AIBU to think there is always a default parent?

[NewMomma21]

Just looking for peoples views and experiences.

In your relationship is there a default parent, ie a parent that takes on more of the load in terms of domestic chores, parenting, night time wake ups, mental load of coming up with and preparing meals and activities. Or would you say it’s evenly split with your other half?

YANBU in reality there is always a default parent

YABU no such thing everything is evenly split

You might be able to keep the house. Definitely worth seeing a solicitor.

As a child my default parent was my mum, although as I’ve grown up I’m more likely to ask my dad for help/advice.

Anyway, back to the original question…not in our house. There’s default parents for certain things…if it’s a life admin question (is XYZ club on, are we free this day, what time is that) then it’s DH. If it’s “where is X thing” it’s me (probably because I’ve tidied it away 😂), if it’s food related it’s DH, things like night time issues were whoever wakes up. All in all, no there isn’t a singular one…