Going on holiday and feeling fat

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I’m going on a hot sunny holiday abroad next week and I should be excited and looking forward to it and instead I’m anxious and stressed about the fact I haven’t been able to lose much weight for it. I’ve lost a stone and a half since January but I’m still 12 stone which is still a good stone over weight. The last time I had a holiday like this I was 11 stone and even then I didn’t feel comfortable in my bikini. Now I’m a whole stone heavier than I was then and I’m just dreading getting my body out. I know there’ll be people of all shapes and sizes but I can’t help but feel like I want to hide away. I feel like such a failure that I haven’t been able to lose the weight and tone up :( helpful and kind responses welcome xx

All good advice already. One thing I'd add is start talking to yourself differently.

You're not fat/a failure.

You're a sexy buxom mamma. Wiggle that butt, hold your head high and walk with a strut. You belong on that beach feeling fine, cocktail in hand. Dressing yourself well, holding yourself well and looking confident is super attractive whatever your size.

I’m 5 ft 6. Friends and family always tell me I’m silly when trying to lose weight as though I don’t need to but I feel I try my best to hide it well with the clothes I wear and people think I’m slimmer than what I am. This makes it worse though as I know what I look like under my clothes 🙈 and I know I’m over weight and despite starting to lift weights and exercise a few months ago I don’t look in the slightest bit toned. Everything is wobbly and chubby. The last holiday I had like this, I swear everyone looked like they’d stepped out of a magazine! I know I should try not to care. Sorry to complain x

And this.

Well put. We are so hard on ourselves, in a way we would never be to those we love like friends or family.

But they are shallow cunts so who cares what they think in their tiny pea sized brains anyway? I don’t. Fuck em.

I hear you. I was around 12 stone this time last year and I felt so self conscious. Even if strangers don’t look, YOU don’t feel confident and that matters loads. I didn’t care if other people were fatter than me, I cared that I felt fat and hated how I looked.

I agree a good fake tan does wonders. I stuck to one pieces) and removed every single phone photo of me in swimwear that my husband kept taking) 🤨

It's true, we're all judgemental on some level. There may well be the odd person who might think that way but you know about it, so don't worry about it!

Personally, I'd judge anyone who is unkind enough to make judgements about someone based on their weight. I'd also suspect that they're not altogether happy in their own body to care or compare that much!

The majority of people aren't areseholes though and there will be loads of people too busy enjoying themselves or struggling with their own insecurities to notice anyone else. Do whatever makes you feel nice and find something that makes you feel good about yourself. You are worth much more than your weight.

Thanks everyone for your kind comments and advice. I have ordered a couple of swim dresses so I’ll give those a go and will try and get a spray tan too! I think I’m feeling this way because I’m getting that bit older now, I’ve got a midriff that I didn’t use to have but I’m approaching 40 and my body has changed and I’m struggling to accept it. But I’ll go on holiday and try and have the best time I can and let go of my insecurities as much as I can, and get back to work on my body when I get home! Thanks again for your kindness :)

On holiday currently, untoned, flabbier and heavier than normal. Feeling the yearly regret of not getting in shape. I brought lots of long dresses with me thinking I’d got a capsule wardrobe. Packed a couple of pairs of shorts in case I felt brave enough to wear them, ( never do). It’s been so hot, I’ve lived in the shorts and been to the market to buy some short dresses. The feel of the sun and warm breeze on my legs has been lovely. No one is looking at me and even if they are, I don’t really care. Would be self conscious at home but here I’m not bothered. I’ve also got an old one piece costume with me. Good to hide in but I wish I’d invested in a good bikini. Hope you have a wonderful time OP.

