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Constance Marten case — I feel the police have some responsibility too

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Siff · 15/07/2025 09:46

I know Constance Marten and her partner made dangerous and illegal choices, and I’m not excusing that — a baby died and that’s heartbreaking. But I can’t stop thinking about the way the case was handled and whether the police have some responsibility in how things unfolded.

As a mum of four who’s struggled mentally after birth, I keep thinking: if I had just given birth, was vulnerable, and felt like the whole world was hunting me down — would I have thought clearly? Probably not. The media coverage was intense, and the police were everywhere. The pressure must have been overwhelming.

I honestly believe the fear created by the police operation pushed them into making more and more desperate and risky decisions to stay hidden. It wasn’t just a search — it felt like a witch hunt. No safeguarding, no attempt to reach her as a vulnerable mother, just a hard push to capture and punish.

I think that approach had consequences. The police must take some responsibility for creating the kind of fear and pressure that led to this tragedy. The way they went about it likely made things worse — not better — for the baby.

It’s easy to say she was selfish or unstable, but mental health in the postnatal period is fragile. People don’t always think rationally when terrified. I just wish there had been more humanity in how it was all handled.
Anyone else feel the same?

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Wintersgirl · 15/07/2025 15:52

KassandraOfSparta · 15/07/2025 10:20

Have a read of this article if you're still feeling sorry for this pair.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn0zkg4g4zyo

What the actual fuck? I might have missed it but why were they not in contempt of court? Disgraceful behaviour...

EmeraldShamrock000 · 15/07/2025 15:53

Mark Gordon should never been allowed around DC. When a 14 y.o will rape and assault they're a lost cause.

MummytoBoth · 15/07/2025 16:00

Completely disagree and I say that as someone who has also suffered mental health issues. Children are not removed from family without good reason. The lengths that both parents went to to cover up this birth and the lack of any responsibility afterwords from them both is enough for me to think the Police handled the case the way they needed too. Terrible outcome for the baby, but I have little sympathy as a mother for both Gordon and Marten.

electric69 · 15/07/2025 16:11

tsmainsqueeze · 15/07/2025 15:51

Absolute rubbish - she apparently had the means so why was the baby dressed in just a babygrow , no blanket ,no snow suit ,no hat when seen in the images taken in i think McDonalds , that alone quashes her argument that she always wanted the best for her children.
Anyone with a brain cell knows how a newborn baby is dangerously at risk when inadequately dressed in cold weather.
What kind of woman has yet more children with a man she finds out is a convicted dangerous rapist.
Read the facts ,this stupid woman is reponsible for the devastation those poor children now have to navigate throughout the rest of their lives.
I think the police did their absolute best to try and find that baby and that you are out of order placing blame on them.

Something that doesn't add up to me in this case is that CM didn't come from a poor family. Are we supposed to believe that she didn't have savings in the bank to dress her child adequately or pay for a flat or air b and b? Even if estranged from family, as an adult she would have had an income of her own somehow. Which makes me wonder if the partner had been financially abusing her or maybe the money was spent, maybe there are substance abuse issues. I keep thinking of Baby P and his mother being stoned out of her brains half the time; similar callous and unempathetic attitude. One big difference is CM is attractive and could easily find a better situation, on the surface of it.

This is not a lady from a poor backgrounds weighing !8 stone with no education or job prospects. I can only think something is very badly wrong here.

awaynboilyurheid · 15/07/2025 16:11

Unfashionablyearly · 15/07/2025 13:00

@Commonsense22

Have you read this article? Constance didnt attend visitation for children in care.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn0zkg4g4zyo

How often do children need to sit in a contact centre, sometimes taken by taxi or a SW if foster parents can't attend, and wait and wait to see if mum or dad might turn up.

How id that right for thr child?

Omg just read this they are both arrogant entitled narcissists who have cost us millions on this trial Hope they are never released they will never accept what they did was wrong.

