To not want to host dh's brother's family alone

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Dh is a hobby musician. He signed up for this big concert thing that involves days off and a week of practice beforehand until 1am. We have two kids so that means I'm dealing with everything in terms of childcare and food etc for the week. Fine, ok, it's not every week, but still, it means this week I've been the one doing all the dentist appointments, packed lunches, taxi driving etc, everything. Today he tells me his brother is coming this weekend to see the concert . He and his wife and daughter are all going to pile into our house and stay for the whole weekend while he is NOT AROUND because he is practicing for the evening concerts from early morning until night. AIBU to think he should have told them to book accomodation? We have one tiny spare bedroom so their daughter will be on the sofa. I have no desire to host on my own but I haven't been given any choice in the matter. It's apparently my duty because my parents come to stay (they come to stay because I moved to his home country, and I'm always there when they come to stay). No idea what I want from this thread.

To be honest it would be harder to show him where everything lives than just making the cup of tea. He's gone finally. I've never enjoyed a Monday of work more thoroughly.

Surely you just leave some tea bags and sugar on the kitchen counter.

I bet it wouldn't have been harder, it's not rocket science to make a cup of tea. I'm also not sure why you wanted him to tag along with everything you did. You could have gone out with your friends with him, surely?

I didn't want him to tag along with everything I did. I'd have loved to just lounge peacefully in my own home alone this weekend, I didn't want to do anything. But he told me 'ill just go along with what you're doing" instead of what dh promised me, that he'd be taking himself off for day trips. So that meant either staying in with him all weekend making polite conversation, or finding something I could do with him.

You could have just told him no, sorry, you'd already made plans before it was foisted on you that he was coming. You don't have to aquiesce to everything your husband and his brother tell you.

There is no joint account 🤷 I don't mind him not paying so much as I mind the family members (he has 6 brothers and sisters) taking advantage. He has a well paid job and they think he should always cover the bill whether eating in or going to restaurants. After 20 years of this it won't change now and it's not down to me so say anything but I guess it doesn't bother him as much. Users are everywhere sadly, even your own flesh and blood.