Friend should have told me her toilet seat was broken?

[AnimalLover24]

A bit of an unusual one - I visited my friends house yesterday for a coffee and a catch up which we arranged a week or so ago. After an half an hour or so I said I would pop to use the loo and she casually told me ‘oh - the toilet seat broke the other day so there isn’t one on there’.

As a slightly larger lady, ‘hovering’ as she suggested isn’t exactly straight forward.

Do you think she should have told me about this ahead of time?

I thought you had fallen off because it was broken and she hadn't said anything.

YABU and unless she knows you're diagnosed with OCD, precious.

I thought you were going to say you'd got the dreaded split seat arse pinch. Certainly that needs a warning before you sit down. Though not necessarily at the time the invitation us extended? Though happy to be corrected on etiquette.

This is hilarious.
Also as a size 16 I would have just sat on the bowl or squatted over the toilet and be done with it! Sitting on the bowl is exactly like sitting on a toilet seat in terms of hygiene, one difference is that it is narrower. Mildly uncomfortable for a few seconds.
I can't believe people post about stuff like this!

I hope the OP is enjoying how much toilet talk they've generated. Fortunately it has'nt veered towards the scatalogical yet. 😂

Complete non issue. Either hover or sit on the bowl.

In which case you really need to focus on muscle strength.

Why not? The bowl can be just as clean.

Last time I was in Madeira I went to some public loos that were seatless. They didn't even have the fixing holes for a seat, so were designed that way.

Don't ever come to my house OP - the whole place is held together by bits of blue tac and string. 😉

Do you have bladder issues? I wouldn’t expect a visitor to need to use the toilet within only half an hour of arriving, if someone is only popping over for a coffee I’d probably assume they’d go at home before they arrived and wouldn’t need to go again before leaving.

I think the OP is being utterly unreasonable to have expected to be told, but some of the comments about fitness are mean. Some people just can’t do certain positions even fit people. Hovering requires good balance and I do not have that’…well especially now, only one leg…but even when I had 2 I couldn’t squat and hover because I’d fall over!

I can just imagine the thread if she had pre warned you...

Friend fat shamed me aibu to have cancelled?
I was due to visit my friend last week until she texted me to say "Just wanted to warn you the toilet seat is broken, in case you find it hard to hover". Aibu to have cancelled, I'm really offended she thinks I'm too fat?

I think she might not even have realised it would be an issue for you. I think you said you were a size 16 which isn't very big. Although I suppose if you are on a weight loss journey (we'll done) then you might have some core weakness.

The contents of the bowl afterwards are much more gross than an invisible hazard on a porcelain pot.

I don’t know if i’d have mentioned before they came, perhaps. But I don’t think it’s a massive issue. Most people can hover or sit on the rim. Usually some bathroom cleaner lurking in someone’s bathroom so you could have cleaned it first if preferred.

Are you for real 😂

Not 'as a society', it's mostly just MN, in the real world of normal people this wouldn't be an issue! I'm sure that there are people on here who would feel anxious if they didn't feel anxious about something.

I seem to have shares in Gorilla tape, including for this laptop!

This is such a non-issue. I’d think my friend really odd if she felt it necessary to warn me about a broken toilet seat 😂 Just sit on the rim.

I think if you can't hover for 30 secs that it a level of poor fitness that is a disability?

I'm a size 18 and I can run and do squats.

I'm not trying to be mean but as previously posted said your old age is going to be really unpleasant unless you do more.

@AnimalLover24 you weren’t being body shamed whatsoever. The poster made a perfectly valid observation.

Until fairly recently I had a BMI of 42 so I have more experience than most of life in a very large body.

It’s not body-shaming to tell you that this is an early warning sign that you need to address your functional strength and fitness fairly urgently. Well done on your weight loss so far.

Size and age aren't everything. Arthritic knees 😫

Surely you do that before you go out anywhere?

Did she have toilet roll? I've visited some people who often run out.

I wold have sat on the bowl. Until my most recent visit to Italy, this was how I found public toilets there and had to do that because I don't hover either.

Even worse was my Mum who would decide to clean the toilet by removing the seat/lid and the fastenings , soak the fastening buts in a jar of bleach (never to be seen again ) then perch the un-secured seat back , so if you sat down unaware , it slipped and I knocked my back on the hard surface .
Her answer to "Mum , why'do take the bog seat off and make it dangerous "? was "Oh , I don;t sit on it "
She only got a new one when my Gran came to visit .