To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

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New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Oh dear I’m sorry , I hope you can get that checked out
This could be many things but (could be a middle ear issue , or something like vestibular neuritis / labyrinthitis or blood pressure)
I had bouts of vestibular issues and it’s awful

I am sorry that sounds hideously painful x

Have you tried Jude supplements?
Plus make sure you’re actually drinking enough water as not drinking enough causes that irritable bladder situation where you feel like you need a wee but you don’t IYSWIM ?

@GlitteryUnicornSparkles totally feel for your son, I can understand why he keeps saying he wants to kill himself because no one understands what it's like unless your going through it yourself or with a child. My 3 year old has severe chronic eczema as well and it's honestly been horrific... But good news is, the immune suppressants (Methotrexate) are working and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!! We were petrified of the side effects too but so far they have been minimal and his bloods have been perfect every time almost, just slightly off if he has a cold or when he had impetigo. His appetite is up and down but he's delayed so can't tell us if he's feeling sick or not hungry, he also won't say he's hungry, just starts getting his Weetabix out.. he had 6 for breakfast the other day 😂 I also know someone who was on it for 20 years and no side effects, and one of our nurses has a daughter who was on the biggest dose you can have and she also has no side effects.
Sending lots of love and healing to your son 🤞🏼🩵

Had to respond to this- life changing diagnosis - my autistic son was 5. As a t1d myself I knew the 24/7 nature of it however so difficult as my son was non verbal and had zero hypo awareness. 2 years in and on hybrid closed loop pump he’s coped better than I ever could have imagined. Does mean there’s Betty few other people in this world I can leave him with. His restricted eating has actually made it easier to manage as we’ve learnt exactly what each food does for his blood sugars- by no means a typical diabetic diet but we manage great time in range and hba1c. Go easy on yourself - reccomend reading how to think like a pancreas. And I promise it gets easier.

Supporting Adult DS through mental health problems but he has made amazing strides.
we’ve talked and talked . And I’ve done it for years now.

My Job also involves a bit of support to folk too .
Im exhausted by it but have decided to do something positive and have an interview for the Samaritans .
Something I have thought about for years actually . I’ll soon know whether they think I can make it .

Me too. Get ENT checks for Meniere's, Labyrinthitis and Vertigo.
Also something called BPPV. Can be treated with the Epley manoeuvre.

Good luck.

• Being In debt
• Realising that my new manager at work is going to be the biggest nightmare in my many years in the job

Could you give up the foster caring?

That I’m really struggling with chronic depression and suicidal ideation but when if I try and speak to someone about it I get met with minimising and downplaying because the thought that I am feeling like that is too uncomfortable for others so they’d prefer to just be in denial and pretend everything is ok.

Thank you. The last few days is not as few as first thought. But still inevitably heading that way.

Can you access a crisis counselling service. Sadly most people don't know how to handle a loved ones mental health. Can you tell them you're not looking for answer or reasoning just a listening ear.
Fight those thoughts, with everything that you have. You will be deeply missed, life is forever changing, the good and bad, this time will change too.
Be kind to yourself, you deserve to be alive and loved, not a memory.

I’m glad to hear treatment is working for your son. We decided to go with Cyclosporin over Methotrexate even though we felt Methotrexate was the safer option from a health perspective because its supposed to start working faster (in 1-2 weeks as opposed to 12-24 week and he needs relief yesterday and in time to start college). 20 years sounds insane, we’ve been told the maximum duration is 18 months. If it doesn’t work or he flairs back up as soon as he stops then he can then try dupixent, which honestly is ridiculous you can’t get from the start given it has far less potential side effects. I hope things continue to go well for your boy.

I need to raise the alarm on a safeguarding issue for friends who need Early Help. Fully prepared to lose the friendship.

@GlitteryUnicornSparkles We weren't given a choice nor were we told a time limit on it so will have to ask about that. It didn't start working until about 13-14 weeks and we've just upped the dose 2 weeks ago so really hoping 2mls is the magic dose for him!
Thankyou! X

Perimenopause hell 😔 yes I’m on HrT but still struggle some days.
Divorce final order came through last Tuesday.
Dh only left the fh April 2024 but his reasoning was why hang about 🤣
DD had school refusal which was extremely stressful then she got a place at a learning centre for 2 hours a day 4 days a week so I had to give up my job of lunchtime supervisor which I’d started last October to get experience and do TA training 😭 but it clashed with pick up time, had no one else to do it, previous to that I worked 15 hours in a kitchen but felt I’d finally realised my vocation in life after never knowing what I wanted to be/do. Kind of regret leaving previous job as money was quite good.
So now I’m an unemployed single parent and can’t work again until she goes back to full time school.
She even refused to go to the special centre a few times and I was feeling totally defeated and suicidal 😭
I live 7 miles away from family support and friends. She won’t do sleepovers with Dad so I rarely get a break, if I get asked to go out which is once a month ish he has to come here to watch her and my son who does stay with dad regularly.

Hopefully now she will settle down with divorce and house we are staying in for now. She’s undiagnosed Asd/adhd.

DH left us with a half finished kitchen 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve no money to pay anyone to finish it.

I think I’ll be single a few years because how the hell can I date in Perimenopause hell 🤣

Drs think I’ve had a heart attack after several ECG/ECHO’s I didn’t even notice so must have been mild, I’m a single mom to a very complex medical needs child & one of my parents has Alzheimer’s but hey the sun is shining & life keeps moving forward & my SEND child is the happiest human I know, so it ain’t all bad & somethings are out of our control & we just have to make the best of what life throws at us & look for the good stuff.😀

Hi I’m in a similar situation my son is autistic non verbal had a kidney transplant hates needles & blood pressure monitors we have a fantastic desensitisation nurse help us, it might be worth seeing if this service is available in your area I totally get were you are coming from take care xx

Oh and the air con has not worked on my used car I purchased last year at all this year so I’m dying in this heat with all the hot 🥵 flushes

Same!!!

Still living in an isolated region with a local yokel culture and my entire life has been wasted in the time I've spent here. I'm looking at that 'Ive wasted 8 years of my life' thread and wishing I could have my life back.

Note to all young women: Do not have kids. Men lie. They lie again and again. they promised us equality in the 90s and here we are, with women's work devalued and still women paying for the lies.

Well...the anniversary of both my best friend and my mum's deaths in a few days. Still bitterly grieving and regretting my divorce despite being cheated on. He is my only support here. My kids are being homeschooled due to anxiety and bullying but one's refusing to do any work. My father is dying 400 miles away in a care home who were mistreating him and I had to report it. I've just moved him to a better one thankfully. My sibling is unstable and often blows up at me when stressed. I have chronic health conditions and I'm off work as mental health's in the toilet. We are struggling financially.
I do still believe better days are around the corner though.

My biggest problem at the moment is my hip, hopefully that will get sorted out soon. I am hopefully getting a hip replacement, all being well on the 29th July 2025. My secret problem is that hearing about the death of an ex-boyfriend's sister earlier this year, has re-awaken my feelings about him (That is my ex-boyfiend). He was very close to his sister and I care very much for him but he doesn't want to know, probably because I am married and I live too far away to see how he is.

I feel the same about where I live, which (I know it sounds snobbish but I can’t help that) has so many astonishingly limited, impoverished, uneducated people.

Can I ask where you are?

The short, medium and long term future of my very autistic 4 year old.