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Anyone else lost a bit of ambition now they’ve been taxed to the brink?

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Peasontoastt · 04/07/2025 19:56

I used to be extremely ambitious and was really eager to reach some sort of financial security. As a consequence, I’m in what’s considered a highly paid career, I work hard and it took me many years to train.

Just as I paid off my student loan (which took many years), I then had a baby and returned to work to be stuck with the childcare dilemma. I struggled through that phase and have come out the other side but being taxed so much, no child benefit, still paying for nursery even though dd has ‘free’ hours now. It’s likely that savings are going to be bashed next, so what’s the point in even putting anything aside when there’s likely going to be a 4K cap on ISAs.

I used to feel so ambitious and of course I know money isn’t everything, not by a long shot. But having worked my way up the ladder and with huge responsibilities only to feel penalised financially for doing so…what is the point? Yes I have more financial security than someone claiming benefits but equally, I am not being flippant when I say a few years of resting and being at home and being frugal is starting to seem so much more attractive. Has anyone else started feeling this way? I feel taken the piss out of by every financial angle!

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HarryLimeFoxtrot · 05/07/2025 11:31

TwoFeralKids · 04/07/2025 22:36

I don't see much difference between people not working more in case it affects their benefits and high earners who are stuffing money in pensions to get it under £100k and get the funded hours. Playing the system to get some benefits. One is not morally better than the other IMO.

If the extra money is going into a pension, then it will most likely be taxed in the future - income tax works the same for pension income as earned income. So it’s more deferring the tax rather than avoiding it altogether. Plus the pension fund will be invested in stocks and shares, and thus contributing to the economy.

CinnamonCinnabar · 05/07/2025 11:57

Sunshineandoranges · 04/07/2025 20:23

We are one of the highest taxed European economies. The Scandinavian countries are highly taxed but see good public services in return.

Lower earners pay a lot more tax in Scandinavian countries - there's no personal allowance so all income is taxed. Someone on 20k a year in Denmark would pay over £5000 in tax compared to about £2000 in the UK (income tax & national insurance).

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 12:07

Only on MN would someone say that a person earning over 100k a year therefore paying loads of tax, yet paying into a pension to avoid yet more tax, is the same as a benefits layabout who’s never worked a day in their life and literally thinks ‘benefits benefits benefits’ !

OP, I totally agree with you. The amount of tax taken once someone earns over 50k is a piss take. It’s a piss take that so many people are on benefits in this country. And it’s even more of a piss take that said benefits claimants don’t appreciate tax payers and think they should feel privileged to pay lots of tax!

EasternStandard · 05/07/2025 12:09

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 12:07

Only on MN would someone say that a person earning over 100k a year therefore paying loads of tax, yet paying into a pension to avoid yet more tax, is the same as a benefits layabout who’s never worked a day in their life and literally thinks ‘benefits benefits benefits’ !

OP, I totally agree with you. The amount of tax taken once someone earns over 50k is a piss take. It’s a piss take that so many people are on benefits in this country. And it’s even more of a piss take that said benefits claimants don’t appreciate tax payers and think they should feel privileged to pay lots of tax!

The pension attack is an odd one I agree, how are those the same? You can see why we’re heading for increasing taxes.

taxguru · 05/07/2025 12:11

Gagcaa · 05/07/2025 11:16

Oh wow. I mean if someone wants to work less it's their choice. If they are happy with the lower income but more leisure that's fine it's their life.

As long as they don;t expected other taxpayers to subsidise their reduced working, now or in the future.

taxguru · 05/07/2025 12:13

HarryLimeFoxtrot · 05/07/2025 11:31

If the extra money is going into a pension, then it will most likely be taxed in the future - income tax works the same for pension income as earned income. So it’s more deferring the tax rather than avoiding it altogether. Plus the pension fund will be invested in stocks and shares, and thus contributing to the economy.

