To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

[naturalcrackle111]

New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Err trying not to die? Or at least limit the complications from my life limiting illness?

Not for my own sake, for my daughter’s.

Can’t wait for a bathroom to be my biggest worry.

oh how I wish for normal, mundane and boring!

Certainly isn't as major as alot of the posters on here but im 9 weeks pregnant and due to start a new job in a few weeks time and im just so nervous they will somehow find a way to get rid of me but I need this job so badly and the security of having something to go back to after maternity leave after being a broke ass student for over two years.

My Sarcoma cancer and the fact chemo has put me in hospital. That my mouth is so inflamed and sore, I can barely eat. Awful. I want to cry.

This is so trivial in comparison to many others but I want a cat.

I'm on a very low fixed income and can't give them the life they deserve. It would be selfish to get one to service my needs when I can't service theirs properly. I just want another heartbeat in my home. I want to come home and have someone pleased to see me. That's all.

It's a cat. A bloody cat. I don't need to win the lottery. I'm not asking for the moon on a stick. Just a cat but it's out of reach.

Starting radiotherapy for non-Hodgkin lymphoma next week (chemo was cut short due to devastating side effects).

DS 25 never comes out of his room unless forced. He was sectioned 6 years ago following a psychotic episode and won’t have any kind of therapy or talk about how he feels or what he wants. He walks away if I try and speak to him and I’m at a total loss. Ex-H minimises the severity of the situation as he doesn’t see DS very often.

Lastly (and just a whinge and obviously not my biggest problem), I’m using my savings to get the bathroom re-done and halfway through have realised the shower is far too small, the floor tiles look shit and it’s going to look crap (other than the shower tray and bath, it’s pretty much a bare shell ATM). 7k FFS!

My job is shite, doesn't pay enough, DH's job is shite and doesn't pay enough, but not entitled to any benefits. Robbing Peter to pay Paul every month. Car is off the road, been to 3 garages can't find anything wrong it. Absolute PITA as DH works permeant nights and is having to cycle to work and back.

My older dog who was the missing piece in my recovery from a major depressive disorder relapse is fading. I won’t keep him alive when he’s ready I’ll let him go but fucking hell im so scared.

Current 'problems' would relate to our renovation like the builder dropping out on us etc... and we can't do the kitchen/bathroom/roof ourself but really its not that bad in the grand scheme of life.

We are massively privileged to now be in a position to have a house to renovate and non of the issues are life and death, its just a lot of work to do to be doing 1000 DIY tasks in 1 house while prepping to move from another and watching 3 kids because schools now off.

A very stressful financial situation - can’t say more on here but it’s been a nightmare for the past 3 years

Can't help with the others, but can help with the crayon yellow hair debacle. Have a look at the 'Drop-It' toning drops from Shrine. They work really well, especially on newly bleached hair.

As for me, I'm heartsick that one close friend has just been widowed much too young, and the other has just been told their twenty something child has MND. I cannot make everything better for them and it kills me.

Also, simply cannot get DB to agree on how to dispose of our Mum's ashes. It's like trying to negotiate the bloody Treaty of Versailles. But I won't compromise my integrity, and her wishes, to placate DB. It's been nearly 7 years FFS.

i think it’s very easy to go through life not really realising how much struggle/suffering there is around us. Esp if you dint have major issues yourself.

But in reality, money worries, health problems, death, etc etc…. It’s all there. All around us. It’s not depressing. It’s life really.

And as @naturalcrackle111 said, what also often comes out is how people are readily helping each other.

Also I wanted to say, quite a few people said ‘oh my worries are really like nothing compare to others’.
Please don’t compare. Because it’s impossible to compare life and struggles. Too many variables to take into account. And you should never dismiss your own struggles and feelings.

My dog had an upset tummy recently and I got him some ProKolin from pets at home. It worked really quickly and he's been fine since

Trying to make solid plans for our next overseas move.
Trying to nail down the area we want to find housing in, figure out schools for the DCs, get an idea of the job market for me……..
But still waiting for a pencil pusher at The Pentagon to tick a box acknowledging that none of us have any medical needs requiring on-going treatment at the new duty station 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠 That’s literally the last step, and it’s taking aaaaaages

Sorry to hear you're struggling with that. Also hate the feeling of looking back and realising I should have asked for help 2 weeks earlier. So, maybe reach out to your mental health team (or GP) and give them a heads up? The crisis team or recovery team or whoever you're under might just be able to check in with you every couple of days to see if things are getting better or worse.

A garage told me this about my car two years ago when I needed a new steering column - found a different garage who charged me half the price and also specialised in steering columns, car still going strong! If you can get a second opinion it might be worth it.

At the moment it all boils down to money, well, a lack of it.

Car needs work to pass MOT, summer holidays as of next week, new uniforms needed in 5-6 week, all just as our UC entitlement is reducing from almost covering our rent to being barely anything and we're not quite ready for it.

Thankfully my mum is able and willing to plug the gaps for us while we work things out

Landlords.
Charging me through the nose in rent and making it impossible for me to save for a house deposit.

Then turning my whole world upside down with a section 21 and leaving me with such severe stress over the whole experience that I now have ptsd and don’t feel secure wherever I live because I keep expecting it to happen again.

Summary, I’m caused the most stress by greedy and selfish landlords and my inability (currently) to buy my own home and feel the sense of security anyone should be able to feel in their home.

EHCP Tribunal

Graduate son home from uni and the worry about whether he will find a job or not.

I hear you about saving for a deposit, that was mine I posted as well, despite us spending £945 a month on rent ☹️

Much loved Mum with dementia. Useless sibling

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Been in a relationship 15 years and a year ago gave my dp an ultimatum to make an actual commitment to me or I'm off.

That year is up this week and guess what...?

I lost my son to suicide this time last year and now his brother isn’t speaking to me either as he blames me although I honestly don’t know how I could have prevented it. My whole family has imploded.

DH has been diagnosed with heart failure . He is on meds but is a shadow of his former self . Sending love and strength to everyone on this thread