Are you a snooper?

[SnooperLoopy]

I've name changed for this to preserve my reputation as a GLM (Good Little Mumsnetter) but I have to say I find it so weird how opposed some people are to snooping on your partner's phone.
I would happily:

• snoop your phone
• go through your bathroom cabinet
• read your diary

and feel no shame in doing so. I wouldn't even justify it with concerns about infidelity etc - I'm just nosey. But I would draw the line at sharing what I found with others or ever mentioning any of it to the snoopee (even if I discovered they had betrayed me I wouldn't let on how i had found out). I don't know why I feel this way but i genuinely don't understand the outrage admissions of snooping generate. I bet there are others like me, so fess up!

Ok, I'm nosy AF. I would peek in a medicine cabinet. But I would never go through a phone or read a diary.

No. I work in other people's houses and I never snoop. I do what I need to do and leave. I'd hate it if anyone snooped on me. I once caught someone in my friendship group going through my medical details on my phone and I was so angry I dumped her immediately.

It's not something to be proud of OP.

WTF? This is such a violation of people's privacy. Don't you have any boundaries?

I don't have anything to hide either, but the friends and clients I message on my phone have an expectation of privacy and it's just so totally out of order to disregard that basic right because you're feeling nosey.

Perhaps if your own life wasn't so boring you wouldn't feel the need to snoop.

I’d never go through someone’s phone or read their diary just for the sake of it. There’d have to be some pretty dire circumstances where I have some pretty compelling indication that I’ve been lied to about something massive for me to do that.

Bathroom cabinet?
Absolutely 😂😂😂

All you posters who are horrified and then equally berating of the fact that the OP has name changed, you do realise that the OP probably knows it’s not acceptable and is confessing… it’s probably quite cathartic!

Do you have ocd?

I’d stay well clear of you , sorry!

Op says she’s not the least bit ashamed

a user name change (on an anonymous chat forum anyway) would indicate that the OP very much is ashamed!

Oh op 🧦
just clocked the user name

this is cringeworthy

Interesting

@SnooperK has a very similar user name to the OP
and has a posting history comprising of a total of three posts. All on this thread.

OP…. Good on you for name changing. Right decision. This is embarrassing!!

I’m horrified you think it’s ok to go through someone’s phone or diary. That’s private and I’d see it as a serious violation of my privacy and a lack of respect. You’d be no friend of mine

Oh well done you for your itsy bitsy teeny weeny little snoop 😂😂😂

PS not the OP …. Just another snooper!

On the basis that I would not want anyone else to snoop on my phone, go through my bathroom cabinet, read my diary or letters etc etc I don’t do it to others. For me, that is basic common decency, integrity, consideration & respect for others. Those are MY values by which I choose to live my life.

I am aware, however, that decency, integrity, consideration and respect are not everyone’s values, and that is between them & their conscience.

Also ashamed and name changed in order to remain a good little mumsnetter!

I would never do any of those things you mention OP.

However, I am the queen of internet snooping. I’ll randomly think of a schoolfriend I’ve lost touch with or a colleague I used to work with, and have a good old internet snoop. It’s amazing how much info you can find out.

I’m especially pleased with myself when someone’s married and changed their surname, but I still find them.

I would never actually do anything with any of this info though, I just like knowing it.

I've got 0 interest in snooping on anyone. Bathroom cabinet wouldn't even register to me.

I do however think that some situations (particularly abusive relationships) warrant snooping. I guess I don't see it as snooping but instead further investigation. If someone say has a gut feeling that their partner is being secretive or hiding part of themselves. If looking through a phone or emails might save them from marrying the wrong person or getting out a bad relationship when they just needed to see the proof. I can't condemn anyone for that. Obviously the healthiest way is open honest communication but life doesn't always work like that. Some people have the whole world convinced they are a good trustworthy person.

I personally have a complete open policy with my phone as does my partner. We share finances children all the big stuff would be odd for us to stop at our phones.

She’s got lots of good qualities too! And I don’t know that she would snoop: just strongly suspect!

That’s nothing like the OP though: you’re looking at information in the public domain: not through someone’s private stuff

My job meant working in other people's properties and I never snooped. I wasn't interested. I just wanted to get the job done and go home.

Would look at Dh phone if I had suspicions. The rest no.

I would if I had suspicions. If you share your life and finances and home with someone, checking out a suspicion when we all know cheaters don’t admit, is only sensible. Generally I’m in favour of privacy.

🤣🤣

It's so fucked up that I'd dodge you like my life depended on it. I believe IRL I'd sense your values and wide berth you I hope.

We all can do really shitty things. There's something really sinister about this.

Opening the door of a bathroom cabinet at someone's house. I could see the curiosity in that on some level and wouldn't ditch anyone over that. The other stuff is fooked. Because I think you'd present yourself as something completely different. That makes me uneasy as I've got older.

I wouldn't and don't snoop because I've had it done to me and it's awful and I respect people's privacy.

There might be one or two concessions to this, one being if I was seriously concerned for someone's safety, the other if I strongly suspected a partner of cheating on me.