Eric1964 · 15/07/2025 16:14

@Siff "The police must take some responsibility for creating the kind of fear and pressure that led to this tragedy."

Please explain what the police should have done differently, and exactly what effect that might have had (I'll assume you have experience of this type of thing) because, if you can't do that, it's a bit like me standing behind a gas fitter and saying, "No, mate, you don't wanna do that..."

Coffeeishot · 15/07/2025 16:26

electric69 · 15/07/2025 16:11

Something that doesn't add up to me in this case is that CM didn't come from a poor family. Are we supposed to believe that she didn't have savings in the bank to dress her child adequately or pay for a flat or air b and b? Even if estranged from family, as an adult she would have had an income of her own somehow. Which makes me wonder if the partner had been financially abusing her or maybe the money was spent, maybe there are substance abuse issues. I keep thinking of Baby P and his mother being stoned out of her brains half the time; similar callous and unempathetic attitude. One big difference is CM is attractive and could easily find a better situation, on the surface of it.

This is not a lady from a poor backgrounds weighing !8 stone with no education or job prospects. I can only think something is very badly wrong here.

There was money bundles in the car that caught fire, and she did have money because they were using users and taxis and moving about counties so she had plenty of cash until it ran out and they went into the woods In a tent.

Coffeeishot · 15/07/2025 16:29

Although her money was probably an attraction to him.

FlopFlaps · 15/07/2025 16:30

Siff · 15/07/2025 10:10

Thanks for all the info, I’ve done some more reading since I last posted. I honestly wasn’t aware that Constance had been offered support like a mother and baby unit. That definitely adds more context.

Obviously, if the mother flat out refuses to engage with social services or accept help, there’s only so much they can do. It’s a really difficult situation. But I still don’t think it changes the fact that the authorities could have handled things better. The public manhunt felt so aggressive and criminalising, and that kind of pressure can push vulnerable people into making desperate decisions.
Also, I’ve learned that before the adoption orders, Constance and Mark did have some supervised visitation rights with their older children. But attendance was inconsistent.

After the adoption orders were finalized in January 2022, they had no visitation rights at all. Once the children were adopted, all parental rights and contact ended completely. So any suggestion they retained visitation after adoption isn’t accurate.

Lastly, I keep coming back to this — why was Mark Gordon free? He had a violent history and even physically harmed Constance. He should have been under stricter monitoring or not free to live as he did. That part of the system also failed.

Yes, Constance made serious mistakes, but this case isn’t black and white. The whole system let them and the baby down.

I disagree that the police incited a witch hunt which 'forced' them off grid. All the evidence is there that they were already in the process of that anyway! They had 34 burner phones FGS! Normal surveillance approaches couldn't work because they were moving up and down the country, changing cars, they had all these burner phones. They withdrew large sums of cash and paid for everything using cash to avoid being traced.

Sure, they may not have ended up camping on the south downs, but they have form for having done that before. Before having their first baby they were camping behind a tesco in a similar style tent, and they fully intended to raise their first child in that tent. It was at this point social services placed CM in mother and baby units I believe.

So actually, I believe this was inevitable whether the police put out a statement or not - but they hoped that the statement and press interest may help them find her quicker.

I do believe their actions were not those of sane people, but I don't want to diminish or justify what they did. CM prioritised her relationship over her children.

I do believe MG was coercive, controlling and abusive. I believe he isolated her and made her feel as though she had no one else. I also believe her past made her vulnerable to manipulation.

However, I do believe that doesn't make her less culpable. But I believe MG is actually evil and a complete sociopath. I hope they both are locked up for a long time because it is abundantly clear that if they were to be released within the next decade (at least), they will simply have more children together.

LakieLady · 15/07/2025 16:30

Something that doesn't add up to me in this case is that CM didn't come from a poor family. Are we supposed to believe that she didn't have savings in the bank to dress her child adequately or pay for a flat or air b and b?

