To think you can drink tap water in a 1st world country!

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My OH will not drink tap water and it drives me insane. He just drove 20 minutes home at 10pm because he left half a bottle of water on the side at home and no shops are open and in his words ‘I take my water seriously’

I think the reason it drives me insane is because the reason he won’t drink it is because of the hormones etc in it but yet he has spent his whole life being obese. He goes through intense phases of working out and eating really well and loses weight but ultimately he is still obese and thinks that the one time he got to 17st is some sort of achievement that he needs to tell me about allllllll the time. He drives without a seatbelt on, he took pretty hard drugs as a young man and has always drunk alcohol (although he barely does these things now) I think another reason is that he constantly watches strong men / sports personalities talking about their workouts and nutrition and he insists on telling me about things that I have no interest in and have told him as much - after many years of politely saying ‘ooh interesting’ whilst secretly thinking ‘I bet you weren’t thinking about the processed meats giving you cancer when you ate your McDonalds wrap for breakfast 😡’ or ‘I’m 9 years older than you and manage to get more done in any given day than you do despite the fact that I’m not interested in an ice bath’ I know there’s no link to obesity from tap water but Jesus Christ something has to kill you! I doubt it will be the rusty pipes or hormones in the water! He had the audacity to ask me if I felt comfortable eating a sweetie the other day (not fat shaming me, I’m not fat, more that he wanted to make the point that there were no ingredients on the wrapper, pretty sure there were no ingredients on the sweet and sour chicken from the Chinese that he ate last night either 🤪)

I also know lots of you are going to tell me to get a grip and let him live as he pleases but if you had to listen to him go on and on about it whilst he’s sat there sweating and needing 400 bowel movements a day you would find it a hard pill to swallow.

Do you drink tap water? AIBU to think that in an emergency a bit of tap water isn’t going to kill you!

It was a trauma bond I think but now it’s just that he wouldn’t leave because he has nowhere to go. And it is a long term relationship that has got muddied - the house is mine but he has paid for things etc etc. he hates his family (I quite like them) so wouldn’t go there, I am quite intimidated by him when he’s angry although he has never hurt me but I avoid confrontation. I am fairly certain he is a narcissist (I know that’s bandied around a lot now but I’ve spent a long time researching it) It all sounds a bit pathetic really and if you met me you would be surprised that I haven’t put an end to it to be honest. I can’t explain it really.

Bottled water is Costco's best seller isn't it?

I think it's quite reasonable to be repulsed by him by the sounds of him.

We’re not married, you’re right I sound horrid and I think I do hate him. But this was just a vent about a small part of why I hate him.

It would appear so, I didn’t know! Hopefully one of the people he watches avidly on YouTube will make a video about it and then he might start drinking tap water 😂

It’s my house and he’s a narcissist that has turned me into a nervous wreck. Sorry that’s deep but I couldn’t ignore it.

We have two children, he would never dream of not strapping them in correctly though.

Personally I can’t stand tap water. I have a water filter and won’t touch the tap stuff if I can help it (it does taste different to some of us - especially in hard water areas).

Bigger issue is I think you hate and are repulsed by your husband.

YANBU. You could be describing my ex - not why we broke up, but I definitely don't miss it. Going on about keto and protein levels and buying all this equipment, then a few beers at the pub and back home for a takeaway. And yes you can 100% drink tap water.

Edited to add that it wasn't directly why I left but it really eroded my respect for him and just seemed to take over our lives. Not to mention the expense, constant waste, faddy products, mouldering attempts at sourdough or sauerkraut and at the other end of the spectrum, damaging his health constantly and yet expecting endless patience and sympathy over it.

I believe he has now developed diabetes, unfortunately.

Sorry, I probably sound mean but just needed to get that off my chest! I 100% empathise OP!

If it's your house, can you not just tell him he no longer lives with you, pack his stuff and change the locks? Call the police if he gets aggressive. Narcissists don't change.

Tap water tastes different around the country, my favourite is tap water from the South Wales Valleys, but it's all fine. I do agree that there are hormones getting into our water from the contraceptive pill, but you can buy a reverse osmosis water filter and fit it to your tap to remove it. If I remember rightly we didn't go for that because it also removes some minerals.

Bottled water can have been standing in a warehouse for months, and it's wrapped in plastic. I understand that they've found plastic particles in the water itself.

I’ve always lived in hard water areas. I’ve always drunk the tap water , I’m fine.

It's ok if it's too complicated for you to understand. I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you !

Tap water where I live in the SE tastes horrible (& filters don't change that). I don't eat or drink things that taste horrible so I buyers it in bladders (still plastic, but slightly better)

Oh god it’s dreadful isn’t it? Talking to me about creatine but all the while he’s not making sure he goes to bed at a reasonable hour to get enough sleep when studies for years and years have told us that sleep is vital for recovery etc. He told me today about a chamber you can go in that’s the equivalent of 12 hours sleep (and made me watch a video even though I say every time ‘I don’t want to see the video’ for your muscles but he never wants to go to bed!!

How can you be interested in something that costs thousands of pounds or £70 per session when you have the free equivalent of it - bed!!

Yes I probably could but I can’t face it to be honest. I will, hopefully, soon.

He sounds like a wanker. Hope he’s enjoying his microplastics. (Suspect misuse of plastic is going to be to us what misuse of lead was to the Romans.)

I spent the first 30 years drinking unfiltered 'hard water' and it certainly didn't do me any harm, our relatives who were on mains water used to collect containers of our well water to bring home as it was nicer and healthier than their bleach scented mains water. When I moved to an area with some of the hardest water in the country I continued to drink it, we actually got a filter system fitted but kept one tap unfiltered for drinking water because it's nicer. There is no harm in drinking hard water, many prefer it and it's definitely better than the treated water provided to many and no worries about microplastics either.

I think what you meant to say was "I personally don't like the taste of my tap water", then, rather than "you can't drink tap water in a hard water area", which is ridiculous

ive lived in london and essex hard water have always drunk it

its not really the problem though is it-hes being reckless with his life and he doesnt give a shit

Your description of him sounds like he needs a gap checking him out. Toilet 5-6times a day is not normal along with fatigue etc. Bowel screening??

It all sounds so familiar. I think there's a real compulsion and food obsession at the root of it, but it just becomes too much to cope with.

I’ll take a look thanks.

Leave him then