DH ate all the school snacks and I am ranting *&!@!

[StrawberrySundaes]

Not really an AIBU but I just needed to vent.

Went to make the school lunch and discovered (yet again) that DH has eaten all the snacks that I use for DS’s lunch. These were purchased on Thursday and have all gone by Sunday (not sure when but probably by Saturday lunchtime). He has form for this, usually every few months but it seriously annoys me when I don’t find out about it until Sunday evening after the shops have closed. Occasionally DH will admit he’s done it but I have enough time to replace the eaten items…. But not tonight.

It’ll be things like my son’s favourite biscuits, or those small snack size packets of crisps (like a box of 25) etc.

For reference my snack items I have to hide but my son’s things are usually safe. Feeling annoyed and want to buy a padlock and a f off sign.

What’s his justification for this?

Why is it your job to fix it?

@StrawberrySundaes tell him he needs to get up and out first thing for replacements and in future if he chooses to eat things for your child’s lunch he has to replace them too x

What childish, selfish, deeply unattractive behaviour.

OP isn’t in the UK. If she’s in Brisbane then school went back a week ago and it’s now the third term. We’ve had two weeks of winter school holidays prior to that.

@StrawberrySundaes Selfish greedy prick. The supermarkets open at 7am. Tell him to go and be there when the doors open to replace the school snacks.

I am in NZ so it’s now way too late to go get supplies. I am the SAHP so I do all the house admin, school stuff etc. I try to get all the groceries, catch-up shops done by Friday so I don’t have to go to my local shops over the weekend.

Sorry I was just feeling mad and needed to vent.

He is a binge eater so I see the behaviour. I think he’s going through a bad patch atm hence the vent.

2 issues here. 1 he is a selfish entitled prick and 2 he has a problem with food. I am guilty of the second but have never eaten someone else's stuff. When your child asks where their snacks are tell them.

I'd get a box with a lock on it. My brother is a binge eater, it's a mentally compulsive thing. I hated growing up with him, as he'd eat everything and show no remorse. Once he ate 12 freshly baked cakes that were for school the following day. He didnt care one bit and thought I was stupid to cry. In fact it's one of the reasons his girlfriend spilt from him. She found it impossible to keep replacing food on a very limited budget, and it affected the children. Your husband needs to see someone about it, perhaps even hypnotherapy. I had hypnotherapy for a fear I once had, it's cured it for me.

Binge eating doesn't excuse this.

And you need to make him responsible for his actions.

Stop replacing your DC's snacks, that's your DH's responsibility.

Simple solution. Packed lunches are his responsibility from now on.

Why does everyone here assume all posters live in the UK?

I expect because Mumsnet is a UK website so it's natural to assume unless told otherwise.

If I started a thread on a chat forum in India for example, I would mention that I live in the UK to prevent any confusion.

Tell him to replace them. Do it every time he does this.

Not all, we've got another two days to go.

Get him down to a 24 hour Countdown supermarket.

Or paknsave

I miss those 😢🤣

Our school in London don't break up until Tuesday.

I'll tell work that we're closed tomorrow morning. Not sure what the Police will do with a thousand kids turning up expecting to be educated, only to find the staff haven't come in, but I'm sure they'll manage somehow.

I get not all schools are broke up for summer yet (in Scotland they’re all off already) but the time here was out for the post

😂

It is mainly a uk based site i think posters like myself just don't read properly then assume, which is irrirating.

He needs to get help for his eating disorder.

He ought to be getting up very early tomorrow to get to a shop.

You need to find a better hiding place or padlocked box. Maybe leave a couple of things he can 'find' to stop him searching for more.

I did wonder about BED or bulimia reading this. It is pretty classic behaviour. I've been there with it myself . But if so he needs to seek treatment (Overeaters Anon ? See a GP? Contact BEAT?) And replace the missing food or pay for it. I've been dealing with BED since a child . I'm not proud of the fact I stole food from my parents, as an adult I would try to replace it if I had a lapse and did this in someone's home.

He needs to take responsibility for himself though he is leaving his kids short for lunches, inconveniencing you because you have the stress of replacements, I understand binge eating is an emotional issue but i don't think you should be clearing up after him.

I agree that some sort of lock box for food he can't get to.

I am/was a binge eater and I have never, ever once left my kid without her lunch. It's not a reason or an excuse. In fact as a binge eater I never let myself have no food in on a Sunday evening. I know addictions are selfish but even if he does eat his kids food, it's on him to replace it or at the very, very, very fucking irresponsible least be letting you know he's eaten it.

I hide all the treats and snacks in my house, otherwise they wouldn't last a day.

Why?

Are you living with someone who has an ED, or just an incredibly selfish person?

Do you have to hide anything else from them?