To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

[naturalcrackle111]

New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Rescues sometimes want foster carers for cats and kittens and will
pay for all food and vets bills! Give them a try.

Mate, get the cat. Get a shift in a care home once a month or in a shop to pay the food and insurance, and get the cat x

I'm a SAHM to a 1 and a 3 year old, I have a history of HG pregnancies and I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant with number 3.

Have you considered cat fostering? They pay vets/ food/ expenses so you could have all the cat love without financial responsibility.

Organising my mum's funeral, while feeling highly emotional about my non verbal son turning 26.

Another manager i work with is stressed with their team, I am stressed with my team. Both teams are busy but apparently his is always worse and he's taking it out on me and my team. My team are getting annoyed with his attitude and I am fed up being piggy in the middle. I can see both sides so am trying to mediate..

My house is being renovated following a flood, I can't even sit in my own lounge. It's so annoying but should be done soon hopefully.

Thank you. I didn't know about anything like that. I'll look into it. 😺

Worrying about civil war in Europe.

mentally unstable sibling who lives with my mother who enabled sibling a lot and now is bearing the brunt of sibling’s dependency, think
mother expects me to look after sibling when she is no longer here but I have my own health issues.

I wouldn’t say so much as ‘problem’ but a worry - currently 9.5 weeks pregnant after 3 losses, just praying every day that I’ll be entering the second trimester at the end of the month. Such a worry ❤️🌈

Me too. It’s shit isn’t it. 💐

Where to start?

Had a sudden and shocking bereavement, young close family member died in dreadful circumstances and my feelings range from disbelief, to numbness, to being ambushed by uncontrollable crying. So that is the worst as I just cannot make any sense of it. It happened about 6 weeks ago and while my friends were intitally supportive nobody has mentioned ot for well over 2 weeks, it feels as I should be "over it". Met some of them for a meal at the weekend and not one of them mentioned what had happened or asked me how I was doing. I felt that I had to protect their feelings by doing my best not to talk about it. Maybe I am being oversensitive and am still in shock so am being too hard on my friends.

Apart from that, another relative has been the victim of a serious violent attack and then two weeks later I too was a victim of an unrelated and scary crime. I feel overwhelmed, I feel cursed which I know is daft,

Then there is the fact that I hate where I live and there is no way I can afford to move. The only thing i enjoy is sleeping because it is some respite from my problems. Sorry to sound so negative, just feel that my back is up against the wall currently

Yes thanks, someone else mentioned it. Definitely worth looking into, Sometimes solutions come along in a form you don't expect.😺

Nothing compared to this thread - but pretty much - do I turn down promotion and £5k pay rise because I dunno if I can be bothered with a 30 minute commute.

Sorry to hear what everyone else is facing.

Managing AuDHD son's demand avoidance and mental health...

Single parent of 4. 3 dc with SEND.

Ds finished college, no support, no help, no training and no job.

Trying to support him and organise something.

My dad has Dementia and is declining rapidly. It's exhausting.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
in sure it’s knocked you for six - it sounds hideous.
In terms of your friends, it may be worth messaging them or saying that you feel sad/ your still missing and grieving your friend. I do think people who haven’t experienced extreme grief expect people to move on more quickly than they do and aren’t sure whether they should mention the person who’s died in case it upsets you. I think it’s ok to bring up their name and talk about your relative. I really hope at least one of them will understand. Another approach is to try and get some grief counselling as this will give you ways to understand what’s happening to you and ideas on how to get through it.
People do get through it but it takes time,
Im sorry for your loss @lifeonmars100

Lifeonmars 100
that sounds so hard for you just now and I just wanted to say sorry. I hope things pick up for you soon
take care of yourself

Chronic pain condition that the masking is slipping on. I keep it private and go about daily life with none the wiser. Most with my condition don't work and receive help. I won't allow that to happen until I'm literally bed bound. I want to live every second of everyday to the fullest extent I can. To enjoy my family and work. To succeed and see my kids grow.

This is so true, I now look back at the things that I was moaning about before my family was hit by tragedy and it seems like a golden age that I did not appreciate.

That I'm ill again. It's a repeat of last week and I have no idea what on earth that was about

(It's a fever of some sort which comes and goes. Spent last Tuesday not knowing whether I wanted to vomit or pass out. I just want to vomit now)

What's wrong with a vocational course?

My husband's cousin lost two sons aged 10 and 6. They both drowned.
The very next day the boys mother lost her brother who died of a cardiac arrest aged 31.

This thread is making me cry. I want to put the kettle on, make us all a big pot of tea, and then hug everyone.

That all sounds so tough - I hope you can push for some kind of holiday. Things seem better when youve rested - good luck xx