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Rethinking decline: why blaming migrants might miss the point

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Hearingelem · 12/07/2025 09:58

Hi all,
I've been mulling over some unsettling trends in the UK and wanted to hear your thoughts—particularly those of us noticing fewer kids around and schools closing.
First, I’m not blaming migrants—they’re filling gaps we’ve created. But it hit me: if people who’ve lived here for generations aren’t having children, who is keeping our society going? It’s like watching your family line slowly fade.
Here’s the gist:

  • Fewer families are having children, or delaying them until their 30s or beyond.
  • Abortions are up—almost 30% of pregnancies end in abortion now.
  • Primary schools are shutting or merging due to low pupil numbers.
  • Meanwhile, hundreds of thousands of migrants are arriving each year, and tens of thousands of British-born people are leaving.
It got me thinking: if we plant seeds everywhere but only the ones in the right environment grow, shouldn’t we rethink that environment—rather than blaming the plants? 🚨 Shocking stats at a glance:
  • 29.7% of all conceptions in England & Wales ended in legal abortion in 2022—nearly 3 in 10 pregnancies—and up from 20.8% in 2012 (Sky News, The Guardian, Office for National Statistics).
  • That’s 247,703 conceptions aborted in 2022—a 13% increase from 2021 (Office for National Statistics).
  • Migrant inflows: ~1.2 million long-term arrivals in year to June 2024; 728,000 net migration (arrivals minus departures) (Full Fact).
  • Emigration: 479,000 people left in that same period—including a sizeable number of British nationals (Full Fact).
I’m not here to stir division. I want people—especially those quick to blame migrants—to look in the mirror: if our birth environment is failing us, aren't we partly responsible? Let’s talk solutions: Affordable housing, gig‑free childcare, pay transparency, flexible working, serious sex-ed and contraception access… what would help you feel like having kids here and now? Curious to hear your views—especially if this hits home for you. Sources: ONS conception stats (2022) & abortion trends: [ONS Conception Bulletin] ONS net migration & emigration data: [ONS Immigration Statistics]
OP posts:
Blackoffe · 13/07/2025 14:14

Could I say as a former educator who worked in social services there are so many inadequate and frankly awful parents out there and they often are the one having more than two.

Why encourage this just to create more worker bees?

We are going to have to think of better ideas to address the ageing population than encouraging people to have more kids.

PSA: If you don’t want kids /more kids or are indifferent about it then please don’t! I am literally begging you. The only ones who should be having kids are those who realy want to be parents and would provide good emotional and mental stability for their children. I see so many of my friends with their kids and they are amazing! But not everyone is like that.

Even many of the people who did strongly want kids aren’t doing a great job - and how many adults do you see on here who spend their life trying to recover from their childhood trauma.

I’ve heard in some of the Scandi countries that have great benefits for parents the birth rate is falling too. I assume it’s a case of women just knowing it’s not for them to have more than one or two kids - or any child at all and standing firm on that rather than following societal expectations. This is a good thing as far as I’m concerned.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 14:17

And notice the omission of the concept of net contribution.

It's funny how net contributors is the latest buzzword. It's always been normal to have a large % of the population that aren't net contributors. Think logically about average earnings, what tax people pay and the costs of healthcare, education and potentially 20 years of a state pension. There weren't loads of higher rate tax payers in the past, there are more now partly because of fiscal drag.

An ageing population naturally means fewer net cont

belladeli · 13/07/2025 14:18

fewer net contributors.

Jennps · 13/07/2025 14:18

belladeli · 13/07/2025 14:09

@Jennps the post doesn't tell me how things work when you have fewer people but the majority of them are older. Who pays the higher taxes?

The activity in the economy. You don’t need 100 people to build widgets to generate activity. Thats what machines are for. You can have 90 people and an additional machine doing the same.

Purchasing the additional machine comes with an upfront outlay, which businesses will avoid, if they can have a supply of cheap labour. It makes their free cash flow look good but reduces GDP per capita. And puts more burden on the net contributors.

Grainsandgains · 13/07/2025 14:18

Whike I normally don't want to engage with chatgpt posts here (if i would I would just chat to chatgpt on its app🤷)...

May I point out that 2022 was very much not a good year with shit years before so that would explain rise in abortions...

Jennps · 13/07/2025 14:20

belladeli · 13/07/2025 14:17

And notice the omission of the concept of net contribution.

It's funny how net contributors is the latest buzzword. It's always been normal to have a large % of the population that aren't net contributors. Think logically about average earnings, what tax people pay and the costs of healthcare, education and potentially 20 years of a state pension. There weren't loads of higher rate tax payers in the past, there are more now partly because of fiscal drag.

An ageing population naturally means fewer net cont

Net contributor is not a buzzword, you may have heard of it for the first time, but it’s quite a standard phrase describing a basic economic principle.

