To leave poorly 9 year old at home while I do school run?

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I have a 9 year old dd (year 4) who’s off school today with a stomach bug.
I wouldn’t dream of usually leaving her alone but if she’s not well would you leave her for 20 minutes while getting the youngest from school?
I trust her and I know she’d be happy to stay here.

Just wondering out loud whether these sort of questions are just rhetorical or whether people are actually making life choices based on Mumsnet responses

No I don't watch her all the time ring cameras have a cover on which you swipe open or closed so if I go out I will open it and then she closes it when I get back actually

My son is a bit older - 10 - but yes I would do this with a mature 9 year old. I’d do this now with my 10 year old to do the school run.

If you have to watch your kid with a camera, they're not ready to be left alone. Really odd to have a camera in a 9yos bedroom. You risk her growing up with some very questionable ideas about privacy and boundaries.

I wouldn't leave my 11 year old daughter but then she is scared of her own shadow. If your daughter is OK at home probably best she stays there

You know your child. I probably would let them stay home if I thought they would be fine. I don't think 20 minutes alone counts as neglect.

I was trying to make a decision and wondered what other parents would do.
I took her with me in the end as she wanted to go to
the shop on the way but it’s nice to know what others would do in your situation and thank you for everyone who took the time to advise.

Oh yes so long as she knows where you are and who she can call on in the tiny possibility of an emergency.

A 9 year old should definitely be able to
spend 20 minutes on her own in her own house.

Exactly this.

This is disturbing.

depends on he child. As she's happy and its a shot time I'd say yes

Generally yes. I’d leave a 9 year old for a short time. I’d be a bit more wary as she has a stomach bug though. What if she started vomiting again - is she likely to be scared or not make it to the bathroom in time and be left having to try and clear up etc.? If she’s been really poorly, might she feel faint if she gets up quickly. That kind of thing.

I can’t ever understand these posts. Why do you need to question your own judgement. No one knows your area, neighbours, child etc.

At 9 ? It would be a big fat no from me. Take her with you. She gets no choice.

If you were involved in an accident, you would be longer than 20 minutes.

So you took your child with a stomach bug out in public and into a shop?

Just...why?!

Yep I’ve got to second this. Not a great move, OP.

If she is feeling washed out but not too unwell, and is just sitting watching tv/reading and is generally sensible and unlikely to get up and turn the oven on etc, yes I would.
If she had SN, was acutely unwell and likely to throw up again or pass out, maybe not.
Age is not the key factor here. I wouldn't leave a very unwell 15 year old neither if I thought he might collapse.

It very much depends on your child. At a similar age I several times left DS on his own to take DD to school. He got a lot of colds that would sometimes go to his chest and I didn't want him in the cold air.
But I knew that he would sit and watch TV while I was gone and it was 20 minutes.
There is no way I would have left DD at the same age she could have got up to alsorts of trouble, like trying to cook.

I definitely wouldn't have taken her to a shop! She could have just told you what she wanted and kept her germs at home!

Don’t be ridiculous. She’ll be fine.

I took her with me in the end as she wanted to go to the shop on the way

Fantastic idea, make everyone else unwell.

I’d have left her at home, especially given how hot it was today.

I certainly wouldn’t have taken her into a bloody shop.

In the future get an app she can call you on installed on a tablet no need for a phone at this age but it would be a way to contact you if needed

But honestly for 20 minutes I would my dd had a house key at this age I was always in but it made her feel grown up and independent

I wouldn’t take her in the shop with a stomach bug that’s really selfish !

Must confess I've always lived in rural area where no option but to drive children to school in a car as even primary school was beyond walking distance - I'm talking 2 or so miles down country lanes. Always a danger that may be stuck behind a tractor which could delay me getting home.