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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

502 replies

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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CreosoteGirl · 09/07/2025 22:59

Birdy Bingo for the disapproving!

ladyofshertonabbas · 09/07/2025 22:59

yadnbu. that bird is very cute.

TheJinxMinx · 09/07/2025 23:02

I dont think yabu but I also don't think work are either and I say this as an animal lover. Ur work colleagues pets are probably all vaccinated etc and up to date with injections the bird could be a risk carrying diseases and yes bird flu which could impact already ill animals in a vets. From a Healthcare point of view for infection control its not great but from an animal lover perspective id be tempted to consider it too. Its not worth loosing ur job over and other colleagues may tell I wouldn't trust them so ur 100% best to find someone else to do feeding ur son if possible

christinaks · 09/07/2025 23:04

Plantladylover · 09/07/2025 16:51

Are u taking the bird to work?

Really weird.

Birds need to be in the wild. They will find their way

Not always. Sometimes they need help. I helped splint a seagull that was kicked by a dickhead and broke its wing, we released it a few months later. I’ve had a pigeon die on my knee rather than be kicked by kids to death.

Corcaigher · 09/07/2025 23:04

Hothothot25 · 09/07/2025 22:56

OP you're getting a lot of support here, but you will lose your job if you bring the bird to work again. With bird flu in circulation, the vets in the practice have to been seen to take every precaution.

You need to keep the bird at home. Colleagues bringing dogs to work is different, as it's permitted.

For this to be effective, the vets would have to have a policy of not accepting any birds for treatment onsite and other sites to be following the same guidelines as OPs place of work.

MyPeppyCat · 09/07/2025 23:05

This post started all mysterious but is actually adorable! 🐦‍⬛🐣🦅

christinaks · 09/07/2025 23:05

Good on you op.

Corcaigher · 09/07/2025 23:06

OP - please post what your workplace policy is on treating birds and safeguards against for avian flu.

ABananaADay · 09/07/2025 23:09

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:14

This is him/her. Baby magpie.

He/she is gorgeous, thank you for saving it and well done for getting it this far 🥰 I’ve done this multiple times over the years at various places I worked too, never lost a job over it thankfully but definitely pissed off some of my employers so you have my full sympathy. It’s very disappointing that a vets of all employers is so against you doing this - even the school I used to work in begrudgingly let me bring a baby bird in twice. I did it mainly on a short term basis before I could get them to a rescue to take over. I know you said the ones you contacted were full, but if your next shift isn’t until Saturday, can you find anywhere further away who might be able to take it in before then? All the best to you and Magpie x

onwards2025 · 09/07/2025 23:19

Corcaigher · 09/07/2025 22:54

You work in a vets. You’re spending minutes of the day, arguably less time than loo or fag breaks, to rear a rescue bird. Several
colleagues are doing similar.

What sort of dickhead vets are you working for that won’t allow this, unless you haven’t given a full picture and are avoiding doing other things.

The vets practice that is well aware of its legal obligations regarding avian flu, the op is potentially massively putting their practice and business at risk by doing something that is unlawful, it's not the same as taking a cat or dog to work

LivelyCat · 10/07/2025 00:24

I suspect somebody else has already said this, but I don’t have time to read all of the posts, I believe bird flu can transmit to other animals, particularly cats. Could that be an issue or concern?

ETA: never mind, I see it’s already been discussed.

Thedogscollar · 10/07/2025 00:37

murasaki · 09/07/2025 16:55

I'm getting Brittas Empire baby in a drawer vibes.

Omg I loved that show.
This thread is hilarious.

Hulabalu · 10/07/2025 01:00

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:33

Also, just for information, at our sister branch two members of staff are also raising birds. One has a crow and the other has 2 gulls. I'm not sure where the birds are when they're on shift.
Another staff member was raising a pigeon but it sadly died.

You can keep a gull as a pet but you wouldn’t want to live with a seabird - it’ll blast your eardrums out! You can’t keep a hummingbird though. Bird law isn’t governed by reason in this country!

LivelyCat · 10/07/2025 03:53

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:16

Bird flu 🙄

Oh! Wow.

BlackCoffeeAndSugar · 10/07/2025 04:02

Groundhedgehogday · 09/07/2025 16:51

many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair.

Other staff members are also hand rearing birds? Where do you work?!

Burst out laughing at this comment

Minimili · 10/07/2025 04:10

Is its name Maggie? Has it been pecking your head and the tyres on your Grifter?

(If you know you know…)

Utterlyconfusednow · 10/07/2025 05:25

Will a hand-reared bird survive in the wild?

justaddittothelist · 10/07/2025 05:29

Aw I hope your son helps you out OP.
You sound like a lovely person and the wee bird is very lucky to have you take care of him.

SparklyGlitterballs · 10/07/2025 05:37

If you work in a vet practice they must have contact numbers for local wildlife rescues. Hand it off to one of them and stop risking your employment.

Alternatively, carry on what you're doing but don't moan when they fire you for insubordination, because you've been warned twice now.

Wearingmycrown · 10/07/2025 06:06

3 weeks isn’t a massive amount of time. You were once trusted & now you’re not. If this thing is important then why didn’t you go & ask for help from them.

Sortumn · 10/07/2025 06:15

onwards2025 · 09/07/2025 23:19

The vets practice that is well aware of its legal obligations regarding avian flu, the op is potentially massively putting their practice and business at risk by doing something that is unlawful, it's not the same as taking a cat or dog to work

I'm confused. Is a bird that doesn't have any signs of bird flu and isn't exposed to any other bits in danger of developing bird flu?

OneCalmFish · 10/07/2025 06:36

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:48

I may as well tell you.

I am hand rearing a baby bird who needs to be fed ideally every hour but when I'm at work I can stretch it to 1.5 hours between feeds. The feeds take literally seconds and I get comfort breaks at work so I've been feeding it then.

I've got nobody to look after it at home. I mean maybe I could ask my son (16) but he normally has plans.

Ok a vet not being able to treat an animal of any kind when others do is weird

XelaM · 10/07/2025 06:37

Inthesmallclouds · 09/07/2025 20:16

I love the fact the op thought feeding a bird would out her 🤣

I mean... I'd say it's quite niche to be hand-rearing a bird at work 😂

I love this thread 😍 Well done OP!!! Totally unreasonable of your employer

Utterlyconfusednow · 10/07/2025 06:40

XelaM · 10/07/2025 06:37

I mean... I'd say it's quite niche to be hand-rearing a bird at work 😂

I love this thread 😍 Well done OP!!! Totally unreasonable of your employer

I do too. We even got tax in the form of a fluffy bird. ❤️

Rabbitsockpeony · 10/07/2025 06:40

XelaM · 10/07/2025 06:37

I mean... I'd say it's quite niche to be hand-rearing a bird at work 😂

I love this thread 😍 Well done OP!!! Totally unreasonable of your employer

Same!