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Parents choosing not to vaccinate their children

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MidnightPatrol · 13/07/2025 08:39

A child has died in Liverpool as part of an outbreak of measles. 17 are currently hospitalised with it in the city, as part of a wider outbreak.

73% of children in Liverpool are vaccinated against measles - vs an England average of 84%.

A rate of 95% immunisation is required for herd immunity. No child in the UK needs to be getting measles - we can vaccinate against it.

In Liverpool, there is a risk of a widespread measles outbreak due to this low rate of immunisation - it is very infectious, so the risk to the population is significant.

If you are a parent that doesn’t get your child vaccinated, why?

Should the government not be using further incentives to encourage people to take up vaccination - are a third of Liverpudlians really against vaccinating their children?

Should non-vaccinated children be limited from accessing nursery or schools (as in other countries)?

OP posts:
Player62 · 13/07/2025 19:47

cardibach · 13/07/2025 19:41

So you opted for more appointments and more injections for your child who cried about being injected? Or have I misread?

I didn’t, I thought it was better to get it done as quickly as possible. But I was offered that possibility, so it’s an option for those reluctant because they think there are too many vaccines in one go.

Ahwig · 13/07/2025 20:19

When my son was one he had a bad fit and ended up in hospital. He was kept in for 3 days . The following morning after discharge he was covered in spots. Turned out he had German measles. The fit was caused by a high temperature which led to a febrile convulsion. German measles is normally ( pregnancy excepted) a mild illness but my son was badly affected. I asked my gp about the measles vaccination and he said because my son had a very bad reaction to a normally mild illness German measles it was absolutely crucial he had the measles vaccination. He had it and then measles went round his class and he got it. He had 3 spots on his knee and was not ill in the slightest. The gp said what I was seeing was measles in a vaccinated child. There were 20 kids in his class . 16 of them had the same as him, the other 4 had not been vaccinated and were very poorly. One had lasting eyesight problems.

TheeNotoriousPIG · 13/07/2025 20:41

Littleredracecar · 13/07/2025 14:01

I don’t understand this concern about formaldehyde at all. Formaldehyde is naturally occurring in the body as a by product of metabolism. The average adult produces approximately a shot glass amount of formaldehyde a day whereas the amount of in a vaccine is minuscule.
As always it’s the dose which is important.

You are quite right, but what percentage of the general population will know this off the tops of their heads? Most people probably associate formaldehyde with preserving the bodies of those who have died. Also, if you look it up online, the words 'cancer' and 'carcinogenic' quickly pop up as links, which doesn't improve its reputation (or, presumably, their attitude towards vaccinations).

The article/documentary that I mentioned was something that I came across years ago, so I wouldn't be able to find it to check their concerns about the formaldehyde, unfortunately!

treetop122 · 13/07/2025 20:43

Dairymilkisminging · 13/07/2025 08:52

I just wish it wasn't so many at one time. That's the only thing that puts me off saying that all of mine are still vaccinated.

Suppose your body comes into contact with loads of stuff that it fights off everyday so that many at once is probably nothing in comparison.

I had someone explain this to me once. Not sure if it is 100% true.. but it made sense to me.

The Dr said that when your immune system responds. It responds hard and fast. If it did this to one vaccine 4 weeks before it needed to do it again to another vaccine, the body’s response would be weaker, making recovery longer and the body’s response to it not as strong. Then if you did it again 4 weeks later with another vaccine etc etc..

so it is better to have your body respond once to multiple things apparently.

kind of makes sense.. but also makes me sad at the 1 year vaccines when it is 4 injections at the same time 💔

MrsSkylerWhite · 14/07/2025 11:00

Skippydoodle · 13/07/2025 13:54

Everyone should have free choice. If you & your kids are vaccinated then it’s no skin off your nose, why get in such a knicker twist about something that absolutely won’t affect you - because you are vaccinated.

Because it will affect the weakest, those who can’t be vaccinated.

HerVagestyTheQueef · 14/07/2025 13:22

MrsSkylerWhite · 14/07/2025 11:00

Because it will affect the weakest, those who can’t be vaccinated.

Very much so.

And those who choose not to vaccinate are benefitting from the fact that most people do.
If everyone was like them, as is their supposed "right", then many children would be dying of measles or be left with serious long term health problems.

Twonks.

Alltheyellowbirds · 14/07/2025 13:34

They can only get away with not vaccinating THEIR children because everybody else does, and they are benefitting from that herd immunity. It’s breathtakingly selfish.

