Would you report a friend for benefit fraud?

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The scenario:

Your child is friends with their child, that's how you know them. You're friendly and see them for play dates but you're not especially close to them as a person.

They split up with their DH after years of infidelity and the DH moved out.

She is now claiming benefits as a single parent a year on but you suspect the xDH might be living there again.

Considerations:

I think she would qualify as being a disabled person based on health problems. They also have a disabled child.

Would you report this woman?

YABU - No
YANBU - Yes

I've name changed.

You’d be so evil to report her. This woman likely thinks that you’re a nice woman but meanwhile you’re looking to report her. Honestly, you don’t know the ins and outs of her business. Stay out of it, but I hope that energy finds you and fucks your shit up.

No, because all you have is assumptions and the word of a 7yo. If she and her child are disabled they could be struggling to cope on their own, so while the ex might be an arsehole, he still might be willing to help out and co parent for the sake of the kid.

We had a mum who suffered a severe mental breakdown and the dad (her ex) moved back in for a while to make sure the children were safe and keep some form of stability in place. That went on for months, while she was sectioned and then went through recovery. When things settled he went back to his flat(but around a lot) because they were still separated, but the needs of the children came first. They never got back together and they’re with different people now.

You don’t know he lives there, even if he does you don’t know what she claims or why. You do know she has health issues, a disabled child and has recently bene through a marriage break up, albeit potentially being resolved.

Do you not think based on what you know Vs what you think you know that you should stay the fuck out of her business?

I would if you knew 100% he lived there but you only have a suspicion atm.

I have already commented with a 'mind your own business' type post.

But I wanted to add I am always amazed at how people who start this type of thread claim to know so much about somebody else's financial situation.

In my 54 years on this planet I have never met anyone who randomly discloses to friends/acquaintances or colleagues every detail of the money they have coming in, what benefits they claim and how much money they receive from the state.

And I am also yet to meet anyone who loudly brags about claiming benefits they are not really entitled to.

Yet we keep having these threads where a self-righteous OP makes it their business to report benefit 'fraud' based on 'suspicions' and claims to know everything about somebody else's life.

Some people really need new hobbies.

You seem pretty determined to justify your reasoning op. I think regardless of what people are saying to you you’re going to report her. You just wanted us to justify it to you, which you’ve found isn’t the case. Shame on you when you don’t know her circumstances

No.

Oh god the the condescension. Do you really think you are the only person that understands DSDs? They have all been discussed on here millions of times. Of course CAIS individuals have a Y chromosome but are women. Of course we understand that its not really about the Y chromosome anyway, its about SRY gene expression. Of course we understand genetic mosaicism, rare as it is. Of course there are other downstream genetic disorders that stop sex hormones working properly. None of these rare genetic disorders change the fact that there are only 2 sex developmental pathways that humans beings can go down and they are mutually exclusive. There are no humans producing both eggs and sperm. There are no hermaphrodites. Sex is binary in humans and normal SRY gene expression, normaly found on the Y chromosome, works correctly 99.9% of the time in kicking off the male developmental pathway. Its all been discussed 1000 times. DSD individuals arent a third sex.

All well understood, for years, and explained at the molecular level with pictures here: https://theparadoxinstitute.org/read/sex-development-charts

Even in the rarest cases (extremely rare) or weird mosaicisms where some cells have Y chromosome/SRY activation/androgen sensitivity and some don't, the resultant human being is still female or male, has ovarian or testes or streak gonads. None of these extremely rare genetic mistakes gives a thrid sex or an actual hermaphrodite.

No wtf why would you even ask this

wrong thread!

Not on the basis of a suspicion.

You know nothing so have nothing to say