Page 17 | To go swimming in the sea whilst the kids are in bed?

Blablibladirladada · 13/07/2025 20:09

Surely it is a joke?

take it in turn. No. You can’t leave both your children asleep somewhere and you guys go somewhere else. Not at home. Not anywhere.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 13/07/2025 20:11

Kneeslikethese · 12/07/2025 18:51

You speak as though there is more than one of you. Take turns.

This

Im a year-round outdoor swimmer and I sympathise, but they are too young.

Louoby · 13/07/2025 20:12

I personally wouldn’t as I would be thinking “madeleine McCann”. I don’t think it’s worth the risk. Just take it in turns?!

gattocattivo · 13/07/2025 20:13

Maezzle · 12/07/2025 18:44

We live by the sea. It is fifteen metres through the garden from the door to the edge of the water. It is a safe place to swim and we are good swimmers.

Are we unreasonable to go for a fifteen minute swim once the kids (preschool) are asleep? They never wake. We would have a friend lined up who would come and babysit if they don't hear from us after half an hour (in case of shark attack or other unforeseen event)!

Basically the only risk is a house fire. We would not have any appliances running and the house would never be more than 30 metres away and in full view. Window open so we'd hear smoke alarm.

I feel like this should be acceptable as it's basically like having a swimming pool in your garden. But for some reason I feel it isn't okay, but I don't know why!

What would you do?

YABU you should be locked up for even thinking of it.
YANBU it's just like a swimming pool, it's fine.

Well, apart from the fact that if you think the sea is the same as a swimming pool (!!😂) presumably if you had a pool in your back garden, you would swim up and down with the baby monitor on the side of the pool so you would see/ hear if one of the kids vomited/ fell out of bed/woke up scared? I assume you don’t take the baby monitor in the sea, though something tells me this is so batshit that who knows…..

knor · 13/07/2025 20:19

I personally wouldn’t no. Does depend how safe your town is I suppose? But think don’t think it’s worth it for a 15 min swim.
id just get the babysitter

DeeDoyle · 13/07/2025 20:19

Two words......Madeleine McCann

You are just plain stupid to think you can plan, foresee and prevent every event. If that was the case no one would ever be injured, fall ill, have an accident.

What if one of your kids fell ill and you werent there? If you arent prepared to look after them properly dont have them.

Crazyworldmum · 13/07/2025 20:21

Go ! My garden is much bigger than that and o don’t think I’m being negligent every time I feed the chicken or go to the garage to get something . Yes you can drown , fall down or similar but so can any parent when they are by themselves with a child . Go enjoy

squooz · 13/07/2025 20:32

Sorry YABU - you lost me at ‘preschool’

Sidebeforeself · 13/07/2025 20:37

What the hell is a romantic swim?!

Lizziespring · 13/07/2025 20:45

If the children woke and came into the water to find you, would that be ok?
#nope

gattocattivo · 13/07/2025 20:48

Crazyworldmum · 13/07/2025 20:21

Go ! My garden is much bigger than that and o don’t think I’m being negligent every time I feed the chicken or go to the garage to get something . Yes you can drown , fall down or similar but so can any parent when they are by themselves with a child . Go enjoy

But presumably if you were going to be in the garage doing something for a while, or gardening, you take the baby monitor with you, no? So you are alerted if a child wakes/ vomits/ falls out of bed?

I used to pop to the end of the garden out of earshot to put stuff in the compost, or pop out to the shed to get something, but if I was planning on sitting out of earshot at the end of the garden for a while then I took the monitor with me.

presumably that’s a main difference between swimming in a pool in your own back garden (where you’d have the monitor on the pool edge) and sea swimming where you can’t monitor your children. Funnily enough the OP hasnt responded to that point

EternalLodga · 13/07/2025 20:50

I really really want to go and stay at OPs house it sounds amazing! I'm imagining a U-shaped house made of glass and built into a hill thay leads down to a lagoon 😍

Kneeslikethese · 13/07/2025 20:50

After reading your 'romantic swim' update it's even more of a no.
You definitely wouldn't hear your kids screaming while you were concentrating on your sea lagoon shag.

Crazyworldmum · 13/07/2025 20:57

gattocattivo · 13/07/2025 20:48

But presumably if you were going to be in the garage doing something for a while, or gardening, you take the baby monitor with you, no? So you are alerted if a child wakes/ vomits/ falls out of bed?