Whilst I mostly agree, the pension fund won't benefit the UK economy if invested in overseas assets/investments! Perhaps we do need to bring in rules/incentives to encourage pension funds to invest in the UK.

taxguru · 05/07/2025 12:19

Re part timers, we could think of radical changes, such as making the thresholds pro-rata. I.e. if someone only works "half" a normal working week, their starting point for paying tax/nic is half the £12,570 threshold! Not advocating that as a solution, but it does seem the politicians/Treasury have very little imagination and have run out of ideas, so keep trotting out the same kind of changes.

Look at the press releases and statue when the removed interest relief from let properties - talking about the removal of MIRAS relief as if it were yesterday rather than nearly 30 years ago! Clearly just took the file off the shelf that had been drafted decades ago, and enacted it. It's probably been "offered" to successive Chancellors by the Treasury ministers for years but always rejected until a few years' ago.

It wouldn't suprise me if the WFA removal was the same - planned by someone in the Treasury years ago and just dusted off the shelf last year and enacted without any kind of proper thought nor due diligence, hence the U turn being needed!

Gagcaa · 05/07/2025 12:34

taxguru · 05/07/2025 12:11

As long as they don;t expected other taxpayers to subsidise their reduced working, now or in the future.

Agreed

HarryLimeFoxtrot · 05/07/2025 12:42

taxguru · 05/07/2025 12:19

Re part timers, we could think of radical changes, such as making the thresholds pro-rata. I.e. if someone only works "half" a normal working week, their starting point for paying tax/nic is half the £12,570 threshold! Not advocating that as a solution, but it does seem the politicians/Treasury have very little imagination and have run out of ideas, so keep trotting out the same kind of changes.

Look at the press releases and statue when the removed interest relief from let properties - talking about the removal of MIRAS relief as if it were yesterday rather than nearly 30 years ago! Clearly just took the file off the shelf that had been drafted decades ago, and enacted it. It's probably been "offered" to successive Chancellors by the Treasury ministers for years but always rejected until a few years' ago.

It wouldn't suprise me if the WFA removal was the same - planned by someone in the Treasury years ago and just dusted off the shelf last year and enacted without any kind of proper thought nor due diligence, hence the U turn being needed!

If your personal allowance were to be tapered based on the number of days you work, then surely that’s a further incentive to anyone earning over £100k to work PT? Because your marginal tax rate of 60% for losing your personal allowance would cover a smaller chunk of your income once your personal allowance had been reduced due to your PT hours.

nomas · 05/07/2025 12:45

BirdIsland · 04/07/2025 20:13

The tax I pay each year literally doesn’t cross my mind. I received a statement from HMRC and I was mildly surprised at how high my yearly tax was, mostly because I hadn’t given it any thought, but in no way has it impacted my ambition and drive. I have absolutely no issue at all in paying tax and contributing to the society we all live in - in fact I have made active decisions in the past not to game my income and have therefore intentionally not claimed things like tax free childcare.

If such fundamental bits of your personally are so easily affected by incremental tax deductions, you probably need to take a bit of time for some self-reflection….

Slavish acceptance of what HMRC tells you isn’t a great look either.

It’s sensible to keep an eye on your tax code.

Farmwifefarmlife · 05/07/2025 13:05

SunnyFTM567 · 04/07/2025 20:03

Go abroad. We moved offshore in 2022 partly because of Covid. Always intended to come back. Now I have a baby, our parents are begging us to come back. But I'm looking at the tax in the UK, the cost of childcare, the salaries, the healthcare....no way. I gave birth in private healthcare, my son has a paedetrician that knows him since birth, and I make more money than I ever could for the hours I work in particular. I am home at 5pm every day!

Look offshore. Plenty of places to go to.

Can I ask where you moved to please? Thanks

80smonster · 05/07/2025 13:15

cloudyblueglass · 05/07/2025 11:15

Who is going to be left to do ‘ordinary’ jobs?

And how would making most jobs high paying work exactly? EG - company director - what ixactly will the position be ‘directing’ if there aren’t employees further down the chain?

