DH annoyed because I didn’t give him his dinner first?

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My brother popped in this evening he wanted some help with prepping for his job interview. I was dishing up dinner everyone was upstairs my brother was in the kitchen with me. DC then had diarrhoea in the downstairs toilet so I just gave my brother that plate whilst I attended to poo-gate. DH came downstairs whilst my brother was eating and I was cleaning up poo and gave me the most deadly stare. I said to him do you want your dinner now as sometimes he likes to have it later. He said I should have had mine first! He’s still going on about it!

I think he's being unreasonable. Have you asked him why he feels this way? I mean his feelings are valid and you should validate how he's feeling.

I’m slightly intrigued why your brother started eating instead of waiting for everyone in the house to sit up to table, but mostly concerned with what a bellend your DH is. Is this a one-off or is he always Big Man of the House? Does he insist on penis portions like he’s Pa from Little House on the Prairie?

It’s scary that men like this still exist. I hope OP finds her anger.

Because he’d just been given a plate of food and no one else was at the table. Why let the food get cold?

No, you shouldn’t validate the feelings of a man who gives you a deadly stare for dealing with a child poo emergency and feeding a guest.

I think that you need to stop cooking for him for at least 6 months because “you’re worried that you’ll do it wrong and upset him”. Eat separately and just make yourself a salad or something.

Do not regain confidence in your ability to please him until either he has apologised profusely and shown some gratitude for what you do, or until he has cooked enough meals that he truly understands how lucky he is to have you cook for him.

It’s not an AI post, people just say that to sound smart. The OP’s thread is just another depressing reality for some women

Am I the only one who thinks that it’s weird to serve just the person who happens to be in the kitchen? If dinner is ready in my house, it’s only served when everyone is in the kitchen to help serve/ take plates to the table etc.
I do think ops husband is a knob though.

im not saying he's right but you need to validate his feelings. You can communicate in ways "I see that you're upset over this, what could I have done differently?"

He may be a very sensitive man from what I'm reading.

I recently worked with a French woman (in her 20's) who said that serving the man first was normal, then the kids and lastly the woman of the house - I was utterly horrified. Op, your dh is indeed a knob - if you have only just realised this, I feel very sorry for you but I suspect he has form.

@AnotherLongtimelurker Ha, no, that stood out to me too! Brother merrily eating away while the cook is stuck dealing with poo-gate and half the household isn’t around.

The 1950s called. They want your husband back.

What a twat.

Is there something wrong with his hands?

Saying “what could I have done differently?" assumes OP was in wrong.

He doesn’t sound sensitive, he sounds abusive.

No decent man would have been angry in this situation.

How do you spot them? 🤔

Your DH behaved like a spoiled jealous little kid.
You will know if this one was just one time or if he does it frequently. In any case he was out of order.

I agree. Designed to create maximum outrage when traffic is low. OP probably won't be back.

What a twat.

in our house it’s dh who cooks the dinner and we all get served at the same time! No favourites or big egos in our house.

It was the OP’s brother

Ah, sorry, I misread it.

He can put food in his own plate, this is so pathetic.

Assuming there was enough food for everyone this is really odd behaviour

Remind him this is 2025 not 1945, sad sod

Is this from the 1950’s?

Does he think he’s Lord and Master of all?!