Non-binary teacher?

[Thompson198]

Name change.
I’ve got a 5 year old daughter due to go into year 2 in September. We’ve just been told that the teacher for next year is a non-binary/‘non-gender-conforming’ man who wants to be referred to by ‘Mx’ (pronounced mix) and they/them pronouns.
Quite a few of the parents have already complained and started looking for other places at local schools because of this.
what do you think?
My daughter has SEN and is one of the youngest in her class, I worry how she’s going to be able to keep up with the pronouns and understand this without us having to teach her about gender ideology at her age. My husband is extremely against teaching her gender ideology, especially so young, I’m not the most positive about it either but don’t feel as strongly as him. He also doesn’t want her being at the school in September but they have been very supportive for her so far and I’m concerned it might not be the same elsewhere.
Thoughts? How would you feel if this was your child’s teacher?

It’s not a reach given everything we’ve seen over the last decade of this hideous movement.

Any human adopting non binary status is being very clear what their beliefs are and very clear in showing how close to a fascist line they walk. It is not a benign situation, it is an ideology festering in misogyny, populated by people who uphold their factless belief system and trample on anyone who questions it. We’ve literally seen this happen over and over again. The threats towards anyone who questions it, the arrests and attacks of women, the harassment towards women from the very people you’re trying to say are harmless - we’ve literally lived this.

Humans evolved to be able to tell what sex someone is, even from the briefest of glances. We can do so to a very high degree. It's highly unlikely you'd be wrong in your assessment whether it's a flat chested woman or a man with fake boobs.

It’s based on documented experience of other such teachers’ influence in schools up and down the country.

Actually, the way you've described it as fab. The kids will have a blast and as long as the teacher embraces the general silliness, it will be a bonding moment.

I'd love a teacher that silly for my DC.

Once again, false equivalence.

I think non binary is bollocks and I have no time for it all, personally. But my first thought would be whether they're a good teacher. I wouldn't be looking at an alternative school. My SEN dd would find that change way more difficult to contend with than a non binary teacher. I might ask the school how they intend addressing it with the children, and I'd want reassurance that no agenda was going to be pushed. Learning to understand other people, and their beliefs, is just a part of life. We're not fans of religion in our house, but our approach is "some people believe in God, and we must respect that, even if we don't share that belief".

Infecting?????? LOL

Dropping spores, spreading germs. All very 28 days/weeks/months/years later.

You’re the type of person who risks their child’s safety in order to validate other adults.

The same reason Ms calls for an alternative.

I love this. We don't share a belief system but this is exactly my opinion about this matter.

A) ...also pearl clutching
B) I think it makes life very difficult if you'll only use the language of ideologies you agree with

Young children are learning hundreds of things a week at school. This only has to be a big deal if you make it one. I'd be much more concerned about whether this person was a good teacher, but each to their own I guess.

Bollix. 😂😂😂

I know gender ideologues like to draw this parallel, but it’s a false analogy.

Sexual preference is hard to determine objectively. Biological sex isn’t - it is a fact, immutable, regardless of how a person feels, acts or identifies. Teaching young children that if a person doesn’t identify with the old-fashioned stereotypes of how males and females "should" feel or behave then they aren’t male or female is truly regressive and perpetuates those stereotypes.

You’ve already stated that you are a teacher, parent and once a child who has no experience of schools acknowledging the sex of staff and putting relevant safeguarding policies in place.

other people don't represent this person. Lumping everyone into one group is never useful.

You never had sex education?
Lessons where all the girls and boys were separated and talked to about puberty, periods etc?

Schools still have PSHE (or whatever it is) where they sometimes learn about things that are boy related or girl related.

A teacher doesn’t need to bring up their sex, until 5 minutes ago the whole world and their dog knew what sex everyone was!

(Which reminds me of a story of a TW pissed of that his gf’s dog didn’t like him, and couldn’t understand why, because he was a woman and the dog didn’t like men - oh to be alive in a time where dogs can be transphobic 🙄)

Is this a serious question?

This is so so bizarre honestly. My DDs primary teacher is a male, using the pronouns Mr. Other white males have committed unspeakable acts of depravity towards children, does that mean he shouldn't be teaching children because of what other people in his demographic have done?

Never once has DD come home and said "by the way Mr X told me all about how masculinity influences his life choices and how it should affect mine".

Teachers are not routinely 'indoctrinating' primary school children with their own ideals.

Also no-one will have documented all the NB or trans teachers who have just got on with their job and not set out to influence anyone.

There's tons of examples of them doing just that. Of course, we don't know if this teacher is anything like that because he's new, but that's part of the OP's dilemma.

I have an autistic child myself and find they're typically very readily accepting of difference. I know all children are different and some might find it more confusing and hard to adapt to.

"Some people prefer to be called Mx instead of Mr or Ms or Mrs or Miss, and to be called "they" instead of "he" or "she""
Why?
"They just feel more comfortable and happy that way"

It doesn't have to be very complicated.

Honestly the idea people would actually be so outraged by this they'd actually pull their child out of school is hard to believe.

Absolutely. There will be a whole lesson indoctrination session on it, guaranteed. And consequences for anyone "getting it wrong"

Women started using Ms many decades ago, as I did, because it’s a way of not flagging up marital status, which was important in the days when it might affect one in many aspects of life and work. It was important to me because as a single mother, both Mrs and Miss seemed inappropriate. (Those were the days in which being a single parent was genuinely frowned upon.)
I was always called Mrs in school, though, which I accepted without fuss, because it was convention.

The lack of safeguarding knowledge here in order to appear “right on” is just staggering.

Males are the biggest risk.

Males. White males, brown males, gay males, straight males, religious males, atheist males, males who wear trousers, males who wear dresses, males who pretend to be women, males who are overtly masculine

Males

Men

commit 98% of sex crimes and 80% of violent crime.

Stop pretending some males are less of a risk than others.

Yes, but as you will know, not all autistic kids are the same. A while ago, an autistic boy was arrested and charged with a hate crime because he quite innocently asked a non-binary police officer if they were a man or a woman!

I personally wouldn't be pulling my child out, but it's not fair to say the OP has no valid concerns.