Going on holiday and feeling fat

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I’m going on a hot sunny holiday abroad next week and I should be excited and looking forward to it and instead I’m anxious and stressed about the fact I haven’t been able to lose much weight for it. I’ve lost a stone and a half since January but I’m still 12 stone which is still a good stone over weight. The last time I had a holiday like this I was 11 stone and even then I didn’t feel comfortable in my bikini. Now I’m a whole stone heavier than I was then and I’m just dreading getting my body out. I know there’ll be people of all shapes and sizes but I can’t help but feel like I want to hide away. I feel like such a failure that I haven’t been able to lose the weight and tone up :( helpful and kind responses welcome xx

What height are you lovely ?

The best thing about holidays is even if you are feeling shit about your body there's no one there to see you. Letting it all ha g out is my favourite thing !

Totally agree with IamnotSethRogan. Assuming you're not going with a big group of friends, there's no-one there to see you! I will admit before I go away I worry about how I will look in a bikini every year but once I get on holiday I really couldn't care less. I'm never going to see these people again!

Harsh truth - no one is going to be looking at you or care about your weight. Everyone is so busy worrying about their own lives, bodies to worry about yours

enjoy your holiday op, life it too short xx

Yes I am reminded of that saying “you wouldn’t worry about how people think about you if you realised how seldom they do”

If you don't feel comfortable wearing just a bikini, don't do it. It doesn't matter why you don't want to do it. You could get an oversized cotton/linen shirt to go over it? I had one of these on my last holiday and it was great for keeping cool and coupled with a wide brimmed hat I didn't have to bother with sun lotion!

Absolutely no one will be looking and in all honesty 12 stone is ok. I’m going away next week at 11.9 if I can loose another pound and I feel the slimmest I have for years. It’s all perception and I’m sure you look great, add a tan and some rest and you’ll feel amazing by day 4

Bear in mind nobody actually cares what you like except you. Hope you can relax and enjoy yourself!

Just enjoy your holiday

no one cares about your weight other than you.

as with 99.99% of the people on the beach, you will not be the fattest or the thinnest person there

Go shopping and buy stuff you feel comfortable in and won’t make you self conscious. I know it’s easy to say let it all hang out and hard to actually do that!

Find swimming costumes rather than bikinis if you’re conscious of your tummy or ones with little shorts or a skirt or sleeves if it’s your arms/legs that make you self conscious.

Then try all your outfits in front of a mirror and pick ones you like and make you feel good.

Then go and have an amazing time and don’t give a second thought to the number on the scales!

Do you look at other people and think they are fat, shouldn't wear those clothes on holiday, that they are a failure?

If not, then why do you say it about yourself?

Would you say that to a friend about themselves?

If not, why do you think it's OK to say it to yourself?

A stone is nothing. Buy a swimsuit that fits you and enjoy the bloody sunshine like everyone else does.

No one will be looking at you and judging you for being a stone heavier than you used to be.

I felt like this, first holiday in a very long time, had two dc since the last one and at least 3 stone heavier. The posters above are correct, noone looked, noone cared. My only regret is that I chickened out of bringing a bikini - the cover ups were ditched on day one though! Go, wear whatever, enjoy, relax (and eat all the lovely food too!)

I NEVER notice what other women look like, I'm too obsessed about hiding my stomach and worrying if I've got tarantulas sticking out my bikini bottoms! <I'm ridiculously hairy>

When I walk into or out of the sea, I just look straight ahead with my chin up and pretend I'm Ursula Andreas.

Buy clothes you feel comfortable in: swimsuit or bikini, bikini or tankini, tankini top with shorts... etc. if I'm sitting about, I'm either wearing matching shorts or a short sarong.

Honestly, nobody gives a flying fuck. You have your insecurities, but that's not due to people you don't know on holiday judging you.

We can all tell you nobody gives a shit what shape or size your body is, until we're blue in the face, but you aren't going to believe it because of how you feel about yourself, so there really is not point to the thread.

If you're paranoid about your body, wear a lovely cover up thingy. There are tonnes of gorgeous ones around.

Im 9st and wouldn't wear a bikini!

Go shopping and fiend a one piece that makes you feel amazing, theres some gorgeous ones about. Throw on a sarong, have a cocktail and have fun!

Agree with this.

Noone cares at all.

Most people will be overweight.

I can assure you that there will be much larger people than you lounging by the pool in a bikini and nobody will give a hoot. Stop stressing and have a fabulous holiday.

get nails, pedicure, eyebrows etc done before. Make yourself feel good. And as the other say, no one will be looking at you or care. Try to relax and enjoy yourself and be happy/grateful for your health and holiday. 🤗

I was like this for years, it was only last year when I went away - about a 1.5 stone heavier than I wanted to be - I thought to myself, don't look down. This is when I see my big boobs, my belly and my fat knees. When I look down.

I picked and packed all the outfits that i felt confident in and bikini (this was a first for me too). I just got dressed, tried to not take too much notice of the mirror - although I know my outfits looked fine but if you start to look you start to pick fault. Once dressed and ready to go I didn't look down. When I took my clothes off at the pool or the beach, I didn't look down. I felt good, I didn't need to look at myself.

When I looked around there were a lot of people bigger than me that did not give a damn and were walking around in next to nothing on, very confidently.

Op if you had lost the weight and were now feeling good and when you arrive there’s another guest size 12 worrying about what you must be thinking, what would you say to her?

If you can treat yourself to nice items, well fitting bikini, swimsuit, coverups and dresses I would do this. Get hair and nails done, perhaps a spray tan, nice flips flops/wedges and a smile!

Nobody will care though, either because they aren’t interested or they’re panicking about how they look.

Just an edit to say size 12 is probably common these days - if not much larger.

I'm on holiday now (in the UK). I've been to the pool and the beach today, and there were plenty of people much heavier than you in swimsuits /short shorts/tiny vest tops. I don't give a shit and they don't seem to either. I saw a load of people in the pool this morning, couldn't pick any of them out of a lineup now. People don't pay much attention to other people, they're thinking about thier own stuff.

Well I’m going to go against the grain here. I think some people do look at other people’s bodies and judge . Otherwise, how would we have the fat-shaming that goes on every day? I’m not saying it’s right but I think it’s disingenuous to say nobody notices.

People might notice, they just don't care. Of the people I saw in swim suits this morning, I've probably seen them again this afternoon around the place (I'm at a caravan site) but I won't recognise them. I clocked them then they fell back out of my head. My head's full of my stuff not of judging other people I don't have anything to do with.

Exfoliate, get a spray tan, do as much as you can with diet and exercise between now and departure, and drink lots of water. No matter what sort of shape you're in, these things will make ANYONE look a bit better.

Then hit that beach and relax!!!

This.