I used to pop to the end of the garden out of earshot to put stuff in the compost, or pop out to the shed to get something, but if I was planning on sitting out of earshot at the end of the garden for a while then I took the monitor with me.

presumably that’s a main difference between swimming in a pool in your own back garden (where you’d have the monitor on the pool edge) and sea swimming where you can’t monitor your children. Funnily enough the OP hasnt responded to that point

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Op can do the same ? And I should have added 15 meters is much less than the length of my house front to back , I have to walk more to get to my kids bedrooms .
when I visit my parents , we often do a night swim , they live on the first line of the beach , my parents are normally in the house sleeping too but we still take the monitor and leave it on the sand .
I honestly don’t think people realise 15 meters is a very small distance . Those comparing it to Madeline , the restaurant was 120 meters away .

ItsameLuigi · 13/07/2025 21:01

WolfFoxHare · 12/07/2025 19:21

You really think SS wouldn’t at least have reservations about OP’s parenting if she and her partner left their preschools asleep alone in their property, to go swimming in the sea? Really?

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To be fair, Madeline's parents still have their other children after their neglect

gattocattivo · 13/07/2025 21:06

@Crazyworldmumwhat on earth is the point of going for a sea swim and leaving the monitor on the beach?!

my point was that it’s not just the distance: we had a very long garden and I often used to pop to the end out of earshot after the babies were in bed. If it was 30 seconds popping something in the compost, I wouldn’t take the monitor. If I wanted to do some gardening/ sit and relax with a book, then I would. And I’d be able to hear the monitor, which you obviously can’t if you’re sea swimming.

pineapplesundae · 13/07/2025 21:07

Madelyn Khan.

Blondeshavemorefun · 13/07/2025 21:10

Open water seems Diff to a pool in the garden

tho I go in the spa when dd 8 is asleep but I also have a monitor

tho she is like your dc and never wakes ans always slept well since a baby

prob count on one hand the times she has woken in 8yrs - teething as baby. Ear ache as older

WolfFoxHare · 13/07/2025 21:13

ItsameLuigi · 13/07/2025 21:01

To be fair, Madeline's parents still have their other children after their neglect

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I’m not saying Social Services would take the kids away from OP if she went for her romantic swim, leaving her preschoolers asleep in an empty house. Just that they’d probably explain why her actions were stupid and negligent, and maybe send her and her husband in a parent course, perhaps keeping an eye on children by opening a file on the faint and putting them on some sort of plan. Though SS are so overstretched they might just have a quiet word about risk assessment.

August1980 · 13/07/2025 21:15

Op, no. Please don’t do this. Someone could break in and harm your kids never mind the list of things that could go wrong…

Missj25 · 13/07/2025 21:37

Maezzle · 12/07/2025 18:44

We live by the sea. It is fifteen metres through the garden from the door to the edge of the water. It is a safe place to swim and we are good swimmers.

Are we unreasonable to go for a fifteen minute swim once the kids (preschool) are asleep? They never wake. We would have a friend lined up who would come and babysit if they don't hear from us after half an hour (in case of shark attack or other unforeseen event)!

Basically the only risk is a house fire. We would not have any appliances running and the house would never be more than 30 metres away and in full view. Window open so we'd hear smoke alarm.

I feel like this should be acceptable as it's basically like having a swimming pool in your garden. But for some reason I feel it isn't okay, but I don't know why!

What would you do?

YABU you should be locked up for even thinking of it.
YANBU it's just like a swimming pool, it's fine.

Of course it’s not ok , Cop on !

ThatRareHazelTiger · 13/07/2025 21:41

Have you not heard of Madeline Mc Cann!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 13/07/2025 21:44

Obviously you can’t do this. And there’s no need as there are two of you - you can take turns!

Missingpop · 13/07/2025 22:12

The fact you’re asking proves you know what you’re suggesting is wrong; Just think Madeline McCann

Missingpop · 13/07/2025 22:20

DiscoNights · 12/07/2025 19:00

Personally I think it’s ok if it really is that close to the house and if the house is properly locked. But I’m sure I’m the only one who thinks it’s ok.

Fucking hell lock them in; I can read the headlines now
PARENTS WENT SWIMMING IN THE SEA AFTER MUMSNET AGREED LOVK THE TODDLERS IN TGE HOUSE BUT SAY THE KIDS FOUND A BOX OF MATCHES…..BOOM DiscoNights just popped a hip out with that bright idea 🤦‍♀️