Once she knew the police were looking for her, she may well have avoided using cards or withdrawing cash as it would have made it easier for the police to track roughly where she was via her bank transactions.

softlyfallsthesnow · 15/07/2025 16:31

@Eric1964 I think OP underwent a dramatic conversion around page 3 or 4 earlier when she'd bothered to read the facts instead of spouting nonsense.
We haven't heard from her since and she did concede she hadn't realised there was a bit more to it.

Hasn't stopped a few other posters finding any and every excuse for what happened. But the majority have engaged in a thoughtful discussion.

Soontobe60 · 15/07/2025 16:34

I completely disagree - she was a grown woman who had her 4 children removed and placed for adoption, she was clearly unfit to raise another child as has been proven here. She put herself before a completely defenceless baby. Shame on you for laying the blame at the police’s door.

Coffeeishot · 15/07/2025 16:36

My God 34 phones but not a waterproof pram cover or snow suit for the baby

PennyAnnLane · 15/07/2025 16:40

electric69 · 15/07/2025 16:11

Something that doesn't add up to me in this case is that CM didn't come from a poor family. Are we supposed to believe that she didn't have savings in the bank to dress her child adequately or pay for a flat or air b and b? Even if estranged from family, as an adult she would have had an income of her own somehow. Which makes me wonder if the partner had been financially abusing her or maybe the money was spent, maybe there are substance abuse issues. I keep thinking of Baby P and his mother being stoned out of her brains half the time; similar callous and unempathetic attitude. One big difference is CM is attractive and could easily find a better situation, on the surface of it.

This is not a lady from a poor backgrounds weighing !8 stone with no education or job prospects. I can only think something is very badly wrong here.

She had the money but she didn’t have the capability to be a good mother, she was selfish beyond anything most of us could imagine. Had she not been wealthy then she wouldn’t have been able to afford to drive around the country and perhaps wouldn’t have had the entitled attitude that the rules didn’t apply to her, and perhaps her baby would still be alive now.

Boomer55 · 15/07/2025 16:40

Siff · 15/07/2025 09:46

I know Constance Marten and her partner made dangerous and illegal choices, and I’m not excusing that — a baby died and that’s heartbreaking. But I can’t stop thinking about the way the case was handled and whether the police have some responsibility in how things unfolded.

As a mum of four who’s struggled mentally after birth, I keep thinking: if I had just given birth, was vulnerable, and felt like the whole world was hunting me down — would I have thought clearly? Probably not. The media coverage was intense, and the police were everywhere. The pressure must have been overwhelming.

I honestly believe the fear created by the police operation pushed them into making more and more desperate and risky decisions to stay hidden. It wasn’t just a search — it felt like a witch hunt. No safeguarding, no attempt to reach her as a vulnerable mother, just a hard push to capture and punish.

I think that approach had consequences. The police must take some responsibility for creating the kind of fear and pressure that led to this tragedy. The way they went about it likely made things worse — not better — for the baby.

It’s easy to say she was selfish or unstable, but mental health in the postnatal period is fragile. People don’t always think rationally when terrified. I just wish there had been more humanity in how it was all handled.
Anyone else feel the same?

She’s got a long history of unreliability. Selfish woman and I hope they both get long sentences.

simpsonthecat · 15/07/2025 16:41

PennyAnnLane · 15/07/2025 16:40

She had the money but she didn’t have the capability to be a good mother, she was selfish beyond anything most of us could imagine. Had she not been wealthy then she wouldn’t have been able to afford to drive around the country and perhaps wouldn’t have had the entitled attitude that the rules didn’t apply to her, and perhaps her baby would still be alive now.

I agree. If she hadn't had access to such huge amounts of money, I doubt they would have got far and little Victoria could have been still alive. She was estranged from her family, yet happy to take family money.