And no, it hasn’t been normal at all. It is a recent phenomenon that over half the population cannot even sustain themselves. That’s why the social contract is breaking down.

mumda · 13/07/2025 14:32

Housing.

Adults are less likely to reproduce if they do not have their own home (whether rented or mortgaged)

Areas have had decline in normal populations from

  • huge numbers of students pushing out families - this means schools shut.
  • holiday lets pushing out families - this means schools shut

As housing costs go up (for many reasons, but including students and holiday lets) then it becomes harder for young people to get their own place. HMO numbers are up.

Migration adds to this burden (job list of those occupations short of workers is a joke!) and student numbers, as well as the irregular migration (Labour's words not mine). This all pushes up housing costs.

It's almost uneconomical to work if you have children if you need childcare due to the immense cost burden already placed on you by housing costs (and energy, water, food etc) so fewer people join in the workforce.

Many young people just don't work. Perhaps they see no point in working for a society that is screwing them over.

EasternStandard · 13/07/2025 14:34

belladeli · 13/07/2025 14:10

Politicians probably won’t go into economics of it but will say they can lower immigration figures.

I agree with that, but we won't be getting lower immigration, lower taxes and better services.

I think it’s flipped now and politicians can no longer sell in high immigration figures.

If you read @WrigglyDonCatpost on the issues with always increasing, and those people aging, can you see the problems there?

Menopausalsourpuss · 13/07/2025 14:41

belladeli · 13/07/2025 14:13

I certainly can't think a country with an ageing population which has a growing economy.

Our model (eg NHS, pension/benefits not linked to how much you have paid in) puts us in a worse position.

Well durr we (UK) had an aging population and a growing economy all through the 80s and the 90s. The main thing that changed was importing 15 million people most low skilled or not working. What @Jennps says re productivity makes perfect sense. The example everyone uses is the automated car washes we used to have which were replaced by multiple Eastern Europeans costing the taxpayer £££ (as all low and middle paid workers do - I think you have to earn something likd £45k to be a net contributor).

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:09

Well durr we (UK) had an aging population and a growing economy all through the 80s and the 90s.

Did we have an ageing population in the 80s & 90s? I thought the median age was 30 something then and we didn't have more over 65s vs under 15s like we do now?

on the issues with always increasing, and those people aging, can you see the problems there?

Who is saying the population should ever increase? Isn't the natural population declining in the next few years? I think the only growth forecast is due to immigration?

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:14

Net contributor is not a buzzword, you may have heard of it for the first time

People panicking about the amount of net contributors is a new thing...

And no, it hasn’t been normal at all. It is a recent phenomenon that over half the population cannot even sustain themselves. That’s why the social contract is breaking down.

@Jennps what % of that half of net contributors are pensioners?
When did the country have a high percentage of net contributors?

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:18

If the % of retired households increases then the amount of net contributors decreases

No3392 · 13/07/2025 15:18

Hearingelem · 13/07/2025 14:07

Annual Fiscal Impact vs UK‑born Workers (MAC, 2022–23)

  • In 2022–23, an average skilled worker on a migrant visa had a net fiscal contribution of ~£16,300, compared to £14,400 for a typical British worker Reddit+11Financial Times+11The National+11.
  • Overall, a migrant household contributed around £12,000, whereas many native households had a negative fiscal contribution .

In 2020, there were approximately 1.6 million foreign-born individuals receiving some form of working-age benefit Full Fact+3Reddit+3migrationcentral.co.uk+3.
In 2023, households including at least one non-UK or Irish national (on settled status) received £7.6 billion in Universal Credit Reddit+7migrationcentral.co.uk+7Reddit+7.
Nonetheless, migrants—especially recent arrivals and EU nationals—are less likely to claim jobseeker’s benefits than UK-born people. In 2022, 26% of UK-born unemployed had been jobless for over a year, versus 20% of non‑EUmigrants and 15% of EU migrants

You've literally left in the references that chatgpt used to source this information.

I was interested in engaging with this thread, but this is utterly lazy AI crap!

EasternStandard · 13/07/2025 15:18

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:09

Well durr we (UK) had an aging population and a growing economy all through the 80s and the 90s.

Did we have an ageing population in the 80s & 90s? I thought the median age was 30 something then and we didn't have more over 65s vs under 15s like we do now?

on the issues with always increasing, and those people aging, can you see the problems there?

Who is saying the population should ever increase? Isn't the natural population declining in the next few years? I think the only growth forecast is due to immigration?

Can you say what you’d prefer to see? Are you wanting a higher level of immigration, if so for how long?

Shenmen · 13/07/2025 15:20

Jennps · 13/07/2025 13:13

OP, a declining birth rate among the indigenous population is a problem. But the answer is not bringing in millions of people who cannot even support themselves.

