To go swimming in the sea whilst the kids are in bed?

[Maezzle]

We live by the sea. It is fifteen metres through the garden from the door to the edge of the water. It is a safe place to swim and we are good swimmers.

Are we unreasonable to go for a fifteen minute swim once the kids (preschool) are asleep? They never wake. We would have a friend lined up who would come and babysit if they don't hear from us after half an hour (in case of shark attack or other unforeseen event)!

Basically the only risk is a house fire. We would not have any appliances running and the house would never be more than 30 metres away and in full view. Window open so we'd hear smoke alarm.

I feel like this should be acceptable as it's basically like having a swimming pool in your garden. But for some reason I feel it isn't okay, but I don't know why!

What would you do?

YABU you should be locked up for even thinking of it.
YANBU it's just like a swimming pool, it's fine.

This cannot be a real post surely. No one would be insane enough to think this is a good idea with preschool age children. If this is real, you need professional help.

Oh this is the thread I needed to read after a long hot 12 hour shift 😂🥵 thank you all it really has cheered me up 😂 Sorry nothing useful to add unfortunately I don't have a lagoon to go for romantic swims in

If you want a romantic swim just get someone to babysit, or if you've got helpful grandparents see if they will have your Dc for a night

It was hardly going to be a deeply romantic swim for 15 minutes, with one of you constantly on the lookout towards the house.

I've never known a house like that. But if that's the case you take it in turns to swim in the sea while the other watches from the garden with the monitor.

In am earlier post you said you had a babysitter lined up in the event of emergency - can't you just ask them to babysit anyway?!

Two words.

Madeleine McCann.

Romantic swim eh? 😉

Are you swimming along together watching dolphins (and your weirdly 2d house), or having a cheeky sea shag? 😂

Yeah, but you thought about it OP, so you might as well take yourself straight off to prison now.

The babysitter is a dolphin.

@Maezzle
It was supposed to be a romantic swim, yes, hence the not going separately. We used to swim every few days pre kids, but haven't been able to for four years now. I miss it. But never mind.

Ah, so what you really meant to ask was "Can I leave my small children alone so I can go and have sex in the sea."

The answer was no, and now it's definitely no!

Theoretically I live next door to a pub. Its front door and my front door are less than 15m away. It is appropriate to leave my primary school children alone at home whilst I nip next door for a few drinks.

Probably safer than going for a swim in the sea but I doubt people would find it acceptable.

Get a babysitter or don't go at all!

Are you actually serious? Take turns.

"Should I leave my sleeping kids alone in the house while husband and I go for a shag in the sea?"

Come on!

Hmm I mean we have often left our small children in bed while we've been at the bottom of the garden, and we have gone over to a neighbours house across the road (our house visible from their garden) - but we had a monitor on both of them that at the time, that I could access on my phone so I could watch them the whole time.
I probably wouldn't feel comfortable going in the sea. It's not like you can keep an eye on them and just nip back if there an issue, you can't know if they're ok, and something could also happen to you (though I appreciate you've tried to safeguard that with your friend after 30 mins).

Can one of you go for a wank in the lagoon while the other watches the monitor? Then swap.

Take it in turns, OP, or get your friend to come over for half an hour. I live by the sea in the UK — presume you're UK too. The sea is like a millpond today, totally calm and safe. But of course the people who live in Birmingham and Manchester think you'll be contending with crashing waves and rips.

Young children can be traumatised by what adults regard as minor things, like waking up on a hot night and finding themselves locked in and no adult around. I wouldn't and I'm more laissez-faire than most.

Finally! A sensible suggestion.

Oh, yuk. Everyone knows what you're doing and it's horrible.

😂😂

And you’d be watching the doors and windows whilst swimming out to see in the opposite direction?

15 seconds to swim ashore and reach your house?

So 15 seconds for a child to wander into the sea whilst you and whoever the other person/people in your 'we' are distracted, banging in the sea/lagoon/lake/paddling pool?

Why can’t your friend that was going to come round if they hadn’t heard from you come round to watch them while you both swim?

The McGanns only left their child for a short time .My answer is Do not leave them alone.

Who?

So if you see a fire from the sea. You then swim to shore. Get out and run to the house.
I think thats sensible. House fires are known to be slow . You could maybe get to bedrooms and get kids out .
And thats just one of the many reasons you dont leave young children alone in a house .