Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

[Hattie24]

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

it’s always the families that’s have to suffer for the actions of other people but this instance I’m not sure what you can do to be honest your upset that’s it’s your husband but she’s upset that’s she’s kept up all night due to men like him frequent visiting I read you have your doubts but to be honest I think that’s you just trying to believe he wouldn’t do that he stays out on a Friday and is does seem quite clear he’s having sex with other women. You need to possibly consider getting your assets in order. Men who visit places like that usually become addicted to it even if he says otherwise.

It’s defamation as the implication is public that he is participating in illegal practices.

it will cost but a letter from a solicitor should make it go away. He can also ask for a public apology.

And all punters do a background check and psychological profile of the women they use, to make sure they are keeping within good ethics. 🙄

Yep and my ex husband just made a Tinder profile 'to see what it would look like' when we were married. Good grief.

Once again though, it's only defamation if untrue. Op suspects it is true

So his rugby team paid for this physio? Surely they have booking confirmation and also he knows the address so I would be asking him what the name of this establishment is called. To me this man is guilty because if you say there are a few neighbours and she is the ringleader I believe they are aware which flat it is. So either get shot of him altogether or stand by your man who sees prostitues.

My exhusband took his wedding ring off and hid it in the pocket of his jeans when he went to night clubs with work colleagues because , during those visits, it suddenly became too big for his finger and he was worried he would lose it. Okay.

Exactly. Which of them cares to check who is truly making an independent choice? Not a single one of them.

A public apology for her posting a picture of him visiting a flat in her building that she knows prostitutes operate from. The apology can be for posting the picture on a public forum. The fact remains that Ops husband is visiting prostitutes. That nasty stain isn't going to be washed away with a Facebook apology

Erm can he not go to a bar like a normal person. Trust me there are many that would do one night stands. No need to go to a prostitue. Would you be happy for you're man let alone husband to go with one? Genuine question?

The post is still there this morning but comments have been disabled, so hopefully it will fall down the page quickly (not that it makes much difference as the damage is done).

I do have sympathy for the residents, but don’t agree how they’ve gone about it. People in the comments asked why they haven’t addressed it with the women working there directly, and apparently there is a group of 3/4 which changes every fortnight and they all claim to have limited English.

My husband says the physio session was with a teammate who does this on the side as a favour for the team manager so there is no evidence in terms of a booking. However he says this team mate will vouch for him.

It has made me realise that the length of our break has been stupid and we either need to end it once and for all, or give it one last go.

He's had time to ask his team mate to participate in his little lie . I bet if you checked his phone you'd find frantic text messages between them cooking up this little fabrication. If you're going to give it one last go make sure he gets an STI check first.

What a nightmare for you.

She’s likely entitled to leave it up, and sending something ‘stronger’ might make her dig her heels in.

What did your first message say? Was it honest? Did you acknowledge her concerns and explain that you feel humiliated because you’re the one facing public fallout for his disgusting behaviour?

That’s likely your best chance: asking for help for yourself, not for him. He doesn’t deserve it; you do. If you’ve already done that, I’d message again to say you’re still really worried it’s still up. No threats. Just the emotional impact on you. That’s what’s most likely to work.

🙄🤣 Such bullshit from your soon to be ex* (not extreme, stupid autocorrect!). Come on, you're cleverer than this, OP!

Give it a go? you must be off your head.

He has been seeing prostitutes... How handy it is that his team mate lives in a block of flats shared with prostitutes. Were all the other men who were outside waiting to see him for physio as well.

Honestly he must be one of the worst liars ever.

Get rid of him.

One last go? I couldn't go near anyone that had sex with prostitutes. Revolting. And you'd have to be an idiot to believe that physio bullshit

I don't know why you're blaming the residents, who must be at the end of their tether with sleazy men hanging around at all hours. Some residents might be women living alone or with children.

It's not the residents problem to think about friends and family of these sleazy men either, that's on the sleazeballs themselves.

Gullible or what…

‘It has made me realise that the length of our break has been stupid and we either need to end it once and for all, or give it one last go.’

REALLY?! This is what you’ve got from it? You’d actually consider giving it a go with a man potentially using prostitutes in what seems like an extraordinarily exploitive (potentially criminal) scenario (3/4 on rotation, little English).

And the only one who will support the physio story is a team mate.

Your thinking is skewed. Or this is a windup.

The public apology sounds a good idea. Something along the lines of "I apologise for posting a photograph showing John Jones, of Brownfields, arriving at a residence used for prostitution and leaving one hour later. I have no knowledge of the reason for his visit."

Presumably the poster wants to highlight how many men are using the prostitutes. Your h has embarrassed himself and his family. It’s on him, not on this poster.

“It has made me realise that the length of our break has been stupid and we either need to end it once and for all, or give it one last go”

Sorry, but you are really gullible and being a fool. Your ex is paying for sex, you are trying to protect him and now you’re even considering one last go. Wow. He hasn’t got proof because, there is no proof! Get some self respect

@Hattie24 his excuse for being there is very flaky. Obviously his mate will cover for him. They probably went together. I’m not surprised this woman is at the end of her tether. I’d hate a rotation of men queuing up out outside where I lived. You’re blaming the wrong person here & everyone is telling you that he’s the one in the wrong. Has anyone actually messaged you about it? You seem more bothered than him. Why on earth are you considering having him back?

That old excuse! Was he heck, the ‘physio’ was a woman whom he was paying to give at least one of his body parts a work-out. Your anger is very misplaced here.

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