Migrants, on average are net takers, not net contributors. They will never earn enough to pay for themselves or their large families. They tend to be more in receipt of social housing also. Then they will grow old and you will need more migrants because, guess what, there isn’t enough people. So you bring in more net takers, and so the cycle continues. The net contributors, on the other hand , having more burden put upon them, are even less likely to have children, as their cost of living rises due to higher taxes. Thats not meant to be inflammatory, it’s just facts.

That’s called a Ponzi scheme. It never ends well.

We are not bringing in people who are growing the economy. In fact immigration is making the country poorer. Again, it’s not controversial, just factual.

You've got it the wrong way round. As an overall people not born in the UK are net contributors more than people who are born here. Ie their net contribution to tax compared to how much they cost in public services is less than the average British born person.

This isn't much of a surprise as the people that come here tend to be coming to work or to make a better life for themselves. 2nd generation is equally on a similar footing. Immigrant's children tend to achieve better at school.

If you are the sort of person that has managed to travel thousands of miles to start up a new life you tend to be a bit of a go-getter, you also tend to have better health than the average person. Quite often immigrants will then in their older age when they cost more go back to their original country (not always but often), hence they don't cost the British taxpayer the same amount as British born pensioners.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:24

Are you wanting a higher level of immigration,

Why do you think I am advocating for more immigration? I'm pretty ok with the levels of skilled migrants. If the numbers are drastically cut I would like to know the impact to the taxes I have to pay & impact to public services as that would likely influence my opinion. It's difficult to make a decision when you don't have facts surely?

@EasternStandard what level of immigration do you want? Do you have a line of how much tax you are prepared to pay or what services you don't mind being cut?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 13/07/2025 15:30

Weird to tie pro-natalism in with anti-immigrant sentiments.

Not for the far right. 'Fighting aged men', 'illegals', the changing demographic because foreigners/Muslims breed like rabbits. Low birth rate for white people - they're all saying the same thing. It's the Great Replacement theory and guess who's the answer.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:31

Japan made the decision to not go for immigration and instead bought in policies to limit the impact. However now they have started to turn towards immigration. The ageing population issue is uncharted territory & the powers that be will not likely consider my needs & wants in their decisions 😆

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:31

Shenmen · 13/07/2025 15:20

You've got it the wrong way round. As an overall people not born in the UK are net contributors more than people who are born here. Ie their net contribution to tax compared to how much they cost in public services is less than the average British born person.

This isn't much of a surprise as the people that come here tend to be coming to work or to make a better life for themselves. 2nd generation is equally on a similar footing. Immigrant's children tend to achieve better at school.

If you are the sort of person that has managed to travel thousands of miles to start up a new life you tend to be a bit of a go-getter, you also tend to have better health than the average person. Quite often immigrants will then in their older age when they cost more go back to their original country (not always but often), hence they don't cost the British taxpayer the same amount as British born pensioners.

How naive. As well as misinformed.

Immigration is lowering GDP per capita. Which equals a poorer country.

And being a go getter does not automatically make you an engineer, an SDE, a nuclear physicist, etc. That’s not the profile of the average person coming here. Thats not the immigrants fault. Why wouldn’t they come here with their larger families, non working spouses, elderly parents, if they can get all of those children in school for free and use every other ready made service, while earning £26k a year.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:34

Birth rates have declined amongst immigrants too, they tend to adopt the same societal norms.

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:35

This thread shows why this country cannot come out of the doom loop now. Majority of the population is dumbed down to the level where they don’t understand basic economic and fiscal principles. They think that soundbites are enough to pay your way as a country.

They have completely sleep walked into a situation where low skilled migration over 28 years has had a huge part to play in lowering the country’s productivity leading to a sky high debt to GDP ratio and printing of £1 trillion to pay for free stuff.

The economic hole that this country is so deep that it’s scary.

Scary that these economically illiterate people get to vote.

Jennps · 13/07/2025 15:36

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:34

Birth rates have declined amongst immigrants too, they tend to adopt the same societal norms.

Yeah, hence the Ponzi scheme.

Glad you’re getting it now.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:42

We never recovered from 08 and the government and companies didn't invest in their staff, companies or the country. Labour should have been honest about tax rises as they were always going to be inevitable.

"* *In 2023, the Centre for Policy Studies essay collection Justice for the Young showed keeping spending on an ageing population constant would require growth of 2.9% per year, for the next 50 years"

The above quote is mind blowing. The only real solution is cutting services and increasing taxes but no one wants to hear that let alone vote for that.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:49

Yeah, hence the Ponzi scheme

Glad you’re getting it now

You're the one who isn't getting it.
A ponzi scheme is a pyramid. We don't have pyramid demographics. Immigration doesn't offset aging populations otherwise why would our population still be ageing? It's largely used to address the gaps in labour.

belladeli · 13/07/2025 15:51

Scary that these economically illiterate people get to vote.

The absolute irony 😆

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