded with caution in a residential area - you were right to do so.

onceuponatimeinneverland · 22/07/2025 18:04

One thing that I learned early on in my many years of driving is to have confidence in your own decisions and don't be bullied by other road users pressing you/ intimidating you.

FionnulaTheCooler as an Audi TT driver I take umbrage at being classed as a dickhead driver! Thought that accolade was reserved for BMW drivers ? No?

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