Surely, if you take away the identities/nationalities and what you are left with are actions and consequences that you cannot in all conscience, stand by and condone, then that is what is fundamentally important?
People are being wilfully deprived of food, water, shelter, basic amenities. Men, women and children. Places where they should be safe, they are being killed. Schools, homes, hospitals, stations where they have to go to get provisions to enable any hope of basic survival.
They are being run out of their homes, their communities, with nowhere to go.
These actions that are being done to them, are being called war crimes, etc, by the international forums empowered to investigate and make those calls.
That is the here and now, regardless of the identities, regardless of the history.
Another way to look at it, is to turn it around. If it was done unto you, rather than done by you, or done by somebody else to you, would you be thinking of it in different terms?
And yes, I fully put my hand up to being a middle aged white woman who gives a damn. Not sure why anyone would think that should be an insult, or a rebuke that should shut me up, to be honest.
I also do not accept that this in and of itself makes me ignorant, or my opinion or position as being without merit, or worthy only of contemptuous dismissal. Although of course, anyone is more than free to do so. They have the same right to an opinion, including on my opinion, as anybody else.