Andoutcomethewolves · 15/07/2025 16:43

PrincessJasmine1 · 15/07/2025 11:02

Honestly, I don't understand why they didn't leave the country when she was still pregnant. They must have known they would be hunted in this country because of their SS history. They could have lived in their own way somewhere else where nobody would know them or ever heard of them. It's so strange they didn't leave.

Lived in their own way?? My parents lived in their own way with us - in a bus, minimal school, lots of time living abroad etc.

We were all still fed, clothed appropriately and cared for/ educated.

These parents apparently didn't give a shit about their kids, especially poor Victoria with not even a baby blanket when her parents are wearing winter jackets and scarves.

I don't see anything wrong with living an alternative/off grid life but not at the cost of neglecting a baby! Do you really think they'd have taken more care of her in any other country?

catlover123456789 · 15/07/2025 16:44

Its not the police's fault, the fault is 100% hers and her partners. I'm so sick of people going softly on others because they have 'issues'. They - constance and her partner - knew right from wrong. They literally dumped their baby in a shopping bag in a shed. That was wrong. The police were desperate to find her to save her baby.

EasternStandard · 15/07/2025 16:45

catlover123456789 · 15/07/2025 16:44

Its not the police's fault, the fault is 100% hers and her partners. I'm so sick of people going softly on others because they have 'issues'. They - constance and her partner - knew right from wrong. They literally dumped their baby in a shopping bag in a shed. That was wrong. The police were desperate to find her to save her baby.

Agree

TammyinCork · 15/07/2025 16:48

Retired GMP officer explains his key role in launching the search for Constance Marten and Mark Gordon | Greater Manchester Police

This link explains a bit more about the police search. I couldn't disagree more with the OP - and I have followed this case from the very beginning, including The Trial podcast of the first trial. Initially, the police messaging was all about establishing whether mother and baby were OK, since she had not accessed any ante-natal services. I thought the police, prosecutors (especially Tom Little KC) and Judge Mark Luckcraft were amazing in their handling of this complex, tragic case, and really left no stone unturned in getting justice for baby Victoria. The only people I feel bad for are the surviving children - and maybe CM's family.

Autumnnow · 15/07/2025 16:50

This 100%. Not even an attempt to support her head, roughly placed in the buggy, in just a babyrgro. I really have no patience with the viewpoint that she needed help. The only one who needed help was the baby who she'd rather see dead than walk away from a disturbingly violent man.

PickPix · 15/07/2025 16:58

The way people some posters are describing her as “vulnerable” or having a “vulnerable” past is bizarre. More like entitled, anti-social and selfish. She was a free adult with plenty of opportunities and enough money to make any number of choices. Her family even offered to look after the children she had with the violent psychopath rapist. Bar insanity (psychosis) the law treats everyone over the age of 18 as adults. There can be mitigating circumstances sometimes but the essential element and financial foundation of law is adult responsibility. I have no sympathy for her whatsoever.

NeedToChangeName · 15/07/2025 17:00

Publicly, they could’ve taken a softer tone — something like: “We are not pursuing this as a criminal matter. We just want to make sure mum and baby are safe. Constance, you’re not in trouble, please come forward.”

@Siff initial messages are always along the lines of "please come forward, we want you and baby to be safe". And Constance's father did an appeal along those lines. But Constance and Mark both knew full well that the child would have been removed if they'd gone to police / social work etc, however the appeal was worded

PickPix · 15/07/2025 17:01

awaynboilyurheid · 15/07/2025 16:11

Omg just read this they are both arrogant entitled narcissists who have cost us millions on this trial Hope they are never released they will never accept what they did was wrong.

Remember, a narcissist is never wrong.

timetochangethering · 15/07/2025 17:03

SriouslyWhutNow · 15/07/2025 09:54

Especially since he'd already done 20 years for armed rape in the US before they deported him halfway through the 40 year sentence he should still be serving. It's a shame there was no cross-border agreement to recall him to prison if he did anything over here.

He did do something here - attacking two police officers while CM was having their baby. He was jailed.

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