I am planning on having a baby shower for my 3rd child in a few weeks and just making preparations for it now.
I mentioned it in passing to DP who thought it would be nice and nothing more was said.
Today he asks me if his brother’s partner can come to it as well?
Just for clarification I have never met his brother’s partner, she does have a 4 year old with him.
I have never even met the child either.
Me and DC have 2 kids together and she has never met them.
There is a back story as in BIL had an affair behind his partner’s back and he didn’t/dosent want the woman mixing with family as he didn’t want people talking his business to her etc because his partner didn’t know he had cheated and got someone else pregnant.
Now he wants to include her in the family and is keen for her to meet me and the kids etc.
I am quite offended that I was never invited to her baby shower even though other people (mutual friends and their partners went) and I was never invited to meet the child when he was born.
DP think’s we should become friends, meet up with the kids etc.
But when I wanted to be included I wasn’t and now because she wants to feel included I have to just play along?
It just seems 4 years too late.
I don’t even want her coming round to the house as I have heard from DP she has stalker tendencies as in she stalked BIL’s ex.
We are also planning on purchasing a Buy to Let and DP wants her to help as she is a teacher and helped BIL buy his home she is meant to be some kind of expert, I told DP I dont want her snooping on my financial affairs as I don’t know her and would rather pay a broker as people do and she had taken offence apparently and BIL is offended.
AIBU here as it seems I am to DP, BIL and his partner.