Reminds me of a woman I used to work with who was always saying how wrong it was that organ donation was now presumed and that she had to go to the effort of opting out. Banged on about how she would NEVER allow any part of her body or her loved ones’ to be donated, it was disgusting and morally wrong etc etc. But when asked what she’d do if she or her loved one needed an organ she said “well of course I’d take someone else’s if I needed it”. She didn’t see any conflict or hypocrisy there at all.

RampantIvy · 14/07/2025 14:24

Alpacahacker · 13/07/2025 14:03

If you google it there are several clinics offering it as a single vaccine 🤷‍♀️

Separate measles, mumps, and rubella (MMR) vaccines are not licensed for routine use in the UK.

No country in the world recommends giving vaccines against the three infections separately.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/mmr-vaccine-dispelling-myths/measles-mumps-rubella-mmr-maintaining-uptake-of-vaccine

Measles, mumps, rubella (MMR): use of combined vaccine instead of single vaccines

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/mmr-vaccine-dispelling-myths/measles-mumps-rubella-mmr-maintaining-uptake-of-vaccine

Mischance · 14/07/2025 15:23

RampantIvy · 14/07/2025 14:24

Separate measles, mumps, and rubella (MMR) vaccines are not licensed for routine use in the UK.

No country in the world recommends giving vaccines against the three infections separately.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/mmr-vaccine-dispelling-myths/measles-mumps-rubella-mmr-maintaining-uptake-of-vaccine

Giving them separately is a waste of time and money and more traumatic for the child .... why, just why?

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 14/07/2025 15:25

WaltzingWaters · 13/07/2025 09:04

I know a couple mums at a toddler group I attend who are anti-vax. What annoys me about it is their argument is they also weren’t vaccinated and have never any of these terrible diseases- but they won’t listen to the fact that that’s because most of the people around them have been, so they’ve always benefited from herd immunity. But their children may not be so lucky.

Unfortunately some people are just too thick or blinkered to listen to reason.

Mischance · 14/07/2025 15:39

The media have done a good job over the years of scaring parents about vaccination. What can you do? Some people will believe anything.......

sleepwouldbenice · 14/07/2025 15:50

I personally agree with the stick (eg exclusion from school etc if you / your parents choose for you not to be vacinated) but only when the carrot has been extensively used

Full education programmes, plenty of genuine opportunities to address individuals concerns, fully consider their medical background etc. Basically rebuilding trust and fighting back against all the misinformation out there.

And for some vaccines ( eg covid where the statistics for protection from covid fell for the younger population) then not compulsory vaccination programmes.

But measles and similar vaccines? If you have had plenty of opportunity to raise concerns and truly understand then statistics then yes compulsory vaccination ( except to limited exclusions) with clear consequences if you dont

Annoyeddd · 14/07/2025 17:32

treetop122 · 13/07/2025 20:43

I had someone explain this to me once. Not sure if it is 100% true.. but it made sense to me.

The Dr said that when your immune system responds. It responds hard and fast. If it did this to one vaccine 4 weeks before it needed to do it again to another vaccine, the body’s response would be weaker, making recovery longer and the body’s response to it not as strong. Then if you did it again 4 weeks later with another vaccine etc etc..

so it is better to have your body respond once to multiple things apparently.

kind of makes sense.. but also makes me sad at the 1 year vaccines when it is 4 injections at the same time 💔

You could go shopping, on a train, nursery and children could be incubating any or all of the childhood diseases not just one at a time

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 21:21

Mischance · 14/07/2025 15:39

The media have done a good job over the years of scaring parents about vaccination. What can you do? Some people will believe anything.......

I personally know a child and an adult with permanent vaccine damage.
Brain damage and physical.

That's not the media scaring, is it?

Both parents wish they hadn't allowed vaccines, obviously.

HerVagestyTheQueef · 14/07/2025 21:31

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 21:21

I personally know a child and an adult with permanent vaccine damage.
Brain damage and physical.

That's not the media scaring, is it?

Both parents wish they hadn't allowed vaccines, obviously.

Vaccines are not guaranteed risk free.

However, without them many many more children and adults would die or have life altering complications.

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 21:52

HerVagestyTheQueef · 14/07/2025 21:31

Vaccines are not guaranteed risk free.

However, without them many many more children and adults would die or have life altering complications.

Not much of a consolation if it's YOUR child who is permanently brain damaged?

But anyone who wants their children to be at risk of becoming collateral damage, go ahead.

ToWhitToWhoo · 14/07/2025 21:58

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 21:52

Not much of a consolation if it's YOUR child who is permanently brain damaged?

But anyone who wants their children to be at risk of becoming collateral damage, go ahead.