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What’s an ordinary job? I suspect the way things are going, many jobs will be performed by robots and AI. It’s about educating kids to take on skilled and better paid professions. Not everyone can be a company director, but we shouldn’t be churning out kids to work in supermarkets. We should have higher educational expectations and this needs funding by all tax payers.

LadyKenya · 05/07/2025 13:15

PlumLemur · 05/07/2025 09:42

I never understand these threads about those on benefits.

Why aren’t you all frothing about the large companies who tax dodge? About the tech companies who didn’t pay £2bn of tax in the U.K.? What about Bezos who has just had a huge wedding in his multibillions but you still use Amazon, still buy Starbucks coffee, still use Facebook every day to tell Aunty Shiela about your holiday to Malta with your 157 photos that no one cares about.

Why is it always ‘let’s kick the disabled’ and not ‘let’s boycott the huge companies that tax dodge and make a real dent in this country’?

I say this as someone whose husband is on £54k. People get angry but with the wrong sector. Let’s get really fucking angry with those who really deserve our vitriol. But nah, because Keith from number 32 may or may not have a dodgy back.

Well said.

Bushmillsbabe · 05/07/2025 13:18

SleeplessInWherever · 05/07/2025 08:22

I don’t come from privilege. Like many in my position, I’d imagine.

I come from a council estate in the NE, and was state educated in a run down, low quality secondary school.

Which I think is maybe why I can acknowledge I’m in a position of financial privilege now, because I’ve had and seen people with far less.

The “hard work argument” doesn’t work for me either. My mum works 12hr shifts in a factory, she’s 63, she works hard for far less. Some of my staff are on significantly lower salaries and receive support with childcare. I get paid double what some of them do - they work hard and receive less for their efforts.

Earning £50k+ isn’t “little reward,” is it. It’s a good reward, a better reward than others get.

That’s like me suggesting I walk away from my (reasonably) high salary, and claim benefits instead so I can sit on the sofa. Ludicrous idea, I’d be bored within a week and I’m used to the lifestyle I have.

Of course I’ve worked hard, but plenty of people work equally as hard and don’t get the life we have. Sometimes it’s just about being grateful for what you do have.

It's not just about hard work now, it's about historical hard work, making choices for the long term rather than the short term. Many of my school mates were too busy getting pissed to put much effort in, I did 4 hours + school work every school night to get the grades needed to progress, I am only averagely smart but got all A's at gcse's and A levels through sheer slog. When others were buying fancy new build flats in trendies areas, I bought a do'er upper in a non trendy area and through working my way up the housing ladder DH and I now own a million pound home despite both only earning roughly national average salaries (nhs and council), despite both having a disability.

No one denies thats lots of people work hard for low salaries, but what choices did they make further back, did they study really hard, did they go without in their early days, make smart choices. Keep getting up and trying again when knocked back.

Being financially stable is part hard work, part smart choices/determination a bit of luck in terms of how academically able/talented someone is.

I know so many people who had really tough starts in life, loads of knock backs and through sheer slog and determination have become extremely sucessful, which maybe skews my views on what is luck and what is choice.

lifeonmars100 · 05/07/2025 13:29

TwoFeralKids · 05/07/2025 11:02

Most able bodied people on UC have to earn over a certain amount each month. They won't be allowed to just say no to doing work. I think people don't understand what UC is like now.

And I think (happy to be corrected if wrong) that if they work part time they are meant to be looking to increase their hours by getting other work. It is not the feather bed that some think it is, plus it all ends once dependants reach adult hood. We can't all be high flyers earning 6 figure salaries, that simply isn't economically possible or indeed achievable as we are not all equally gifted especially in the spheres that pay what I consider (but some MNs think is a substintence wage) high salaries.

Gagcaa · 05/07/2025 13:34

I always told my kids if they didn't work hard at school they'd be stuck doing low paid jobs

guerdyguatd · 05/07/2025 13:37

how old are you @Bushmillsbabe?

