To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

[naturalcrackle111]

New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Paying off CC debt while being a single parent 🤡 it’s not insurmountable but it weighs on me.

just lost my job and after just working out how much money i will have left I have discovered I will have about £40 per month to buy food with, this includes cat food.

Finding damage to my Argos order and having to wait 2 days for new spare parts. It's a kitchen table and chairs and the massive and heavy opened boxes are on the kitchen floor. Now I have to reassemble my old kitchen table as my cousin is coming around for dinner tomorrow.

Have you thought about volunteering - I’ve heard about programmes where you can be a pseudo grandparent or similar for children in care for example to give them the opportunity to build a long term caring relationship.

Sending a virtual handhold and/or hug to you all. Some of these posts are absolutely heartbreaking and I hope with one step at a time, some can make it to a brighter future 💐.

Thanks so much, its difficult but I know it's a lifelong grief so it's just about learning how to balance it. My daughter has absolutely brought light to our life again. Some days are just a little harder than others

Autistic daughter who has demand avoidance and ocd. Shouts, swears and physical meltdowns where she throws whatever missle she can get her hands on. At me.

it's like living with an abusive partner but no escape because she's a child! Constant battle to get any support at all.

If I am being honest, whilst there are a lot of challenges in my life at the moment, the biggest problem is my astounding ability to avoid dealing with any of them in a productive way !

Hate my job and need a new one but no motivation to look and probably won't get anything due to age. DS can't find part time work around his studies either.

Definitely this.....

Toxic positivty isn't a solution either though. As you say it is all subjective.

I echo this. You have said exactly what I wanted to say, but better than I would have done. Sending everyone love and strength.

Worry that we will not be financially secure in the future.

Thankyou so much! That is amazing and gives me so much hope! Xx

My post was in response to @inezname , sent without quote.

Right now? The DWP.
My ten year PIP review is sat waiting to be looked at. Could take up to a year and right in the middle of that they decided that NOW was the time (after 10 years on ESA to "migrate" me to UC.
Arseholes!

Please consider getting advice from IPSEA. They are brilliant at giving advice on SEND issues, including how to appeal when a child is turned down for an EHCP or a special school.

Parent has cancer , incurable but treatable to keep it at bay, worried they won't continue with treatment.

Happy to hear of minor first world problems. Please don't feel the need to be silenced - surely we don't want everyone going through major crisis?

Our life was as dull and as unproblematic as it could get apart from grumpy DS and declining health of elderly relatives. Then things started to go pear-shaped after DS announced he was trans and us trying to be gentle as possible without agreeing to puberty blockers didn't go well at all. He was so consumed with gender dysphoria and miserable, he hated us for dogwhistling GC talking points, tried to end life multiple times, inpatient, etc. It was hell emotionally.

But it's never just GD - there were lots of other issues uncovered, incl autism. We are in so much better place now. GD is not as all consuming as it used to be, but I don't know what future holds and we are too focused on building up mutual trust. At least we talk.

I'm severely disabled. My dad and my OH were my carers but they both suddenly died within a few weeks of each other last year leaving me to cope alone.

Social services are overwhelmed and staff turnover is insane so my case keeps getting lost. I've yet to have my initial assessment despite being referred 3 times as my case keeps getting given to someone who quits soon after and doesn't get handed over properly.

The house is a mess, I'm drowning in debt, my health is getting worse and worse and I'm struggling majorly with the grief of losing my partner of 15 years. I feel like I can't start to even deal with it as just keeping myself alive takes all my energy. Then on top of all this I'm hearing in the news constantly about how I'm not really disabled and should just go get a job and stop being a waste of money (I don't score any 4s despite getting getting 17 points at assessment in daily living).

I’m in an OCD pit of hell that I can’t seem to get out of.

Health houses for both myself and dh.

Issues not houses.

"Toxic Positivity"
Oh yes I've seen that in action too. Not too helpful.
Best Wishes to all on here. With the quote from the King James version. "Faith Hope and Charity, the greatest is Charity".

There's a charity called PEGS that might be able to help. They support families experiencing child to parent abuse. I can also recommend a facebook group called Parental Abuse by Children (PABC) which has a lot of families that have loved ones with autism who display violent and challenging behaviour xx

Im clinically depressed, I am waiting for a tailored therapy course that will likely start in September but I have to survive the summer holidays first when all I want to do is disappear and be alone.