Going back to ex husband mainly for son to feel happy again

[GuiltRidden9]

I broke up with my husband in January and my son ( aged 13 ) just can’t accept it

The guilt is destroying our relationship as he holds me fully responsible as it was my choice to leave and his dad moved back to his parents so son could stay close to school etc

Hos dad is a good dad and good provider but lacks emotion, we had no connection between us which then filtered into me feeling like an emotional wreck a lot of the time and his looking at me like I was crazy.

It affected our sex life as it all felt very disconnected.

He is begging to come home - he is struggling being away from us to an extent that I am very worried about him but more so our son of course.

Im so worried about trying again and it going wrong and my son hating me even more that it’s stopping me doing it but then every day I’m faced with the guilt that I’ve ripped his family apart.

Your DS (and YOU) need to learn that your happiness and your relationships are not for him to dictate. You left for a very valid and good reason and that does not diminish his relationship with his father. He needs to get used to it, it will take time.

Focus on yourself, your own therapy and improving your confidence and self esteem. Get your head in order before making any ridiculous decisions like rushing back to a man that didn’t make you happy just so your son won’t be sad about the divorce.

Also, your DD is just as important here and she deserves to not be messed around.

You’ve posted before and been told the same. Your EXDH has thrown you under the bus by entirely blaming you to your DS. That’s not what good fathers do, not what good DH’s do either. Not someone who has your back or you should be ever considering to partner up with again. He’s only looking out for himself.

100% this @GuiltRidden9 not your problem he isn’t solvent either

Your more recent posts make me even sure you shouldnt get back with him.

are you financially able to stay single?

Yes just about