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To bury him under the patio

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Sadmummy3 · 04/07/2025 07:30

I'm not actually going to bury DH under the patio (or maybe I will depending on poll results) but I'm tempted.
I can not cope with another night of broken sleep. He snores so loudly. You can hear him anywhere in the house. The kids hear him and I'm surprised that neighbours don't complain. We're semi detached so they must hear, even though our bed is as far away from connecting wall as possible.
I have to be fair. He's tried different snoring aids but they don't work. Sleep clinic have said it's sleep apnea and given him one of those machines but even that doesn't work properly ( he always removes it at some point in the night although he claims he doesn't remember doing so). So he will still wake me up at some point.
No family I can stay with and even booking in to a B&B won't work because we have a DS with additional needs and DH leaves early for work.
His work is so flexible. People actually do phone up in the morning and say they're taking holiday. Last night I asked if he would go in a bit later if I was awake in the night, not the whole day just an hour and a half so he could take DS to school and I could sleep a bit.
Last night he said I'll see, this morning it was no.
I can't sleep after I take DS to school as he's only there 90 minutes.
I'm so fed up. I feel ill all the time because I don't sleep properly. Even when DH gets home I can't nap as he struggles with DS on his own.
So I don't know. Perhaps I should bury him under the patio or is that unreasonable.

OP posts:
RentalWoesNotFun · 04/07/2025 21:31

He needs to do more to solve this problem.

I went to press that you are NOT unreasonable and dropped the phone and it showed I clicked you ARE unreasonable and I can’t change it sorry!!

cupfinalchaos · 04/07/2025 22:04

I feel your pain. My Dh snores at a monstrous decibel. If it wasn’t for the fact I have cochlear implants and can take them out at night so don’t hear anything, we’d be divorced.

Sunshineandoranges · 04/07/2025 22:36

Ah I have sleep apnoea and it can be hard keeping the mask on. I have settled on the nose pillows. What type of face fitting thing does he have? And he should definitely get back in touch with the sleep clinic. Unresolved apnea can result 8n serious health problems. I was not at all overweight when I first got my mask. Is he overweight ..sorry if you have already answered that.

Glenthebattleostrich · 05/07/2025 09:18

I genuinely wanted to murder my husband before his diagnosis of sleep apnea. I remember my parents coming to stay and me and my mum drinking tea on the patio at 3am and still able to hear him.

He tried a couple of masks and I'm happy to report he is still alive, the patio remains untouched!

He needs to get his mask sorted because if he does have an accident he will be held responsible because he is driving whilst aware there is a problem with his machine.

You need sleep and I'd actually be sending him back to his parents until he accepted this and got help. You can't go on like this.

Boredlass · 05/07/2025 09:20

Reduce his carbs. It’s inflammation. My DH doesn’t snore anymore after doing this and he was very bad

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