I think it's pretty hard to get on the housing ladder these days & have financial security let alone a 1m house on average salaries these days. A lot of housing gains is due to luck & age as opposed to active decisions. My flat went up 200k in 2 yrs, I didn't do anything to make that happen.

lifeonmars100 · 05/07/2025 13:42

Bushmillsbabe · 05/07/2025 13:18

It's not just about hard work now, it's about historical hard work, making choices for the long term rather than the short term. Many of my school mates were too busy getting pissed to put much effort in, I did 4 hours + school work every school night to get the grades needed to progress, I am only averagely smart but got all A's at gcse's and A levels through sheer slog. When others were buying fancy new build flats in trendies areas, I bought a do'er upper in a non trendy area and through working my way up the housing ladder DH and I now own a million pound home despite both only earning roughly national average salaries (nhs and council), despite both having a disability.

No one denies thats lots of people work hard for low salaries, but what choices did they make further back, did they study really hard, did they go without in their early days, make smart choices. Keep getting up and trying again when knocked back.

Being financially stable is part hard work, part smart choices/determination a bit of luck in terms of how academically able/talented someone is.

I know so many people who had really tough starts in life, loads of knock backs and through sheer slog and determination have become extremely sucessful, which maybe skews my views on what is luck and what is choice.

But then there are people like me, no real talent or abilities, not especially intelligent, what should we do? I have worked hard but I was never any good at anything, hence always being on a relatively low wage. Passed all my exams, went to college, gained more qualifications while in work, but there is nothing special or outstanding about me, just an average person No matter how hard I worked, no matter what extra training I did I never rose above a certain salary. Divorce, single parenthood, illness and signifcant trauma (I have a diagnosis of CPTSD ) have also impacted on my working life too but does this mean I am a less worthwhile human.? I have had to fight and struggle too, sometimes just to survive and my home is only worth £150k but it is mine and I paid for it by juggling several jobs while bringing up my child alone with no support from their father. Just because someone is poor it does not mean it is their fault.

WunTooThree · 05/07/2025 13:50

Gagcaa · 05/07/2025 13:34

I always told my kids if they didn't work hard at school they'd be stuck doing low paid jobs

I overheard someone tell their kid the same, and they pointed at me like I was a warning of their future. I was a cleaner.
I tried my best at school but I have only even been able to do low paid jobs. We need people to do them.

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 13:53

To those of you saying that you can only do low paid jobs, you do realise don’t you that most jobs in the UK are low paid? Wages are deliberately kept low in the UK as a way to control the everyone.

The only way to earn more than 50k in the UK unless you work in investment banking is to start your own business or be self employed as a sole trader.

MidnightPatrol · 05/07/2025 13:57

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 13:53

To those of you saying that you can only do low paid jobs, you do realise don’t you that most jobs in the UK are low paid? Wages are deliberately kept low in the UK as a way to control the everyone.

The only way to earn more than 50k in the UK unless you work in investment banking is to start your own business or be self employed as a sole trader.

There are plenty of jobs earning over £50k without being an investment banker or being self-employed (!).

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 13:59

@MidnightPatrolnot in the area that I live in! I’ve actually heard some people in my area describe £20k as a good salary!

Gagcaa · 05/07/2025 13:59

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 13:53

To those of you saying that you can only do low paid jobs, you do realise don’t you that most jobs in the UK are low paid? Wages are deliberately kept low in the UK as a way to control the everyone.

The only way to earn more than 50k in the UK unless you work in investment banking is to start your own business or be self employed as a sole trader.

There are numerous careers that after progression you can earn more than £50k. Doctors after they progress and specialise. Careers in consulting etc. My DH is high up at Deloitte (after many years of hard work) and earns around £130k.

You just gotta work your way up.

Boohoo76 · 05/07/2025 14:02

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 13:59

@MidnightPatrolnot in the area that I live in! I’ve actually heard some people in my area describe £20k as a good salary!

My brother is a teacher and earns more than £50k. He doesn’t live in an affluent area.

pennyHD · 05/07/2025 14:04

@Boohoo76he must be a headteacher or very senior then as I don’t know any teachers earning 40k let alone over 50k

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