I’m your height and a stone heavier than you. I just got back from holiday where I wore a swimsuit every day around others. I focussed on enjoy my holiday and having a lovely time splashing around with my kids, just like everyone else was doing. Maybe some people thought I looked fat, because I do look fat. Probably the vast majority gave my appearance no thought at all. There weren’t many other perfect bikini bodies around either, and they are all strangers who I have no interest in and will never see again, their opinions of me are completely inconsequential. Just go and appreciate your body for being able to swim, feel the sun, run around with your kids, whatever you’re doing, just enjoy it and don’t waste your time worrying about something that doesn’t matter.

Unless you look like Cindy Crawford or someone from my 600lb life, no one will notice you. Think about the last time you went to a pool or beach, can you recall the weight of anyone there?? Of course not because it’s the least interesting thing about them.

It’s all about comfy clothes BUT clothes that make you feel a little bit nicer than your everyday. Op you’ve done amazingly, enjoy your holiday, they’re meant to be fun, not about how you look etc x

I was on holiday a few weeks ago for the first time in a few years. Since we last went abroad I had gained and then lost over 5 stone and was feeling a bit down in the dumps about everything being a bit older and a lot baggier than last time I wore a bikini in public. At the hotel pool, waterpark and the beach there was every shape and size in their bikinis (very few one piece swimsuits) and nobody gave a shit. It was honestly really lovely and made me wonder why I had been beating myself up so much when I should have been focusing on looking forward to the holiday and enjoying myself.

Literally nobody will give a shit what you look like apart from yourself, and with the number and diversity of other people also in their cossies, you won't stand out unless you happen to have green skin or multiple heads. Don't waste your energy worrying about it.

Enjoy your holiday :)

OP I am 62, 13 stone 10 and decidedly untoned, especially around my bum, hips and lower belly. Off to Greece in about 7 weeks. Will I lose 10lb before I go? Probably not. Will I wear a bikini on holiday, enjoy food and wine? Hell yeah! I get my waxing and nails done before I go, and have some nice long shirt coverups from Primark for the beach/pool.

Go away, don't worry what others think, and have a fabulous time and rock your curves!

It will be a cold day in hell before I ditch bikinis. I hate swimsuits they feel so restrictive and a pain going to the loo. You are stuck with wet material on you. Plus no brown tum!

50 and bmi 24 so hardly supermodel statistics but sod that!

Really don’t worry. I could do with losing a stone and I’m over 50 but I still wear my bikini. I have a few little wrap skirts to put over when I get up.
once you have a bit of colour everything looks better anyway x
have a lovely holiday!

Sorry if this comes across harsh but I don’t mean it to.

Nobody cares what anyone else looks like whilst on holiday!! I am 18st (lost 3 and a half so far and still going) and I will be going and loving every minute with my family.

Don’t be so hard on yourself! You have done amazing and you just need to put this to the back of your mind and love every minute!!

Don’t let it ruin your holiday. The beach will get whatever body we give it! Enjoy your holiday and make memories. It’s too late to do anything or worry about it now. In the same I go in 2 weeks.

You will never see the people you see there again.

It is highly unlikely that anyone else will so much as notice.

Just relax, you are on holiday, you are not hurting anyone,

How is that harsh 😂

It’s all individual perception and our own feelings are valid. I hear you.
I’m 5’5 and 9 stone. Three kids have trashed my body. I might not have big numbers on the scales but I’m unbelievably untoned and everything is squishy.

Im going abroad this weekend and dreading being in a tummy control one piece.

9 stone?!? Just wear a bikini!

This
OP you’ll probably be one of the smallest

I’m 5ft 7 and 12 stone and I’m slim.

Get a well fitting bikini particularly if you've a larger chest. Like underwear it makes all the difference.

Personally I think people stand out more in a swimsuit than a bikini ie..everyone knows you're covering up so it draws more attention to you.
I've just got back from Greece, I couldn't tell you one thing about anyone else and how they looked! I'm a bit nosey at the time but no one remembers

See my post..lose the one piece

Sorry harsh but true.....When you're dead no-ones going to remember what weight you were or what you looked like in a bikini. Life is too fucking short to waste energy caring about stuff that means you dont live life to the full.