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To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

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GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:13

Bluevelvetsofa · 09/07/2025 16:52

So you e been going home, feeding the bird on work time and coming back.

Surely, if you give a 16 year old detailed instructions, he can adapt his plans to help out. Otherwise you risk losing your livelihood. Isn’t it more important to keep a roof over your heads?

No, the bird has been coming with me to work.

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MushMonster · 09/07/2025 17:14

I just read your update, so you are handrearing a bird. At a vets.
Well done to you.

I would be temped to post their behaviour on their website! They are disgusting! They are meant to care for animals.
I would remind them of that, at least there are reasons why they wanted to put it to sleep.
Will you be able to release the bird? Or will it need to be kept as a pet? Is this bird ill? Or was just abandoned?

Flashout · 09/07/2025 17:14

VWT5 · 09/07/2025 17:07

Says me, who once fed a whole nest of swallows with wet cat food on a kebab stick 😂

Fucking hell

I never knew Swallows were carnivores!

GreyCarpet · 09/07/2025 17:15

Have they said why you can't do it? What reason have they given?

LindtLindor · 09/07/2025 17:15
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Are you being honest about the number of birds?

givemushypeasachance · 09/07/2025 17:15

What is the work reasoning for why you should not be keeping a baby bird in a spare room and occasionally having a comfort break to feed it? Is it the using your time when you should be working issue, or just fundamental "you shouldn't have a personal orphan baby bird in the practice"?

FourLove · 09/07/2025 17:15

OP can’t you take it to a wildlife sanctuary? Or find a bird loving retired person to care for it? Your intention is beautiful but there may be a good reason for not having the bird in the surgery.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 09/07/2025 17:15

Maybe the presence of the bird is distracting to the other animals coming in and out of the vets?

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:16

DaisyChain505 · 09/07/2025 16:56

Ok the context has helped. I do find it odd that a vet practice would be against this. What is their reasoning?

Bird flu 🙄

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Cinai · 09/07/2025 17:16

This thread reminds me of the ‘Dave the centipede’ thread a while ago

BeachPossum · 09/07/2025 17:17

Have you tried a wildlife sanctuary?

GreyCarpet · 09/07/2025 17:17

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:16

Bird flu 🙄

Is that not a valid reason?

MurdoMunro · 09/07/2025 17:17

Bird flu is a bloody good reason for caution @GingerGeorgie there’s a huge contagion risk there.

Reallybadidea · 09/07/2025 17:17

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 09/07/2025 17:10

He's dead.

Whaaat???

PolyVagalNerve · 09/07/2025 17:17

I change my mind YANBU
save the bird !!

Flashout · 09/07/2025 17:17

Fucking hell Keith Harris is dead? Who is looking after Orville?

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:17

BriefHug · 09/07/2025 16:56

This is mad. If the bird came from work in the first place, then surely there should be some kind of rota where anyone who is free on the quarter hour feeds the wonky puffin chick? SURELY?!

Most of the staff don't actually seem to like birds!

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LancashireButterPie · 09/07/2025 17:18

Blimey, what species is this? I thought most garden birds were fledged after 2 weeks or so.
You'll be struggling if it's a grey heron.....they take 8 weeks to leave the nest.
Send us a pic and we will try to identify it 😁

Saracen · 09/07/2025 17:18

SupposesRoses · 09/07/2025 16:53

If you post on your local facebook group you might find someone who could take it while you are working

Yes, I feel sure this would work. There are many tender-hearted people who would love to look after a baby bird for a while, especially while it is still small and cute and they don't have the long-term responsibility of it. Plus they don't have to do the night shifts!!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 09/07/2025 17:18

Flashout · 09/07/2025 17:14

Fucking hell

I never knew Swallows were carnivores!

I mean, all birds eat meat - insects, mice, worms...

givemushypeasachance · 09/07/2025 17:18

Bird flu - well you're the working in a vets professional so probably know more than me, but as a lay person I've seen the guidance saying you shouldn't bring injured birds into vet practices because of the risks. Does that still apply.

dawngreen · 09/07/2025 17:19

My mum rescued a baby blackbird off a cat, and raised it. She tried to release it but it kept coming back to the house. So ended up as a pet that could fly away when wanted. But the bird preferred to sun bathe in the garden. And had his own little bath, and my family would collect worms for him.

MassiveOvaryaction · 09/07/2025 17:19

Is it a pet type bird (budgie, canary sort of thing) or a wild type bird? Are you intending to keep it once it weaned (if that's even the correct term for birds Hmm)?

If it's a wild one that will be released then if look for a wildlife sanctuary/hospital to take it off your hands. I wouldn't be potentially risking my job for it.

LancashireButterPie · 09/07/2025 17:19

Flashout · 09/07/2025 17:17

Fucking hell Keith Harris is dead? Who is looking after Orville?

Oh FFS MN give us the laughing emoji back please!!!

grumpygrape · 09/07/2025 17:19

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:16

Bird flu 🙄

I was literally just coming on here to post ‘Avian Flu’ and you’ve said it.

You think it’s acceptable to take a possible carrier into a vets where it might pass on Avian Flue to people’s pets?

If I thought anyone at our vets was irresponsible enough to take an unvaccinated cat or dog to work I’d be bloody livid.