Edited

What if it's YOUR child, who is permanently brain damaged as a result of catching a preventable disease?

Which is a much commoner disaster.

Coolasfeck · 14/07/2025 22:03

SheepInMyShed · 13/07/2025 09:05

Covid vaccine and the way people were treated around it has increased anti vax feelings, and it’s quite obvious why.

Those expressing concern over the vaccine were treated badly, shut down, called idiots and worse, the Covid board here was awful for it. The discussion was completely shut down. Any topic, particularly those involving our own health, should be open to discussion. The shutdown, insults and accusations only go to strengthen people’s feelings that they are being lied to, or something is being hidden to suit some agenda. The obvious psychological tactics used by the government around all this only made this worse.

See also - the current rise of anti immigration that correlates to discussion of problems within the sphere of immigration (illegal immigrants, Pakistani rape gangs) being shut down and calling anyone racist bigots for suggesting there’s a problem. This has only made perceived racism worse.

I’m not an anti vaxxer, but there needs to be a balance here. If we want to reach certain vaccination targets then we need to find a way to reach those who stopped trusting them, whether it was Andrew Wakefield or Covid. Find a way to explain the science in layman’s terms, show the research results. Stop calling people fucking idiots and murderers, you’re never going to increase vaccination rates that way.

Hard disagree. Sick of this crap about trying to protect the feelings of people spouting stupidity.

sleepwouldbenice · 14/07/2025 22:06

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 21:21

I personally know a child and an adult with permanent vaccine damage.
Brain damage and physical.

That's not the media scaring, is it?

Both parents wish they hadn't allowed vaccines, obviously.

Every ill effect or death, either with or without a vaccine is of course a tragedy
But it's about statistics and what is more likely to happen.
And then on top of that what you can contribute to, in wider society ( eg measles outbreak)
If you choose not to believe statistics, and put others at risk, you will be despised, and ridiculed

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 22:34

Coolasfeck · 14/07/2025 22:03

Hard disagree. Sick of this crap about trying to protect the feelings of people spouting stupidity.

Ditto....

Sick of this crap about people showing no empathy to vaccine damaged children.

Livpool · 14/07/2025 22:57

I’m in Liverpool and completely agree - these parents are idiots

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 23:06

Livpool · 14/07/2025 22:57

I’m in Liverpool and completely agree - these parents are idiots

Which ones?
The parents who risk their kids having permanent brain damage from vaccines?

I have seen this for myself. It's not a fallacy.

HerVagestyTheQueef · 14/07/2025 23:44

Petitchat · 14/07/2025 21:52

Not much of a consolation if it's YOUR child who is permanently brain damaged?

But anyone who wants their children to be at risk of becoming collateral damage, go ahead.

Edited

I despair. Are you wilfully misunderstanding?
An unvaccinated child has just DIED from measles.

The instances of damage from vaccines is vanishingly rare. If we all stop vaccinating then actual deaths from measles will be HIGH. In Pre-vaccination times there were many child deaths and lifelong complications from measles.
People died. Children died. Without vaccination this could happen again.

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/07/2025 00:02

SheepInMyShed · 13/07/2025 09:05

Covid vaccine and the way people were treated around it has increased anti vax feelings, and it’s quite obvious why.

Those expressing concern over the vaccine were treated badly, shut down, called idiots and worse, the Covid board here was awful for it. The discussion was completely shut down. Any topic, particularly those involving our own health, should be open to discussion. The shutdown, insults and accusations only go to strengthen people’s feelings that they are being lied to, or something is being hidden to suit some agenda. The obvious psychological tactics used by the government around all this only made this worse.

See also - the current rise of anti immigration that correlates to discussion of problems within the sphere of immigration (illegal immigrants, Pakistani rape gangs) being shut down and calling anyone racist bigots for suggesting there’s a problem. This has only made perceived racism worse.

I’m not an anti vaxxer, but there needs to be a balance here. If we want to reach certain vaccination targets then we need to find a way to reach those who stopped trusting them, whether it was Andrew Wakefield or Covid. Find a way to explain the science in layman’s terms, show the research results. Stop calling people fucking idiots and murderers, you’re never going to increase vaccination rates that way.

100 per cent this! 👏👏

Many people said at the time that the 'stance' during Covid would lead to some parents becoming hugely sceptical of traditional vaccines. Those commentators too were shut down and told they were being ridiculous.

Yet, here we are...

sleepwouldbenice · 15/07/2025 00:39

Here we are…. Well that’s ok then. Let’s just blame someone else instead of taking responsibility ourselves then

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